That's why I love vacation w/ family or even sleeping at my parents occasionally. No rushing back for the baby sitter, we can stay out late and they'll take care of the kids. Then in the AM, we're all there and they still have grandparents to distract them! win win. If we had a guest room, I'd have my mom stay over all the time!
DH wants a house with an inlaws suite. Not a joke.
Post by justbecause on Feb 26, 2015 10:34:02 GMT -5
Yeah. I think DH suffers from "the grass is always greener" when it comes to living different places. He also hates to travel so I don't get it. I think he also discounts that people could have been doing a lot, living a lot of other places, travel etc between born and death. Plus, people set down roots, become part of a community, have family, etc. We are both in the same area where we grew up, so I'm sure it's something to do with wanting to move but not wanting to move.
The last time we had an overnight away, ds2 was conceived so...,yeah. I get that being away is tough with younger kids.
Oh! I still hate living here, but we will probably be here for a while. My kids are established here and they have friends and activities and lives. If I had it my way we would have been gone a long time ago.
I love kid free weekends, or even just a night. And not afraid to admit it. If we go OOT I miss them more than if they were just here in town at grandma's house. But 3 kids under 5 will do that to a person, as many of you know.
That's why I love vacation w/ family or even sleeping at my parents occasionally. No rushing back for the baby sitter, we can stay out late and they'll take care of the kids. Then in the AM, we're all there and they still have grandparents to distract them! win win. If we had a guest room, I'd have my mom stay over all the time!
DH wants a house with an inlaws suite. Not a joke.
My MIL lives across the street. Best of both worlds. We are always looking for real estate with room for one or both of our moms someday.
That's why I love vacation w/ family or even sleeping at my parents occasionally. No rushing back for the baby sitter, we can stay out late and they'll take care of the kids. Then in the AM, we're all there and they still have grandparents to distract them! win win. If we had a guest room, I'd have my mom stay over all the time!
DH wants a house with an inlaws suite. Not a joke.
So, do I. I've said it before, but we grew up next door to my maternal grandparents and I loved it. I miss it so much. I am trying to convince DH to move so that we have an above garage apartment or carriage house for them. It's a tough sell.
DH wants a house with an inlaws suite. Not a joke.
So, do I. I've said it before, but we grew up next door to my maternal grandparents and I loved it. I miss it so much. I am trying to convince DH to move so that we have an above garage apartment or carriage house for them. It's a tough sell.Â
I grew up in a multigenerational household and so jealous of my mom. She always had my grandparents around to help with us. I spend one night a week at my parents. They take care of DS and I go out! They love it and I don't need to rush home. We (my parents, DH and me) are all onboard for a house with inlaw cottage. It will probably happen within a year or two.
Post by Kcthepouchh8r on Feb 26, 2015 10:52:31 GMT -5
I love my parents, they love the kids and watch them overnight 2-4 times a month on Friday night....but nope to them living with us/across the street. Nope nope nope.
Post by andrewsgal on Feb 26, 2015 10:53:52 GMT -5
I am leaving for 8 glorious days next Friday and can't wait. Sure I will miss the kids but they will be fine. Maybe my confession us DH and I do use this time to reconnect. He travels so much and we have had bad luck with date nights it will be wonderful for our marriage. I love just spending time with him and being catered to. We would be fine without it but are better with it.
Post by mamaalysson on Feb 26, 2015 10:57:46 GMT -5
My parents are 10 minutes away, and that is perfect. My mom and I are super close, and I love her to pieces, but it is a very good things we no longer live together. We are just too similar. And my dad needs his own space. But 10 minutes away is perfect. We see them all the time, they feed us dinner once a week, and the kids are super comfortable staying the night there.
I love having a night or two away from the kids, but I hate the idea of vacationing without them. I also would get too anxious being more than an hour or two drive away from them. DH is going to Brazil in June, and we tried to figure out a way to make it a fun and romantic vacation for the two of us, but the truth of the matter is I just do not feel okay being that far away from our still very young kids.
As much as I would love to live next door or even just super close to my parents, I have totally been giving the side-eye to my MLM make up selling friend who has been living w/ her ILS for almost 2.5 years. Supposedly it was to save money for a downpayment…
I guess there's a difference between choosing it & not being a burden to each other and then what they're doing.
I am leaving for 8 glorious days next Friday and can't wait. Sure I will miss the kids but they will be fine. Maybe my confession us DH and I do use this time to reconnect. He travels so much and we have had bad luck with date nights it will be wonderful for our marriage. I love just spending time with him and being catered to. We would be fine without it but are better with it.
I think if DH's job was much more demanding & he traveled, I might feel different. Reality is he's home before dinner 97% of the time and travels maybe once a year, if that.
I am leaving for 8 glorious days next Friday and can't wait. Sure I will miss the kids but they will be fine. Maybe my confession us DH and I do use this time to reconnect. He travels so much and we have had bad luck with date nights it will be wonderful for our marriage. I love just spending time with him and being catered to. We would be fine without it but are better with it.
I think if DH's job was much more demanding & he traveled, I might feel different. Reality is he's home before dinner 97% of the time and travels maybe once a year, if that.
I think if DH's job was much more demanding & he traveled, I might feel different. Reality is he's home before dinner 97% of the time and travels maybe once a year, if that.
