You all have been understandably critical about my ambiguous answer. I can take that criticism and try to be more concise. You could go over to MMM and look at the thread about MDO. Everything I have ever said is being joked about. Truly distasteful. Of course, if the things I have said about my parenting have gotten them that riled up, perhaps I have hit a nerve on a sensitivity about their own parenting...something to ponder during my next motn nursing session.
"Of course, if the things I have said about my parenting have gotten them that riled up, perhaps I have hit a nerve on a sensitivity about their own parenting.."
No, I don't think you've hit a nerve in how anyone else parents. I think the fact that you think that is what happened is an issue though
It is absolutely part of the issue. I am not bothered when people criticize home schoolers because I am absolutely confident in my family's choice. I should be able to say I am happy with my life choice and happy to be at home with my kids. If you are confident in your choices there wouldn't have been anyone "reading" anything into it.
Flgirl, you're not the butt of our jokes. You're just an ass
steelballsushi
This reply bothers me. I realize that these board allow us to be anonymous. It's so easy to be snarky, to be cruel, to call names. It's harder to be diplomatic, to stay on topic, to discuss the issues. If we were all in the same room, we'd have a fun, spirited discussion but I think we'd all be respectful and kind to each other in the long run.
If a stranger came upon this discussion and read the replies, what would they think? Would they think that that this is a welcoming place, where people can share?
I don't really think anything flgirl has said warrants the "ass" title. She just has "different" views about how she chooses to live (differnet in quotes because they are not that different.) Meanwhile this board is populated by people who can thrown down the ass card on the regular. Myself included. We talk about sensitive subjects. It's bound to happen.
Flgirl, you're not the butt of our jokes. You're just an ass
steelballsushi
This reply bothers me. I realize that these board allow us to be anonymous. It's so easy to be snarky, to be cruel, to call names. It's harder to be diplomatic, to stay on topic, to discuss the issues. If we were all in the same room, we'd have a fun, spirited discussion but I think we'd all be respectful and kind to each other in the long run.
If a stranger came upon this discussion and read the replies, what would they think? Would they think that that this is a welcoming place, where people can share?
(heart)
What the fuck kind of message board do you think this is? Go take your condescending horseshit elsewhere.
Damn. Are we supposed to be kinder and gentler now?
Look! A THOUSAND POINTS OF LIGHT, heifers.
(woodiedog, I'm really not trying to be nasty to you. I had to make it CEP somehow.)
We're supposed to be like the touch, the feel, of cotton.
Please don't forget the thread where the Obamas were talking about racism and she told us all there were not racial implications for being mistaken for " The help" because people have mistaken her for a retail employee as well. I have seriously been ignoring her ever since that.
I don't care who you are, expressing an opinion and then refusing to back it up with relevant information is cause for flaming. You don't get to come in and say "I believe XYZ, and I have reasons" and leave it at that, and then expect people to just deal.
If you don't want to risk flaming, there is the awesome option of not entering the discussion in the first place. Otherwise suck it up Buttercup.
I love you people, but jeez! If this place gets too sweet I'm gonna get diabetes.
Flgirl, you're not the butt of our jokes. You're just an ass
steelballsushi
This reply bothers me. I realize that these board allow us to be anonymous. It's so easy to be snarky, to be cruel, to call names. It's harder to be diplomatic, to stay on topic, to discuss the issues. If we were all in the same room, we'd have a fun, spirited discussion but I think we'd all be respectful and kind to each other in the long run.
If a stranger came upon this discussion and read the replies, what would they think? Would they think that that this is a welcoming place, where people can share?
(heart)
WRONG, as someone who just met up with sushi and 30 other people from this board a few days ago, if someone would have rolled up there with nonsense it would have been on and poppin
I don't care who you are, expressing an opinion and then refusing to back it up with relevant information is cause for flaming. You don't get to come in and say "I believe XYZ, and I have reasons" and leave it at that, and then expect people to just deal.
If you don't want to risk flaming, there is the awesome option of not entering the discussion in the first place. Otherwise suck it up Buttercup.
I love you people, but jeez! If this place gets too sweet I'm gonna get diabetes.
What the fuck kind of message board do you think this is? Go take your condescending horseshit elsewhere.
And yes, I would say that to your face. (kiss)
Pixy0stix: Thanks for letting me know. I will take your sage advice, since you are the moderator of this board. I appreciate your honesty.
This board has had its moments of community, support, grace, love, and kindness. Many people here have received hugs, prayers, thoughts, and care during their darkest times. I will remember those instances. Peace
"Of course, if the things I have said about my parenting have gotten them that riled up, perhaps I have hit a nerve on a sensitivity about their own parenting.."
