Post by rupertpenny on Jan 25, 2015 20:01:06 GMT -5
I had a shower two weeks before my due date. I ended up having an induction scheduled for the next day. ETA: The day after the shower, not the day after my due date.
It wasn't the end of the world, but it was annoying to have it so late. Especially since the host asked if that date would work for me, I expressed a preference for an earlier date because babies come early/wanted to get everything set up/etc., and she went ahead scheduled it for when I was 38 weeks anyway.
We're planning mine for 32 weeks. I wouldn't want to do it that close to the due date. While some people go late, some go early and you have no way of knowing which one you'll be. It isn't worth the stress of having to worry about it. It would also be so sad if they go to all the effort to plan a shower that you might end up missing.
I think it is too late. I wouldn't go past 36 weeks. Most likely it would be fine but 40 weeks is the average so some go before some go after so I personally wouldn't chance it. Now, I had my shower at 36 weeks with my DD, delivered at 42 weeks and my mom was hosting a :cough cough: sprinkle, despite my plea which was planned at 32 weeks. I didn't make that shower, lol.
I would rather have it early than too late. I am really looking forward to having them done at 32 weeks so we can finish the room, finish buying what we need, and then relax for awhile before the baby is here.
Probably not, because I already had a baby by that point. Lol.
Same here, both times.
With DD1, I was completely unprepared because my showers were scheduled for around 36 weeks and she was born the week prior. So with DD2, I had the nursery stocked and ready to go by 22 weeks - lol.
Post by starburst604 on Jan 25, 2015 20:56:33 GMT -5
This would really stress me out. By 38 weeks I hope to have everything assembled, washed and ready for arrival. At that point I'll be doing the final prep at work for my maternity leave (if all goes as planned) and just want to focus on that. I'm glad my sister is like-minded and planned my shower for when I'll be 34 weeks even though my mom was pushing for later because she's scared it will snow.
I wanted everything ready before 37 weeks with every single one of them. Nesting is real, I was going crazy. So, no, I wouldn't have been ok with that. I think I had mine at like 33 weeks.
Both of my girls were early (36 and 37 weeks). Had they not been early, it wouldn't have been a problem. We had just moved 2 weeks prior to DD1's sudden arrival and had nothing except what we got at our shower the week before. I don't think they really need much in the beginning, but I will admit, I hate "stuff" laying around that isn't necessary.
In hindsight, it would have been fine both times. My first was 2 days late, my second was 6 days early. With my first, I felt (& thought I looked) great right up until my water broke. With my second, I felt no worse at 38 weeks than I did at 20 weeks (I had pubic symphysis or something like that, I don't remember) and was happy with the way I looked and still loved being around people. I was born without the nesting gene and am a procrastinator, so I wasn't prepping much earlier than that anyway.
That said, I probably would have been nervous to have it that late. Unless there are extenuating circumstances or a REALLY good reason it can't happen before 38 weeks, you're definitely not a brat for requesting to have it earlier. (Actually, even IF there are good reasons, you're not being a brat as long as you request nicely.)
Do you have a reason to think the baby might come early? Most first babies (in an unremarkable pregnancy) come on time or late. I think you're getting pretty skewed results here, so don't let that scare you too much.
The nesting/putting stuff away is another story. You can't change that. If you're someone who likes stuff neat and tidy in the first place, you can probably count on a pretty serious case of nesting.
Do you know why both grandparents can't be there? Did they plan around a church ice cream social or pre-planned vacations where they'll be out of state? That would also affect my response.
If it ends up that they keep the date and your baby comes before the shower, it'll still be just as wonderful. You don't have to really worry about fitting it in, since you just need to show up. I'd make it clear that if baby comes before the shower, I'd need/expect help doing all of the extra laundry and putting things away. (You'll probably have more help with that stuff after baby is here. Before baby, you're on your own.)
All of the "I already had a baby by then!" responses are freakin' me out.
When the dr told me "it's time," at 37 weeks, I felt like I was on one of those I Didn't Know I was Pregnant shows. Straight up denial. Lol. Whatever happens, you'll be fine!
AR, I didn't nest at ALL, but I was glad I'd had mine early. It'would's unfortunate if a family member or 3 can't make it to an earlier date, but it's more critical that YOU make it!
Do you have a reason to think the baby might come early? Most first babies (in an unremarkable pregnancy) come on time or late. I think you're getting pretty skewed results here, so don't let that scare you too much
The biggest concern the OB has is that I was born 8 weeks early (apparently being a preemie increases my chances to delivering early) plus there is a history of pre-term labor in my family.
Also, even though I don't have it bad enough to be technically considered to have GD, I'm right on the cusp so that is also a risk factor.
Hopefully it's just an irrational fear, but it's something that my OB has brought up and told me to be aware of.
And something that I have mentioned to people before.
It's ok to say no. I don't think that makes you ungrateful.
Well my shower was 2 weeks before DS came, but I didn't know it at the time. It was planned for 4 weeks before my due date and a week before my shower my BP decided to skyrocket. I was on pelvic rest for my shower and ended up having DS two weeks early.
If it's the only weekend important family members can do it, then I think pick the date and try not to worry about it. But if you have some flexibility, I would plan it for a bit earlier than that because you never know what will happen in your last month of pregnancy.
I'm annoyed my coworkers are doing a shower for me at 37.5 weeks. There is no reason to wait so long!
I definitely would not want to attend a big shower at 38 weeks. Mine was at 29 weeks and it took me forever just to I package, wash, put away everything.
I think that since you are at the mercy of well meaning hosts I would just go along with it. I had my daughter wayyy early and the shower got screwed up. I was bummed about it at first, but you know what? When we had the shower she was 5 weeks old and it was the first chance I had to kind of eat and mingle as a human again since everyone wanted to hold the baby.plus, it was nice for out of town family to actually meet her. I am thinking it is one of those things you should probably be gracious about and go with the flow. But I'm obviously in the minority lol.
Based upon your update just go for it. More than likely you will just be a big ole whale like every other 38 week pregnant chick, but, knowing you are from not from the states and that date works for both sets of grandparents, ahh fuck it. You will be good!!!
That's too close... They didn't run the date by you first?
It's such a toss you to know when you'll deliver. My first was 5 days early. My second was 2 weeks early. Both my showers were around 32-34 ish weeks. I wanted to have everything in order and didn't want to have to mess with putting everything away, exchanging duplicates, etc.
I suppose you could ask them to move it to a date that your comfortable with or decline.
Based upon your update just go for it. More than likely you will just be a big ole whale like every other 38 week pregnant chick, but, knowing you are from not from the states and that date works for both sets of grandparents, ahh fuck it. You will be good!!!
These grandparents live in neighboring states, not overseas.
Nobody from my family is involved.
Gotcha. I still stand by my statement. I think you are stressing yourself out over something that really you don't have control over. And, if I know you ( not like that is creepy or anything :-#) I would assume if someone posted this you would say "suck it up Sally, nobody is required to give you a shower so be grateful! It will be all good, I promise!!