Poll: What would you have done with your kid?

[Deleted]

Yesterday, we had misotiny's party.  I thought it went pretty well.

A friend of mine never showed up.  I didn't look at (or hear) my phone the entire time.  When I got home and checked my phone, it had a series of texts and voicemails telling me that my friend's kid was still napping.  It was like a play-by-play.  Kid is about 20 months old.

Finally, at around 2:30, the last text said, "Kid is awake!  Can we still come?  Is 3 p.m. a hard stop?"  Kid napped for a total of three hours.

The party was from noon to 3.

If you had been in my friend's shoes, what would you have done?

And how do you feel about this situation generally?

[cleo29]

For me, if I knew I could not push my kid's nap back, I would have sent regrets from the start. But most likely I would have gone and maybe left a little early.

[lilafowler]

If she had known it was her kid's normal nap time she should have mentioned that when she RSVP'd.

I'm probably not the best to ask since my kid stopped napping at two and we STILL have to plan family gatherings around my 4 year old niece's nap time. Which is obnoxious as fuck.

[MrsAxilla]

Cut the nap short, or put the baby down earlier. But really, I only wish my kid would sleep from noon to 2:30!

[lilafowler]

Jan 25, 2015 14:50:06 GMT -5 mofongo said:

NAP CULTURE

I voted to cut the nap short and arrive a bit late.

Lololololol

[Deleted]

FWIW, I voted for the second option.

I think even an hour late would've been fine.

[emsumm]

Depends on the kid. Naomi sucks to wake up. She would have been cranky as hell. Then again, at that age, I would have declined knowing she'd be asleep. Exceptions were made for bff's kids. But my kid was annoying at the party, lol.

[5hole]

I vote "depends on the kid"

Some kids you just DO NOT wake from a nap. Ever. Or there will be hell to pay.

But, if she doesn't have THAT KID, then I vote "come on time and leave early/push nap back"

Young birthdays are hard, because kids around that age are all at different napping stages. The only time most kids are all awake is 7am and 5pm.

[Deleted]

Jan 25, 2015 14:49:48 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

For me, if I knew I could not push my kid's nap back, I would have sent regrets from the start. But most likely I would have gone and maybe left a little early.

RSVPing no from the start is totally acceptable and courteous. :Y:

I should've made that an option.

The option I have up there of not cutting the nap and not showing up was after having RSVPed yes.

[usuallylurking]

I would have never put the kid down at 11:30 and expect to make it. I would've left the house at 11, kid takes a car nap, partied, and planned on an early bedtime.

[bex1973]

I would have arrived on time and left early pushing nap time back.

[missyny]

I voted "completely different"

we put the kids  "an early nap" when stuff like this happens.  I would have tried for a nap from 11-Noon, then rolled with it.

If she knows her kid isn't capable of going with the flow without major breakdowns, i think she should have just told you up front.  Unless he wasn't feeling well.  that is a total different scenario, imo.  

She should have just declined.  she knew naptime was noon-3 and she wasn't going to move it.

[sparkythelawyer]

If this is usual nap time she should have rsvp'd no. If this was a weird bonus nap then I think there was nothing to be done on either of your ends. You didn't need to respond at 230.

[speckledfrog]

I would have cut nap and arrived late. FWIW, it would take a lot for me to miss a miso party!

[shamrockshake]

I would not have missed the party. I would have napped my kid earlier if possible (which is a lot of the times with my youngest two- they're pretty flexible nappers) or I would have cut the nap short and arrived within 1/2 hour of start time

[FloFTW]

My kids loved skipping naps at that age so we would have been on time then split if they were heading to meltdown.

But I've never had to split. They can keep going forever at a party then crash at home.

[aussiecrush]

For my oldest I wouldn't have said yes during a nap time, he was a jerk about sleep and at 6 is still hard to wake. My youngest we would have let you know we'd be a little late, or leaving early if he got cranky. No play by play, certainly not a no show.

[4speedy]

Depends on the kid. I have two kids. At 18 months, my DD would have just rolled with any change to her schedule and would have been quite the charmer at the party.

My son, on the other hand, only slept for 6 hours at night and two one hour naps during the day. If he slept for 3 hours, there is no way I would have woken him up for a party. If he needed sleep that badly, he would have been a monster and NOBODY would have enjoyed our presence at the party. But honestly, if the party was scheduled that close to DS's'so nap time, I would have RSVP'd by saying, "Please don't count us in your headcount for food, we'll be late so we'll just swing by for a quick visit after we eat at home."

[cville]

I'd have put my kid down for a nap early and woken him up early for the party. And if, knowing the time, I'd have known it was likely to clash with nap, I'd probably have given you a heads up days in advance that I might be a teeny bit late due to nap and made sure that was okay with you. If it absolutely wouldn't work, I'd have declined the invite.

I would not have tra la la texted you a play by play or asked to come after the party was over. RUDE.

[eddy]

At 20 mo I probably would have skipped. He needed the nap and wasn't a great waker upper.

Now we would just skip nap, but he is 2.5 and can handle it.

[eddy]

Or better yet I would have gone to the party solo and left H at home with napping kid.

[cville]

Jan 25, 2015 15:19:04 GMT -5 eddy said:

Or better yet I would have gone to the party solo and left H at home with napping kid.

Oh yeah. If there was booze at this party, I change my answer to this.

[thebreakfastclub]

My kid naps from 1-3 usually but he would have been excited at the party and likely able to delay it.

I would have planned to be at the party from 12-2 and then start his nap in the car on the way home, so it was more like 2-4.

[MixedBerryJam]

I might have put the baby down for her nap early, then cut the nap a little short. But if her naptime was noonish/early afternoonish in general, I wouldn't cut it so short that we'd miss 15-30 minutes. It'd be more like 1 hour+ late. I would have sent one text before the party started explaining this, and then showed up without any other texts.

[stellas]

1st kid, I would have come a little late or left a little early.

2nd kid, she'd go on time. I'd wake her up from a nap and force a good mood with potato chips, or she'd sleep on my shoulder, or she'd cry and I'd drink. Whatever.

[Gato]

Wow, a 3 hour nap!  Not a problem I have had in a long while.

I think a 2 hour nap is quite sufficient, so I would have gotten my kid up at 1:00 or 1:30.  I would also have let you know when I rsvp'd that we'd probably be a little late.

[CajunShrimp]

I would have adjusted my nap time appropriately so my kid would not be asleep for most of the party. I would have either skipped the nap and left a little early if he got cranky, or put him down for a quick power nap before hand.

[CajunShrimp]

And my 3 1/2 year old still takes a 3 hour nap in the afternoon, so I have lots of experience here.

[lulu13]

I would have gone to the party on time and skipped or moved the nap.

[lintscreen]

Cut the nap to 1.5 or 2 hours and come late. I don't like to mess with my kids nap times.