No, I don't think you've hit a nerve in how anyone else parents. I think the fact that you think that is what happened is an issue though
It is absolutely part of the issue. I am not bothered when people criticize home schoolers because I am absolutely confident in my family's choice. I should be able to say I am happy with my life choice and happy to be at home with my kids. If you are confident in your choices there wouldn't have been anyone "reading" anything into it.
See...that is the kind of thing that makes you an ass. I can be 100% confident that I've made the right decision for my family, but people can still be assholes when it comes to discussing making a different choice. If a significant number of the people you are talking to are saying that the way you are presenting things sounds judgmental - then you saying, "see, no, if you were confident you wouldn't feel that way." MAKES YOU AN ASSHOLE. The correct approach is to reevaluate your presentation, and modulate accordingly.
And I have NO IDEA what you talked about on MMM. My kid isn't even old enough for school yet. I have no dog in that fight. But that line, the bolded line - that's just bullshit.
This reply bothers me. I realize that these board allow us to be anonymous. It's so easy to be snarky, to be cruel, to call names. It's harder to be diplomatic, to stay on topic, to discuss the issues. If we were all in the same room, we'd have a fun, spirited discussion but I think we'd all be respectful and kind to each other in the long run.
If a stranger came upon this discussion and read the replies, what would they think? Would they think that that this is a welcoming place, where people can share?
(heart)
What the fuck kind of message board do you think this is? Go take your condescending horseshit elsewhere.
And yes, I would say that to your face. (kiss)
Are people really all kumbaya in public like this???
Because if you act the ass in public, watch and see what my face will do. Stop playin.
What the fuck kind of message board do you think this is? Go take your condescending horseshit elsewhere.
And yes, I would say that to your face. (kiss)
Pixy0stix: Thanks for letting me know. I will take your sage advice, since you are the moderator of this board. I appreciate your honesty.
This board has had its moments of community, support, grace, love, and kindness. Many people here have received hugs, prayers, thoughts, and care during their darkest times. I will remember those instances. Peace
"Of course, if the things I have said about my parenting have gotten them that riled up, perhaps I have hit a nerve on a sensitivity about their own parenting.."
No, I don't think you've hit a nerve in how anyone else parents. I think the fact that you think that is what happened is an issue though
It is absolutely part of the issue. I am not bothered when people criticize home schoolers because I am absolutely confident in my family's choice. I should be able to say I am happy with my life choice and happy to be at home with my kids. If you are confident in your choices there wouldn't have been anyone "reading" anything into it.
Dude, no. You're doing the whole people thing wrong if you truly think this. Being confident in my own choice doesn't suddenly mean I have no opinions or thoughts on anything contrary to my choice. In fact, just the opposite.
Also, I'm a homeschool graduate so yeah, don't care. Being a homeschooler doesn't necessarily make up a hermit. Very few homeschoolers actually stay home all the damned time with their kids and in fact, find ways to escape their heathen ass children just to get some sanity.
Like being at home with your children =/= not leaving the house ever
Well, we are not voting for Jennifer Anistan, lol, so for my part, I just think there should be more than gut feelings involved in the vote, and I think folks just wanted clarity beyond gut feelings. I, for one, am pleased that the answer (from another source) is Benghazi!
Because I am the flavor of the week to jump on. I knew saying I wouldn't vote for HRC would get me accused of being prejudiced against women, etc. I have lurked long enough to know how it works. I think a gut feeling about someone is a great place to start with anyone not just a politician.
You aren't getting jumped on for saying you wouldn't vote for HRC. You are getting some heavy side eye because you said you wouldn't for reeaaaaaaaasons. Thread thin, ambiguous reasons that make no kind of sense.
And you clearly didn't lurk long enough because not only do you say asinine shit, you don't give the full story, you dodge opportunities to clarify your position, and then you pull some shitty mommy and/or martyr cards to justify why you can't truly engage.
Because I am the flavor of the week to jump on. I knew saying I wouldn't vote for HRC would get me accused of being prejudiced against women, etc. I have lurked long enough to know how it works. I think a gut feeling about someone is a great place to start with anyone not just a politician.
You aren't getting jumped on for saying you wouldn't vote for HRC. You are getting some heavy side eye because you said you wouldn't for reeaaaaaaaasons. Thread thin, ambiguous reasons that make no kind of sense.
And you clearly didn't lurk long enough because not only do you say asinine shit, you don't give the full story, you dodge opportunities to clarify your position, and then you pull some shitty mommy and/or martyr cards to justify why you can't truly engage.
I did justify it. Sometimes I am answering when I am laying in bed nursing and was being too brief. If you look I did answer who annoys me. I can't explain a gut instinct.
It is absolutely part of the issue. I am not bothered when people criticize home schoolers because I am absolutely confident in my family's choice. I should be able to say I am happy with my life choice and happy to be at home with my kids. If you are confident in your choices there wouldn't have been anyone "reading" anything into it.