Agreed.
This year has been so much more demanding of DH's time, and he is traveling way more than ever before...maybe this is my UO, but I need alone time more than I need couple time when he gets home. I mean, we need the couple time, and we have definitely recommitted to date nights and tech free nights, but I would take a night alone over a night alone with my hubby at the end of a long string of traveling a working late. That sounds terrible, but if I am touched out and cranky, I am not going to be good company.
Post by thecheshirekat on Feb 26, 2015 11:10:51 GMT -5
I still don't think Hav was real. Like, she and Hadley may have been real people, but I still don't think the persona she projected was in any way genuine.
I still don't think Hav was real. Like, she and Hadley may have been real people, but I still don't think the persona she projected was in any way genuine.
Oh I disagree. There are a lot of people in this country that are just like her. Â
It's scary. But with Hav I feel like she learned a lot from the board and made some positive changes in her life.
I still don't think Hav was real. Like, she and Hadley may have been real people, but I still don't think the persona she projected was in any way genuine.
Oh I disagree. There are a lot of people in this country that are just like her.
I don't doubt that there are. I just don't think that's who SHE was. I always got the sense that she was playing a part and got a kick out of the attention.
This year has been so much more demanding of DH's time, and he is traveling way more than ever before...maybe this is my UO, but I need alone time more than I need couple time when he gets home. I mean, we need the couple time, and we have definitely recommitted to date nights and tech free nights, but I would take a night alone over a night alone with my hubby at the end of a long string of traveling a working late. That sounds terrible, but if I am touched out and cranky, I am not going to be good company.
I agree. Honestly a lot of our trip is sitting side by side lost in a good book.
I am leaving for 8 glorious days next Friday and can't wait. Sure I will miss the kids but they will be fine. Maybe my confession us DH and I do use this time to reconnect. He travels so much and we have had bad luck with date nights it will be wonderful for our marriage. I love just spending time with him and being catered to. We would be fine without it but are better with it.
I think if DH's job was much more demanding & he traveled, I might feel different. Reality is he's home before dinner 97% of the time and travels maybe once a year, if that.
I think that is a lot of it there is a good chance she we get back he will be overseas for a month. It's fucking hard on parenting and A marriage. It's also why we go on family vacations every year he misses the kids a lot.
This year has been so much more demanding of DH's time, and he is traveling way more than ever before...maybe this is my UO, but I need alone time more than I need couple time when he gets home. I mean, we need the couple time, and we have definitely recommitted to date nights and tech free nights, but I would take a night alone over a night alone with my hubby at the end of a long string of traveling a working late. That sounds terrible, but if I am touched out and cranky, I am not going to be good company.
I agree. Honestly a lot of our trip is sitting side by side lost in a good book.
Post by lattelady5 on Feb 26, 2015 11:26:27 GMT -5
I've only ever been away from DD when I was in the hospital birthing DS. We're planning an overnight in a couple of months and will leave her with my aunt and uncle. DS is still BF, sleeps with us and will be joining us on the overnight. Maybe that should go in tomorrows confession thread. I'm still looking forward to a night out of town and with only one kid haha
This year has been so much more demanding of DH's time, and he is traveling way more than ever before...maybe this is my UO, but I need alone time more than I need couple time when he gets home. I mean, we need the couple time, and we have definitely recommitted to date nights and tech free nights, but I would take a night alone over a night alone with my hubby at the end of a long string of traveling a working late. That sounds terrible, but if I am touched out and cranky, I am not going to be good company.
I agree. Honestly a lot of our trip is sitting side by side lost in a good book.
If we do take trip this year w/o them, this is what is most appealing to me and probably him, too.
I agree...but there's something about staying at a hotel, smuggling champagne into the hot tub and sleeping in.
So here is our issue -- on the rare occasion we do it, we usually end up going out hard core, and then you just have that restless, dehydrated, hangover sleep. Also, I get this weird "OMG we have to go pick you the kids RIGHT NOW" anxiety when I wake up.
I'm not anti-overnight because OMG you are leaving your poor baby or anything, I just like my kids there when i wake up in the morning.
I have weird anxiety when we're not all under the same roof (school, work notwithstanding). Maybe a FFC? Like when I had to go get fluids and a breathing treatment when I had that flu, H took the kids to a friends house and it felt so weird to come home and have them gone. I kept sort of panicking like "where the F are the kids!?" I couldn't rest because I was so anxious.
I always think I want to live somewhere with real seasons. It's snowing again and I am like nope.
I have ALWAYS said I could never live in Texas but after this winter it is looking awwwwwfully good. It snowed again last night. I could freaking cry.
As bad as this winter had been I couldn't do seasons consisting of hot/hotter. I love springtime and fall 50/60 degree temps 5-6 months out of the year.
Post by penguingrrl on Feb 26, 2015 11:31:46 GMT -5
If I had to choose between lots of snow and below 0 weather for a month straight or 100+ for two months then snow would absolutely win, hands down. I find it easier and more comfortable to leave the house in 0 than 90. You can easily put more clothing on, there's only so much you can take off!
Although after this winter the Pacific NW is looking really attractive. Basically anything from San Francisco to Vancouver sounds ideal to me! Too bad it's so far from family...