Post by crazycakes on Jan 29, 2015 15:00:09 GMT -5
Yes, and I would volunteer as my "job". I was on the board of a local Conservancy before DD was born and really loved it, but it was just too much on top of a baby and working full time so I had to quit. I was the Fundraising Chair so organized all of their big events. It was fun, but also time consuming and could be really stressful. If we didn't need my paycheck I would love to dedicate myself to that again. So much more fulfilling than my day job.
Post by pantsparty on Jan 29, 2015 15:04:56 GMT -5
I think I'd like it for a couple of months. However, I need structure and productivity in my life to be happy. I also enjoy earning (and spending!) my own money, so it's not something I'd do long-term.
I have a friend who is a SAHW. Never worked a day in her life, her parents always supported her and now her H does. And I'm guessing her parents help them out, they live in a house that the parents own, etc.
I always want to ask her, what do you DO all day? But it's kind of rude so I don't, lol. I know she doesn't volunteer anywhere.
There is a poster here that I've wanted to ask the same question.
Post by pantsparty on Jan 29, 2015 15:07:35 GMT -5
I also don't like relying on anyone for money. I think I've posted here before, I once said to my H, "I could leave you anytime and be FINE!" Lololol. We weren't fighting and I didn't say it as a threat, more that I was proud that I am can take care of myself financially. It went over just as great as you can imagine!
No because I'd be expected to clean and cook which are not things I enjoy doing and I certainly don't want to do them and not get a paycheck.
Or you could get a cleaning lady. . I love to cook too, so doing more of that, in meals that don't focus around my kids eating preferences, would be great to me.
I would absolutely do it, and plan to once the kids are grown and at college. I've found hobbies that can keep me plenty busy, and when people ask/assume I'll go back to work (meaning not at my 2.5 hr/wk job I just started) when the kids are older I just laugh. That's when the real freedom starts. Kind of like retirement for a sahm.
I have a friend who is a SAHW. Never worked a day in her life, her parents always supported her and now her H does. And I'm guessing her parents help them out, they live in a house that the parents own, etc.
I always want to ask her, what do you DO all day? But it's kind of rude so I don't, lol. I know she doesn't volunteer anywhere.
There is a poster here that I've wanted to ask the same question.
I honestly don't know. The first year the kids were both in school, I hadn't yet gone back to work. That was the year I cooked all the things, kept up on the house and laundry, ran all the errands so our weekends were always free. It was really, really nice in a lot of ways. Now that I'm working pt again, it is nice to have some structure to my day, socialize with people, and feel productive outside of the house. It would be a tough call.
I really don't want it to come off as mean! I'm just curious and nosy, lol. I just wonder what nicbreeful does with her days since her parents pay all her bills and she doesn't have to work. And if she ever plans to work in the future.
And maybe she does volunteer or work somewhere, but I've somehow missed it? If so, disregard.
I have a friend that is a SAHW, and then don't plan on ever having kids. His job moves them around so much, that it just became pointless for her to keep looking for jobs each time. Her IG is my dream life. Lots of hot yoga, hiking, lunch with friends, shoe shopping, and amazing vacations. They never buy homes when the move either, so she doesn't even have to worry about "keeping" a house. I'm so jealous!
I have a friend that is a SAHW, and then don't plan on ever having kids. His job moves them around so much, that it just became pointless for her to keep looking for jobs each time. Her IG is my dream life. Lots of hot yoga, hiking, lunch with friends, and shoe shopping, and amazing vacations. They never buy homes when the move either, so she doesn't even have to worry about "keeping" a house. I'm so jealous!
This is the only part I don't understand. Unless you have lots of friends who are also SAHWs, who are these friends?
I have not worked in the last 2 1/2 years and I am bored as hell. I do go to school but it is 100% online and I can do it at my own pace and anywhere I want.
You can only go to lunch with people so many times, clean your house from top to bottom so many times and other random shit. I also find it very difficult to stay motivated and not park my ass on the couch when I do not have a set schedule or anywhere I have to be.
I have a friend that is a SAHW, and then don't plan on ever having kids. His job moves them around so much, that it just became pointless for her to keep looking for jobs each time. Her IG is my dream life. Lots of hot yoga, hiking, lunch with friends, and shoe shopping, and amazing vacations. They never buy homes when the move either, so she doesn't even have to worry about "keeping" a house. I'm so jealous!
This is the only part I don't understand. Unless you have lots of friends who are also SAHWs, who are these friends?
Probably all the other women that can take a 2pm hot yoga class!
I have a friend that is a SAHW, and then don't plan on ever having kids. His job moves them around so much, that it just became pointless for her to keep looking for jobs each time. Her IG is my dream life. Lots of hot yoga, hiking, lunch with friends, and shoe shopping, and amazing vacations. They never buy homes when the move either, so she doesn't even have to worry about "keeping" a house. I'm so jealous!
This is the only part I don't understand. Unless you have lots of friends who are also SAHWs, who are these friends?
Adding to that - she moves around so much, how does she keep making new friends to lunch with?
I have a friend that is a SAHW, and then don't plan on ever having kids. His job moves them around so much, that it just became pointless for her to keep looking for jobs each time. Her IG is my dream life. Lots of hot yoga, hiking, lunch with friends, and shoe shopping, and amazing vacations. They never buy homes when the move either, so she doesn't even have to worry about "keeping" a house. I'm so jealous!
This is the only part I don't understand. Unless you have lots of friends who are also SAHWs, who are these friends?
I have some friends that I have lunch with fairly regularly and they all work. Two of them own their own small businesses and have the flexibility to do it, and the others meet me for lunch during lunch breaks.
I was a SAHW for a few years after my dad died. I rarely stayed at home, though - my mom needed help, and my dad was my sister's babysitter, so I helped her out with that until my youngest nephew was in school. I got enough sleep, I volunteered with Meals on Wheels, I lost weight, we got less takeout because I had more time to cook, etc. Looking back, it was a weird time for me because we were all reeling from the loss of my dad. But the not working part was great.
In my case, I knew it wasn't permanent. Once my family stuff was a bit more stabilized, I went back to school and was able to make a career change. But I still don't work full time - since I freelance, my schedule is far from regular. It's a nice balance, though. It's so much nicer to do errands on weekdays than to go after work or on weekends. That alone is a big help as far as reducing day-to-day annoyances.
I am undecided. The allure of sleeping in as late as I want every day is strong. But I like going in to work every day. I am good at what I do and I get to interact with people I enjoy.
This is the only part I don't understand. Unless you have lots of friends who are also SAHWs, who are these friends?
I have some friends that I have lunch with fairly regularly and they all work. Two of them own their own small businesses and have the flexibility to do it, and the others meet me for lunch during lunch breaks.
I forget sometimes that other people don't eat lunch at their desks every day
SAHW is so glamorized omg. People, most of you couldn't handle the judgement!! The questions will drive you crazy.
What do you do all day? Don't you feel weird asking your H for money? You're a SAHW and you don't cook?
Why would a SAHW have to ask for money? I mean, if you already have a joint checking account, it's not like your name gets removed from the accounts and your cards get cut up when you quit.