Formula feeding sad

[orangeglow]

DS and I were doing lots of errand running today.  I packed plenty of bottles and formula (I use those powdered formula dispensers so the bottles can be room temp).

He starts getting hungry in target so when we get to the car I sit in the backseat with him and start prepping a bottle after changing him.  In the meantime the lady in the car next to me is done shopping and loading up her two little girls.  She keeps looking in at us.  As soon as I start feeding my son (he's 3 months if you are on the app) she taps on my window.  I think I must have left a door part open or something so I open the door.  

"Are you feeding your baby formula?"

"ummmm, yes."

"You DO know breast is best."

shocked.  like very.  "Yes, I do thank you." And I closed the door. 

She stood outside the door yelling into the car about how I shouldn't be feeding my baby those chemicals and if I would have just tried I would have found out breastfeeding is easy.  I finally held up my phone with 911 on the screen.  She got into her car and left.

I then sat in my car and started crying.  You guys, I did try to breastfeed.  I saw several LC.  BUT, I had a breast reduction and things just didn't reconnect right or something - or maybe I just don't produce a lot.  I was only producing 2-4 oz (up to 7 on a good day) and had to supplement from the start.  I was really upset about this and it took me a little bit to come to terms with it.  I still get sad occasionally.  Today was a sad day.  And it's dumb.  I feed my baby!  It shouldn't matter.    

TL;DR - A lady harassed me for formula feeding my baby.

[firedancer49]

Oh man, I'm sorry. She's shitty.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

^o)

[sofamonkey]

You are a good woman to not just knock her right the fuck out. ((hugs))

[cville]

Sad? Don't be sad. Be ENRAGED.

That nosy, incorrect, self-righteous bitch. She may have breastfed her girls, but they're growing up in an environment that is toxic as all get out.

[ginap]

Fuck her. I hope she gets a raging yeast infection and the worst hemorrhoids EVER. What is wrong with people. Don't you feel bad for one freaking second.

[wambam]

WHAT THE MOTHER FUCK?

She yelled at you through a close car door?!

She is an absolute nutter.

[thebuddhagouda]

Fuck her. Seriously.

[cuddlyevil]

I want to punch that lady on your behalf. People are stupid.

I am sorry she upset you. Believe me, you're doing nothing wrong by formula feeding--no matter what crazypants thinks.

[specialk]

Dude, fuck that woman. What a psycho. You are a terrific mother and she is a lunatic.

[georgeharrison]

She's ignorant. Some people are not able to breastfeed, myself included. My son was losing weight. I had to formula feed or else he would have died. I also saw several LCs and...well, it just doesn't work for everyone.

Don't let her make you cry. At just three weeks, I know you are still sensitive to it, but when your baby gets big and awesome, you won't care that you had to formula feed. You will know you did the best you could for him and he's healthy and amazing.

That handsome kid in my sig pic is a product of formula.

ETA:  And I totally support people who formula feed by choice, too.  It's a choice.

[grayskies]

WTH?! I'm so sorry this happened to you. You've done nothing wrong. You're a good momma. ((hugs))

[Eagles]

ARE YOU FUCKING SHITTING ME RIGHT NOW. What a sanctimonious, self-righteous absolute CUNT. FUCK HER. I will drive up there and find her and punch her in her stupid cunty face. Fucking twatfaced monster bitch.

[fayeelle]

What the actual fuck?!?!
No, no, no, no.

[noodleskooze]

I'm so sorry. I got a comment or two, but nothing that hurtful or insane. I hope you are able to put that awful experience behind you, but I know how sad it is to hear things like that even when you know they're untrue.

[BaliHai]

First of all, fuck that lady.

Second, hugs. I've said it before here and I'll say it again, I wish someone would warn moms-to-be how emotional the whole baby feeding issue can be. I am 15 months out of giving birth, AND not even buying formula anymore, and that study that just came out of Brazil about breastfed babies being smarter still had me feeling things.

You don't have to explain to anyone why breastfeeding did not work out for you. You don't owe it to even the nicest of people, let alone assclowns like the Target lady. You made the decision that worked best for you and your family, and that's the beginning and end of the story.

