Post by greencrayon on Mar 1, 2015 18:26:25 GMT -5
He thinks he should pay exactly half of whatever her expenses are that month. He doesn't think the money should go to me. He thinks we should pay equal amounts into into a separate account and use that for all her needs. Is this legal?
ETA: Ok I've called three lawyers and left messages. I am hoping to hear back from one of them soon
I got in writing an agreement about separation of finances in all aspects but child support that I will give to my lawyer.
I know nothing about how child support is collected but I wouldn't agree to anything verbally, in text messages or email. Let your lawyer and the courts determine those things.
Post by polarbearfans on Mar 1, 2015 18:32:37 GMT -5
That seems complicated. Part of her expenses are housing and utilities. How are you going to calculate food? Sounds like he is trying to get out of paying a fair share for the care of the child
Lol. It doesn't matter what he wants. Most states have a salary calculator. And things like rent are part of your expenses for your child. And I'm going to guess that your stbxh isn't going to understand that.
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Post by greencrayon on Mar 1, 2015 19:18:53 GMT -5
I'm going to be living off my savings and loans, but he thinks I need to contribute the exact amount he pays into the fund. I don't know where he thinks the money will be coming from.
Sorry I clicked on the wrong board and stumbled upon this post.
However. NOPE. He doesn't get to decide if he wants to pay or not, that's not how this all works. Get yourself a lawyer and don't contact him anymore. There's no arguing with stupid.
Post by starburst604 on Mar 1, 2015 19:34:35 GMT -5
I don't WANT to pay taxes either but it's not up to me. Child support is entirely not up to him. The court will rule on that , so don't even engage in this conversation with him.
Also agree on getting a lawyer. Most CS is determined by a calculator in the court based on how much time you each have with the child.
I've done that. I've shown it to him. I printed it out and gave him a copy. Nope.
What do you mean nope? I thought the courts determine child support, he can't just say nope, just like I can't say nope to paying my rent every month. What does your lawyer say? Let the lawyers handle everything.
I've done that. I've shown it to him. I printed it out and gave him a copy. Nope.
What do you mean nope? I thought the courts determine child support, he can't just say nope, just like I can't say nope to paying my rent every month. What does your lawyer say? Let the lawyers handle everything.
I havent gotten a lawyer yet. I'm super crazy busy for the next 6 weeks.
What do you mean nope? I thought the courts determine child support, he can't just say nope, just like I can't say nope to paying my rent every month. What does your lawyer say? Let the lawyers handle everything.
I havent gotten a lawyer yet. I'm super crazy busy for the next 6 weeks.
I don't know what state you're in, but for me finding a lawyer took all of 5 min and 2 emails.
I looked up the bar association as someone recommended on here and then contacted them who asked me a few questions and then gave me a lawyer.
Not to be snarky, but you have time to post on here so I'm sure you could take a few minutes to email a lawyer and get the ball rolling!
Yeah, my XH doesn't want to either. But luckily the courts feel differently. Agreeing to 50/50 sounds like a complete nightmare. First of all, some things would be very difficult to calculate - rent, gas, food, etc. Second - do you want to save a bunch of receipts every month for your XH? Third - I can see this getting really out of hand. It gives him way more say in what you're spending. If you decide to buy an expensive pair of shoes, or get braces, or sign up for a sport, is he going to pony up half or insist that you pick a cheaper alternative?
Most places agree based on a formula for expenses, who has more parenting time, and the income of both parents. If you're making way less than him, he'll likely be responsible for more than 50%.
I will be making zero, and he will be making way more than zero. Lol.
Post by wesleycrusher4ever on Mar 1, 2015 21:43:55 GMT -5
If you're in the states, go to child support enforcement. Their offices are usually at Social Services. You fill out an application and they will take him to court and start taking the support out of his check. In NC you only pay a $25 application fee.
If you're in the states, go to child support enforcement. Their offices are usually at Social Services. You fill out an application and they will take him to court and start taking the support out of his check. In NC you only pay a $25 application fee.
Do you know if I have to file for separation first? I haven't done that.
I know I sound like an idiot, but I'm just really busy. Really really really busy... I have two journal articles and a thesis to write, a baby to raise and a house to put up on the market!
If you're in the states, go to child support enforcement. Their offices are usually at Social Services. You fill out an application and they will take him to court and start taking the support out of his check. In NC you only pay a $25 application fee.
Reading fail. They haven't negotiated it yet.
Did you have a comprehension failure? Because I clearly didn't. No negotiation is needed. Child support enforcement does that for them.
If you're in the states, go to child support enforcement. Their offices are usually at Social Services. You fill out an application and they will take him to court and start taking the support out of his check. In NC you only pay a $25 application fee.
Do you know if I have to file for separation first? I haven't done that.
I know I sound like an idiot, but I'm just really busy. Really really really busy... I have two journal articles and a thesis to write, a baby to raise and a house to put up on the market!
Do you know if I have to file for separation first? I haven't done that.
I know I sound like an idiot, but I'm just really busy. Really really really busy... I have two journal articles and a thesis to write, a baby to raise and a house to put up on the market!
Nope, it doesn't matter.
I don't understand, how can you request child support when they are still legally married?