And I just want to say...I've always know that our online community is real, and special. But y'all (and my DH) are the only ones I can totally open up to, and share my brutal and honest feelings. Having some place I can totally spill my grief. That is what is saving me right now. Thanks to all of you.
I wish I had words to offer. I don't, so I'll leave e-hugs and send up more prayers.
Post by anastasia517 on Feb 27, 2015 14:44:55 GMT -5
Sending many hugs and good thoughts your way. If you need to step out of the party, step out. People will understand. Whatever you & your family need to do to cope with it all is the right thing to do.
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I'm so sorry. Is there a way someone you're really comfortable with can get out the word to the other party guests that you want to take the lead with friends as far as talking about Bernadette's passing and how your grieving process goes? I hope the party goes well, and Marisa has a great time. Thinking about you all. I cannot imagine how hard this is.
That's what I was thinking. Someone could easily let guests know that you are not feeling up to talking about it at the party.
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So many hugs. I hope the party goes as well as possible.
Your daughter has a lot of character and grace for her age.
This. It must have been hard for you to hear, and hard for her to say out loud. You guys are such good parents for her to know that she doesn't have to keep that inside.
Post by jordancatalano4ever on Feb 27, 2015 19:36:22 GMT -5
I haven't said much yet because I feel like my words are empty considering I'm mostly a lurker but I'm so sorry. You've been in my thoughts and I'm praying god will give you some semblance of peace this weekend.
I don't think it ever gets easier, but it gets livable. You'll never forget or completely heal, but you learn how to live. I am not sure this is making any kind of sense, but I only offer experience. No two losses are the same, but know you are not alone and don't let yourself be isolated. You have a lot of love and prayers coming to you...I hope you feel that. Don't ever feel the need to not talk about it. True friends will let you, as long as needed and forever if that is the case.
The party was actually really wonderful. I got some hugs but no comments--it's like everyone got that it was for Marisa, you know? And all 4 of us roller skated together. For almost 2 hours, I felt normal...some brief thoughts/missing her, but lots of laughter and fun. Maybe I need to take up skating. And being home would've ended up with me remembering where I was a week ago, holding her for the first and last time.