See...that is the kind of thing that makes you an ass. I can be 100% confident that I've made the right decision for my family, but people can still be assholes when it comes to discussing making a different choice. If a significant number of the people you are talking to are saying that the way you are presenting things sounds judgmental - then you saying, "see, no, if you were confident you wouldn't feel that way." MAKES YOU AN ASSHOLE. The correct approach is to reevaluate your presentation, and modulate accordingly.
And I have NO IDEA what you talked about on MMM. My kid isn't even old enough for school yet. I have no dog in that fight. But that line, the bolded line - that's just bullshit.
I actually gave my op union and it ended up being the way the OP decided to go with. I was in the minority saying I wouldn't send my kids to daycare after a new baby was born. That was taken as me saying all the other posters were wrong. I just felt someone needed to give the opposite opinion so the OP didn't think she was alone.
You aren't getting jumped on for saying you wouldn't vote for HRC. You are getting some heavy side eye because you said you wouldn't for reeaaaaaaaasons. Thread thin, ambiguous reasons that make no kind of sense.
And you clearly didn't lurk long enough because not only do you say asinine shit, you don't give the full story, you dodge opportunities to clarify your position, and then you pull some shitty mommy and/or martyr cards to justify why you can't truly engage.
I did justify it. Sometimes I am answering when I am laying in bed nursing and was being too brief. If you look I did answer who annoys me. I can't explain a gut instinct.
This board has had its moments of community, support, grace, love, and kindness. Many people here have received hugs, prayers, thoughts, and care during their darkest times. I will remember those instances. Peace
I can't WAIT to hear Pixy's reply. It's gonna make my morning.
I read it and rolled my eyes. She's fixin' to crawl up on the cross while polishing her halo and blessing us all with her forgiveness. The only reason someone does that shit up there is that they think they can get your goat by "taking the high road".
See...that is the kind of thing that makes you an ass. I can be 100% confident that I've made the right decision for my family, but people can still be assholes when it comes to discussing making a different choice. If a significant number of the people you are talking to are saying that the way you are presenting things sounds judgmental - then you saying, "see, no, if you were confident you wouldn't feel that way." MAKES YOU AN ASSHOLE. The correct approach is to reevaluate your presentation, and modulate accordingly.
And I have NO IDEA what you talked about on MMM. My kid isn't even old enough for school yet. I have no dog in that fight. But that line, the bolded line - that's just bullshit.
I actually gave my op union and it ended up being the way the OP decided to go with. I was in the minority saying I wouldn't send my kids to daycare after a new baby was born. That was taken as me saying all the other posters were wrong. I just felt someone needed to give the opposite opinion so the OP didn't think she was alone.
I read the thread. Mother's Day Out isn't daycare for starters. Secondly, you were all, I'd rather hang out with my baby as if the people who do go to MDO (or send their child to daycare apparently) don't want to "hang out with their baby."
See...that is the kind of thing that makes you an ass. I can be 100% confident that I've made the right decision for my family, but people can still be assholes when it comes to discussing making a different choice. If a significant number of the people you are talking to are saying that the way you are presenting things sounds judgmental - then you saying, "see, no, if you were confident you wouldn't feel that way." MAKES YOU AN ASSHOLE. The correct approach is to reevaluate your presentation, and modulate accordingly.
And I have NO IDEA what you talked about on MMM. My kid isn't even old enough for school yet. I have no dog in that fight. But that line, the bolded line - that's just bullshit.
I actually gave my op union and it ended up being the way the OP decided to go with. I was in the minority saying I wouldn't send my kids to daycare after a new baby was born. That was taken as me saying all the other posters were wrong. I just felt someone needed to give the opposite opinion so the OP didn't think she was alone.
I read the thread. Mother's Day Out isn't daycare for starters. Secondly, you were all, I'd rather hang out with my baby as if the people who do go to MDO (or send their child to daycare apparently) don't want to "hang out with their baby."
I don't really think anything flgirl has said warrants the "ass" title. She just has "different" views about how she chooses to live (differnet in quotes because they are not that different.) Meanwhile this board is populated by people who can thrown down the ass card on the regular. Myself included. We talk about sensitive subjects. It's bound to happen.
You aren't getting jumped on for saying you wouldn't vote for HRC. You are getting some heavy side eye because you said you wouldn't for reeaaaaaaaasons. Thread thin, ambiguous reasons that make no kind of sense.
And you clearly didn't lurk long enough because not only do you say asinine shit, you don't give the full story, you dodge opportunities to clarify your position, and then you pull some shitty mommy and/or martyr cards to justify why you can't truly engage.
I did justify it. Sometimes I am answering when I am laying in bed nursing and was being too brief. If you look I did answer who annoys me. I can't explain a gut instinct.