This is not a question I would ever think to ask my pediatrician.
I don't really think it's an odd question for her pedi - she's concerned about her son & newborns health, she wants to know how enrolling in MDO/preschool might affect them both. If you don't ask your pedi who are you supposed to ask?
I don't think it is an odd question for her to ask her pedi, I just wouldn't, and in the exact same situation didn't, think to ask it. There are a lot of things that people here ask their pediatricians that I never would-- car seats, sleep, advice about baby-led weaning just to name a few.
It was really just a random statement of fact that nobody really cares about. I didn't mean for it to be part of the pile up.
I think you have a very interesting pediatrician and he and I would get along well. I wouldn't be up for the amount of work and planning to get to MDO. After the babies were born, I liked just bring at home with all of them.
What? I quite honestly live for my kids a lot and really enjoy being home with them, having them around etc. So I'm not discounting you entirely.
However, it's not a cake walk. Sometimes I like to only take one kid to Target. Sometimes I just like having one kid at home so I can relax. Sometimes I want to cook dinner without 2 kids on my leg trying to help. I don't have an H that's around a lot, so my kids go to daycare because I need 8 minutes alone too.
It's not an all or nothing thing and that's what rubs me the wrong way with SGs pedi. Parenting doesn't have to be one constant extreme. Just the way he phrased it bothers me (and my pedi is pretty crunchy, has 5 kids. He really pushes the family bonding but he'd also be the first to ship my kids to DC..because well..reality).
And I'll be honest. I quite like SG but she has an H backstory that lives on in GBCN history. I think we're all promoting MDO to save her sanity as well.
Dear Lord, I said I like being home with all of mine. You do what you need to do. I, personally, prefer being home with all my kids. It makes me happy. If you need to have time away, go for it.
Honestly, I gave you all a try because I would like to have a place to talk and possibly give a different opinion. At the moment, I feel like I am back in middle school with people who think it is amusing to make fun of people.
So, I homeschool, have 4 kids and need them to share rooms, am pro choice for others but not myself, and really do work with my kids to gain muscle control.
I can't even give an opinion on a pediatrician without coming back and seeing a ridiculous amount of posts making fun of me. Wow...
I wish I could know all the things my dad has said to patients that piss them off…I am sure it is a long list.
I don't know if I have a comment here except to say that a) I had to google MDO and b) I am going to have a 13 month-old at home with a NB, no daycare options because we can't afford it. I am sure we will live. That being said, my kid has been fairly sick with colds for 3-4 months and doesn't go to daycare…I am sure she would be equally sick if she went, so I don't know if I would make a decision based on that.
flgirl, I take no issue with your way of parenting and what works for you. However, it's all context. "I work on my children's core muscles" is a perfectly fine answer to certain questions, although if someone is looking for actual advice, something more specific would be better (ie, the kinds of exercises that you use to work on core muscles). However, if I remember that thread correctly, it had to do with late walkers. In that case, saying you work in core muscles just came off as smug and an implied belief that the delay in walking was due to a failure to parent the way you do.
It's about knowing your audience and all that jazz.