Laughing aside - If she was married, meh, ok. In this position she has nothing to protect herself. Her boyfriend has to know that she's paying bills with her savings, and yet has done nothing. She's dreaming pie in the sky, and her BF is probably wondering when she's going to get her shit together.
Laughing aside - If she was married, meh, ok. In this position she has nothing to protect herself. Her boyfriend has to know that she's paying bills with her savings, and yet has done nothing. She's dreaming pie in the sky, and her BF is probably wondering when she's going to get her shit together.
Ten bucks says he's feeling bad about the idea of dumping his girlfriend while she's unemployed. This is a test and she done failed. I bet money she'll be gone the minute he thinks she has options. Or when he's fed up feeling sorry for her.
Granted, I am biased, as I work FT+ with two kids and I don't necessarily "have" to work. And maaaybe I don't value "domestic arts" enough; but her request honestly makes me sad. I mean, I guess it's one thing if you're married and come to this conclusion together for one spouse to be a SAH without kids, but quite another to arrive at this decision while unmarried and as the result of a failed career choice. It just seems so defeated, to me.
I always think I want to be a SAHW...then I remember that I wouldn't have a leg to stand on to justify not cleaning the litter box.
We can't afford it anyway, but really. Fuck litter box duty.
Wait, am I supposed to be in charge of the litter box just because I'm home? Because I've definitely only dealt with that if H is traveling!
Lol, idk, if it would fly in our house or not. It just strikes me as something I couldn't justify leaving for him if my job was to take care of the house all day while he was at work.
Wait, am I supposed to be in charge of the litter box just because I'm home? Because I've definitely only dealt with that if H is traveling!
Lol, idk, if it would fly in our house or not. It just strikes me as something I couldn't justify leaving for him if my job was to take care of the house all day while he was at work.
Gotcha! DH took over litter box duty when I was pregnant since the OB told us at our first visit I wasn't allowed to. I quietly never mentioned that I could take it back...
This girl will be pregnant within the next 12 months. That way, she "can't" work "because she has to take care of the baaaaayyyybbbbbbeeeee"
My friend totally married a girl that did that. When the first kid got old enough for pre-school and friend mentioned that they REALLY need some extra income "maybe you could get a part time job now that the kid is in school?" she was KU again 7 weeks later and "had no idea how it could have possibly happened."
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Jan 29, 2015 16:01:18 GMT -5
I would think if her BF was going to be at all amenable to this idea, he wouldn't insist that she pay her half of the bills now while he thinks she's only temporarily unemployed. Girl, don't even think about trying this. Step out of the workforce for half a second and see what happens when you try to step back in.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
Lol, idk, if it would fly in our house or not. It just strikes me as something I couldn't justify leaving for him if my job was to take care of the house all day while he was at work.
Gotcha! DH took over litter box duty when I was pregnant since the OB told us at our first visit I wasn't allowed to. I quietly never mentioned that I could take it back...
I haven't changed the litter since I hurt my back. It's heavy!
That said, it would really only work for me if we were filthy rich because I don't want to be responsible for cleaning and cooking. I do more of that now than I used to because my husband's job is more demanding and I have more time available than I used to. And it's terrible.
Plus, today both kids were at school and all I accomplished was a quick trip to costco and a nap. Domestic arts aren't really my thing. But if I could fill my day with pedicures and shopping and other things, while coordinating (paying) others to take care of house stuff, yeah. I could totally be a SAHW.
I always think I want to be a SAHW...then I remember that I wouldn't have a leg to stand on to justify not cleaning the litter box.
We can't afford it anyway, but really. Fuck litter box duty.
I won't lie. This is a huge part of why I make breakfast for H most days of the week.
He once said, "You know, you never clean the litter box. Could you start doing it some of the time?"
I was like, "Excuse me? While you're cleaning the litter box, I'm making your bacon and eggs and buttering your toast. Go fuck yourself."
Ok, the conversation was more civilized than that.
I get home before DH most days of the week, and the second I get in, I'll immediately do a load of laundry/dishes/vacuum/anything else. This way, DH walks in the door, and I can be like "Well, I already did x chore when I got home, so ... "
I made it abundantly clear to my husband that in light of the fact that he does not cook, run real errands, or manage the finances, rarely cleans, and leaves me with the bulk of the childcare that he is relegated to the hottest and smelliest jobs in the house. If he wants off litter box duty so badly he knows where the fucking mop and vacuum live.
I did something similar to this a few years ago when my mother died, but I don't feel bad about it at all. I HATED my job and the only person who hated it almost as much as I did was DH. He hated that I worked far more than him for half the salary and that both my boss and the demands on my time outside the office were insane. When my mom died and it was time for me to go back to the office the thought of returning to such a miserable work situation had me in tears and he told me to quit and we'd make it work. I put in my notice that afternoon and stayed home. I took care of our house and spent 2-3 days a week going to my dad's house and clearing out all my mother's things for my dad and changing things for him while he was hiding in the woods to make the house feel like his again. I looked for work and interviewed but was selective about what I applied for because I wanted to find something that was a better fit and less soul sucking. My MIL also go sick during that time so I was able to sit in the hospital with her and ferry her to all her appointments and run her errands while she recovered. I went back to work after about months and while I felt like crap about it at the time it was the best thing I could have done for my sanity.
I knew many women in my SW program as an undergrad that had no intention of working. It was an MRS degree to them. What I don't get are the ppl that drop 20k+ on a MSW only to not work. It is a versatile degree for sure but you need to know your limits and triggers. Working in DV was too hard on me. Hospice work is more in line with my personality.
I feel like this article is telling me to get off the internet and get my house clean
lol yes. I'm starting to feel sorry for my DH since I don't clean or make beautiful meals. Or make money. Or even watch my kids all that much since they're in school. He sure got the short end of the marriage stick.
I feel like this article is telling me to get off the internet and get my house clean
lol yes. I'm starting to feel sorry for my DH since I don't clean or make beautiful meals. Or make money. Or even watch my kids all that much since they're in school. He sure got the short end of the marriage stick.
Whatever you were on 1000 weeks of bed rest when you were pregnant. As far as I am concerned he STILL owes you.