ETA- And I don't find this all that hard to believe, sadly. I know someone this happened to in Walmart when she was like three minutes post-partum. Some people really do believe formula is poison and they need to "educate" new moms.

[styme46]

I will never understand why people feel the need to comment about shit like this. My dd was formula fed and she is perfectly healthy. Ds was also 80% formula fed and he is perfectly healthy as well.

I'm sorry that happened to you.

You are doing just fine. There is no shame in using formula, whether you tried to bf or not!

(((HUGS)))

[thinkofthesoldiers]

pandce.proboards.com/thread/425656/hurt-feelings

Why do people act so weird around you?

[Eagles]

Listen, in all seriousness, as long as you are feeding your child and it isn't Mountain Dew, you are golden. He is happy, healthy, and loved, and that is the only thing that matters in this world.

[orangeglow]

Mar 19, 2015 14:52:33 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

If this is because I cried, I KNOW.  I'm still kind of upset about it.  Hormones or something.  I still feel stupid.

And then I just cried AGAIN because I appreciate you guys making me feel slightly better.  I know it's silly, but I just never thought I wouldn't breastfeed and when I couldn't I felt slightly like a failure.

[NothingWrongwithOhio]

Fuck her. I would have RAGED. Who the fuck does she think she is?

[sandyapples]

Fuck that lady. You are keeping your baby fed and that is all that matters. It's so much better to have a loving formula feeding mama then a psycho mom who accosts strangers.

[CurlyQ284]

Don't feel sad, she is a miserable disgusting human being. I was only able to get about 4 oz a day as well and that was with supplements and stuff. We used formula from the beginning also. Sometimes our bodies don't make milk. Thems the breaks and it's none of her business. I'm glad you threatened to call 911. I can't even drudge up enough nasty names for that woman. Who treats people like that?!

[underwaterrhymes]

Okay, so first, it doesn't matter how you feed your baby as long as you feed your baby.

And if this really happened, this lady is a Snatch.

But I find it very hard to believe it did happen.

[Deleted]

Feeding the baby is what's best. I honestly would have told her to fuck off.

[robyn]

Mar 19, 2015 14:50:10 GMT -5 orangeglow said:

 Today was a sad day.  And it's dumb.  I feed my baby!  It shouldn't matter.    

TL;DR - A lady harassed me for formula feeding my baby.

Today is a sad day only for her, because she has stooped to a point in her sad little life where she thought she had the right to harass another mother, to try and drag her down and hurt her on purpose for no reason than to make herself feel good. It's not a sad day for you because you are doing an awesome job taking care of and loving your little baby. She can go right to hell. Don't shed another tear over that stupid bitch.

[anonymous]

she's a fucking bitch and don't you let her make you feel sad for one more second.

My DD was exclusively breastfed. My DS was pretty much exclusively formula fed. he is sick less than my daughter was, has met all milestones (is blowing through verbal ones), is a happy guy, is not overweight. He is just as perfect as my DD and your DS is perfect too.

[cville]

Mar 19, 2015 14:55:44 GMT -5 freedom said:

Wow... this is ...unbelievable

You all have never run into militants?  I did, once, but I was breastfeeding at the time.  The REALLY FOCUSED SUPPORT made me want to get an order of protection.

I presume all stories here have some exaggerated aspects in that they're told from emotional response, rather than rational recitation of hard facts.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Mar 19, 2015 15:02:21 GMT -5 cville said:

Mar 19, 2015 14:55:44 GMT -5 freedom said:

Wow... this is ...unbelievable

You all have never run into militants?  I did, once, but I was breastfeeding at the time.  The REALLY FOCUSED SUPPORT made me want to get an order of protection.

I presume all stories here have some exaggerated aspects in that they're told from emotional response, rather than rational recitation of hard facts.

Given her recent post it seems...weirdly dramatic.

[Eagles]

I've had random people ask if my sister is BFing, in the context of me mentioning that I had a new niece. These were people who I knew only in either a professional or an acquaintance-type capacity, and who felt the need to inform me that they hoped she was, because "breast is best, you know." I would not be surprised if someone accosted a bottle-feeding mother in public.