Party update

[Deleted]

Yay! I'm happy it was such a success. At your house.

[isabel]

I'm kind of laughing at the combination of "merry and forced." Sounds like it was as successful as could be expected.

[speckledfrog]

Are you new? What were the resentful words? Paint us a picture!

[pantsparty]

Yes, I need specifics on the resentful words!

[JayhawkGirl]

Did the guest of honor say that or one of the other guests?

And how did she handle the new homeowner having discarded her stuff?

[Deleted]

Ditto what Nic said, more info pls!

[cville]

Vague Suesue is vague.

[flex]

Jan 24, 2015 0:21:24 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I'm kind of pasted; more after a while.

Okay @cse1960!  Let's hear it!!!!

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

It is time to grab a drink.

[flex]

Go on...go on!

[JayhawkGirl]

Damn commercial break!!

[compassrose]

Jan 24, 2015 21:05:00 GMT -5 JayhawkGirl said:

Damn commercial break!!

It always goes to break right before the good stuff!

[gault]

If this is for who I think it is, I hope you put a tray on the kitchen table as a warning.

[jinkies]

Blue balls.

[WOT?*]

It's like the Super Bowl of commercial breaks.

So...continue please.

[jinkies]

Since we have time, here is the background thread: pandce.proboards.com/thread/410954/waiting-social-disaster-play-out

I thought we were talking about her MIL's birthday party for a minute till I saw her mention bob newowner.

Just want everyone up to speed when she returns.

[pantsparty]

Jan 24, 2015 22:21:31 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Jan 24, 2015 21:22:04 GMT -5 tators said:

Was there cake?

There was! delightful carrot cake. 

Not a cake.

[sparkythelawyer]

These people are weird with a capital WTF :-)

[zitiqueen]

Did she go to Bob/Ed's house to get her stuff back?

[aussiecrush]

I hope the guest of honor remembers how kind you are to her when she leaves this time but I also wish they'd all go away so you don't spend precious energy on these wackadoodles.

[Muddled]

Carrot cake is cake! Delicious delicious cake.

[sofamonkey]

Jan 24, 2015 22:27:31 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Jan 24, 2015 22:22:28 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

Not a cake.

well, it was cake like. 

BAHAHAHAHA!!  In my head, this said:

"Well, it was a cake of lies."

[pantsparty]

Jan 24, 2015 22:52:07 GMT -5 sofamonkey said:

Jan 24, 2015 22:27:31 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

well, it was cake like. 

BAHAHAHAHA!!  In my head, this said:

"Well, it was a cake of lies."

[ECB]

Jan 24, 2015 22:51:21 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Jan 24, 2015 22:46:18 GMT -5 zitiqueen said:

Did she go to Bob/Ed's house to get her stuff back?

Yep. Did that Thursday, and he did not let her take anything.  


She was furious that he had gotten rid of her clothes. I told her she was wrong about that; she said we would just have to agree to disagree. I agreed with that. 

lolololol. And lol that's she's leaving tomorrow. "Huh. People didn't circle around me and welcome me home with open arms!"

[snipsnsnails]

SueSue - are you making all or part of this up?

The whole thing sounds totally whack!!! Ha!

[Deleted]

I can totally see how this happened. Ed Bob came for Sue and her husband, I would assume. My friends do lots of in-fighting so I am familiar with this dynamic.

[WOT?*]

Just as I always suspected. @cse1960 has been catfishing us. All her witty responses, well-thought replies, mother-in-law stories have been to get us to this point. It's been the longest of long cons.  Bravo, Sue Sue.  Well played.

[snipsnsnails]

Jan 25, 2015 9:34:29 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Jan 25, 2015 6:51:45 GMT -5 snipsnsnails said:

SueSue - are you making all or part of this up?

The whole thing sounds totally whack!!! Ha!

sadly, no.  the whole situation has been really hard. I love my friends. These are all people I've known for a long, long time. I can understand everyone's position. GoH is clearly off the rails, and I've been hoping, really, that she is less off the rails than she actually is. But really, this week has made it clear that's not the case. 

I talked with her about her health, and got her to agree she should see a doctor and get a check up. I don't think she will go, but I had to push on this. she is far too thin, and made a big show about 'eating a lot' while she was here but she's not going to keep that up when she goes home. I got her to agree she should see a therapist, too, but I'm sure she won't do that either. 

she came, I think, to see if she could come home again, and found out she can't. My party was a misguided attempt to soften that blow, which I see now is not possilble. I don't think I'll see her again. 

Aw, I can understand this. It's one of those things that you almost wish were a bit of a sham, because it would make it easier to soften the blow of what is, in reality, a truly difficult situation in a lot of ways. Forgive my flippancy, friend.

I hope she finds support and guidance in all that she is looking for. It looks as if it is quite a bit. And even though it is her own doing, it is still a bitter pill to swallow for all to know that she is going to continue on that difficult journey to find it.

[noodle]

Sue Sue, I think you were incredibly kind to be there for her, and it is sad that your friend isn't taking care of herself, nor is she acknowledging the way her behavior is affecting her relationships.  Losing a friendship is hard, but it sounds like she isn't putting in the effort that you are.

[ECB]

While I did have moments of "why exactly are you having this party?", it's clear that you had good intentions and it was done from a good place. Just sounds like your friend has burned too many bridges and is in a place where she can't see/accept responsiblity for her role in all of this.