I, however, do have my own space. It is my dressing room. I light candles, zone out, do my makeup, play on my phone, whatever. I have a vanity and a comfy chair, a sink, bookshelves, etc.
I wouldn't actively kick DD or DH out of there, but I also don't roll out the red carpet for them. It's pretty clearly "my" space and there is nothing in there that either of them need.
Post by captainobvious on Jan 28, 2015 9:56:57 GMT -5
We intend to have a game room at some point, which I guess most would consider a "man cave," but I've already informed him my Steelers stuff is going in there and we'll have two TVs (at least) so we can both watch our games. So, it will really be more of a fanatic room.
No. We kinda laugh at them a little. I don't really understand the need for one, and I feel like they're weirdly passive-aggressive, like a "no girls allowed" sign.
You know what, though? I'd love if my H had his own space so I could just continuously throw all of his shit that he leaves laying around, through the door of that room. That would be totally worth a "no girls allowed" sign!
This is the main reason why my husband has a 'man cave'.
he has a man cave with a sports theme and I have a craft room where I go to cry and stamp paper and we also have a room with a bunch of shelves for our cat.
He had his own room and I had my own as well until we had a baby. We had to combine our get away rooms once the baby came so now it's not just a man cave.
I said yes. Our spare bedroom is an office, and that's where he plays computer games while snacking on beef jerky. The walls and furniture are all dark, so it actually looks cave-like.
Yes he does. To be clear, there are no signs preventing me from entering, it's just the room where all his tech shit is. He's extremely into computers and builds them etc. I can't have that crap all over the house and we don't have a garage.
Yes, sort of. We have a basement den with canister lighting where DH has set up the big tv and sound system. It has navy carpeting for the Yankees and NY Giants. It has morphed into an exercise room as well, he's taken the 'manly' stuff off the walls (sports pictures, old football helmet, bull horns, etc) since we're trying to sell, and the 7yr old tv is starting to lose some pixels; he doesn't use it much at this point because the tv irritates him. Having a man space is on our wish list when we do pick out a new home. Our realtor actually doesn't like how dark it is (we've used light paint, put bright pillows and blankets where we can, and got brighter lights), but we're hoping another man-cave person will want the house and like the dark space after all.
I don't see H's space as a "no girls allowed zone." I don't watch football so I'm happy that he and his friends will watch the Super Bowl out there...it's a win/win. But I'm not disallowed from entering I just don't want to hang out there. I'll be all cozy and warm in the house. IMO I have the better end of the deal.
Post by miniroller on Jan 28, 2015 11:39:11 GMT -5
Yes And I HATE!!!!, like have hated since we got the house, the term man-cave. Just because it's super sports-oriented, set up to be a theater at one end & a sports bar at the other, Does Not make it solely my 'H's Space'. Ugh!! That said, it's where he plays video games, & he spends much more time than me in the basement. (I can't focus reading w/ video game noise in the background.) Thus, the joke is on me- the basement has, indeed, turned into a man-cave
I would never use the term "man cave." He has all his art stuff up on the third floor. And his comics, and his boxes of unidentified crap that he can't seem to part with, and all the action figures, and basically everything that I don't want cluttering up the rest of the house. I could go up there, but it's so disorganized that it would make me weep, so I don't. That room is his business, and I'm glad it's not mine.
I use the spare bedroom for my chaise lounge and my red bookcases and my tiny desk.
He took over a corner of our bonus room / family room. And over time, he's decorated the room. Thankfully it's not a room that guests ever have a reason or need to walk through.
There's a love seat, large TV, shelf with his model cars, shelf with his hourglass collection (weird), and he has a desk in the corner with 2 computers. He likes to surf the internet and play games at the same time.
We also store all of our weights on a rack in this room, and it tends to be where we keep laundry that's been folded but not put away.
When/if we move, he'll probably have a similar setup in a future finished basement.
He has a storage unit. He will have his own designated room/office when we get a house, but mainly because he works from home a ton and his clutter grates me.
No, but I wish he did, so he could go watch football somewhere else, and like hi725 said, throw his shit he leaves all over the house for him to put away. Alas, we have a tiny house and no extra rooms.
Post by themysteriouswife on Jan 28, 2015 14:38:50 GMT -5
Only because we are living in a house that was fully furnished. He set our old living room up in the basement and called it the man cave. In reality it's a catch all cave.
I, however, do have my own space. It is my dressing room. I light candles, zone out, do my makeup, play on my phone, whatever. I have a vanity and a comfy chair, a sink, bookshelves, etc.
I wouldn't actively kick DD or DH out of there, but I also don't roll out the red carpet for them. It's pretty clearly "my" space and there is nothing in there that either of them need.
This sounds lovely. Do you have any pics?
This is the only one I can find at the moment. It was a bit of a mess because there was a whole bridal party at our house getting ready for a wedding. I am sitting at the vanity facing a mirror and behind me is the wall of hanging racks. Not pictured is the lingerie chest, open shelving for bags & shoes, comfy chair, etc.