Go back to another meetup and try again. I'll bet you'll find another Mom or two who you click with. I know for me, the people I end up liking most are not the ones who I originally thought I would. Don't let one rude person get you down, you can do it!
I'm sorry I'm sometimes an overtalker/interrupter. I work really hard at reigning it in, and if someone made comments in front of a group about me like that I'd be really embarrassed. That being said, try not to let it bother you.
I've never had much luck with moms groups either. It took my kids starting preschool for me to meet other moms I enjoyed hanging out with. Now that my oldest is in in 1st grade, we've really developed more friendships.
No one says that unless they are a complete asshole. I'm sure there were many women who were silently judging HER. Don't let her ruin the whole experience for you.
I hate her. You are so awesome to talk to because it DOESN'T make it awkward and it is easy. When I met you, it was like talking to an old friend because you weren't one for leaving awkward pauses and "so um.." or "so uh.."
Right?? This is how I feel! lol. I'm happy being chatty. Fuck her.
What did the other moms do? I would be so uncomfortable if someone new to a group was treated so rudely.
awwww hugs orangeglow. my feelings would be hurt too. but she is a an asshole and you don't want to be friends with her. move on.
fwiw, I love talkative people because I'm shy at first and they'll help me break the ice. then compete with me in conversations later when I get comfortable and talk too much.
I really wouldn't take her opinion to be the mass opinion, but I guess I wouldn't want to hang around if I felt uncomfortable Hopefully you can find a group to better connect with soon!
Whatta bitch. I always wonder what goes through someone's mind before/after they say shit like this. Like, do they have an inner monologue that says 'hey. Idiot. You shouldn't say things like that'.
I'm in a mom's group and none of our members would ever dream of saying something like that. She's a bitch and I don't blame you for leaving early. Most of the moms in our group had to try a few groups before finding the right fit. Don't let it deter you. Finding a good supportive group is so worth the effort.
Thank you so much everyone!! I may have been cutting some onions or something because my eyes are all.. Wet.
I hate it when my eyes get sweaty. I love talkers. I am a talker. And sometimes when I'm nervous I curse a lot. Whatever, that mom was really really mean. Fuck her!
She lashed out and hit your Achilles heel. That sucks. Is there any chance she feels badly about it? Can you discuss with her in private? Is it a small enough group that if she's there you will be uncomfortable or can you avoid her?
More than likely this was not her first transgression as a bitch. Im gonna guess there are a bunch of moms in the group who dont agree with her. Koko. Talk to someone besides her.
Sounds like she's trying to position herself as the queen bee. Fuck her.
Also, this. If she's a Queen Bee type, run.
It looks like I'm in the minority, but I absolutely love my moms group. We text each other daily and they are awesome. Hopefully she just stuck her foot in her mouth and is sorry- I've made off the cuff "jokes" that upon reflection, came off badly. If she's a decent person she will apologize.
My feelings would be hurt, too. I'm also a big talker.
I've been in a meetup group for about 2 years now. We have some...interesting...moms. There are some really cool moms, too, but meetup also seems to attract people who don't make friends naturally. Mine is currently full of awkwardness. I just choose the things I attend carefully. Generally things open to the public or park play dates where I don't sit around and talk to everyone, but my kids can enjoy playing with other kids.
I'm generally pretty quiet at first, so I love when I'm in a new group and someone is a talker. It helps me feel comfortable, and then once I feel comfortable enough to open up, I become a huge talker. Lol.
The best groups of people/friends have a mixture of personalities. Hell, I am an introvert and dislike talking to people I do not know very well, but my H is the total opposite. He sounds a lot like you. I love that about him because we balance each other out. I have friends who are quieter, like me, and some who are very talkative. I love the mixture of personalities.
I would be sensitive about that comment too. It was unnecessary for her to make an example of you - a bit thoughtless of her - Who is she anyway? President of the sorority house??
She probably immediately regretted saying it and felt like a complete ass for doing it... or at least she should have!