It's just a shady career field. I've married two and both have cheated on me, one with his Co worker. I'm not saying all controllers ate shady, I'm just saying you work in high stress situations and spend a lot of time in close proximity with the same people that bonds form. I currently work with two divorced couples, both had cheating involved. For me personally, I will never be with another air traffic controller no matter what. It's a huge turn off for me personally at this point.
High stress environment + close working environment. That makes sense. Thank you for answering.
I don't know if I could deal with a construction worker again. XH was one and the way guys talked on the jobsite really carried over to back at home and how he treated me. And all their on the road jobs so many of his coworkers (and probably XH) ended up cheating with randoms in the bars. My attorney told me that construction workers have the highest divorce rate and around here I would have to agree with her. And yes I know not all construction workers are disrepectful male chauvanist cheating bastards but XH and so many of the guys he worked with on jobsites were that it has tainted my feelings toward them.
I'm wary of guys in sales because I've worked with a lot of sales guys and I'd say 90% of them are...not good people. But maybe I've just had bad experiences.
This exactly. After many years working with sales guys.... No way would I get involved with one
Post by spedrunner on Mar 25, 2015 20:01:28 GMT -5
i agree with pdx, online I can pick and choose and I have my preferences. I would def. look away from musicians, bar tenders and flame-fully, someone without a degree.
but in real life if i were to meet my perfect match i wouldnt care what he did as long as he had a steady job and work ethic
It is important to me that "future bf" (LOL) enjoy his job. I dont want to come home to hear him whining and complaining about his job
Obviously all of my "issues" stem from my previous experiences.
I would never get involved with anyone in hospitality/hotel sales again. Not only because there's a good chance they'd know stbx, but also because stbx cheated on me multiple times while he was away for conferences, etc.
is there any career that at least someone doesn't associate with cheaters? It seems like everyone associates whatever the lying bastard did for a living with the fact that they cheated.
XFI was an engineer and cheated. I don't think this means engineers cheat. I think it means he cheated.
Car salesman/finance guys-maybe it was just that dealership, because every guy I knew (they were regulars at the bar I worked at) cheated. The ONE guy I thought didn't, did.
I think it has a lot to do with how I FEEL about a profession, too. Car salesman just seem slimey to me. LOL.
The rest I get from TV. Because it is totally true.
My thing with Cops is based on my XBIL as well as cop friends. I have a female cop friend who says the guys she works with, 9/10 cheat. Once again, it may just be that branch. Who knows. Plus, domestic violence cases are higher with cops than other professions.
Post by jojoandleo on Mar 26, 2015 11:14:58 GMT -5
@stpete-I also think certain personality types, one more prone to cheating, are attracted to certain careers, hence the reputation as cheaters. This doesn't mean people in other careers DON'T cheat, or everyone in that career DOES cheat, just an increased likelihood based on the personality traits of one attracted to such a career.
Oof. I really dislike how often I am attracted to professors. My ex husband was a professor, and he was a narcissistic asshole. My first little flirtation after I left my husband was with a professor and he ghosted me. I recently met and was talking to someone new and was interested, and then I found out he was a professor. Damn it! No more professors!
As someone who has worked in academia for the last 11 years, I can say that I think you are making a wise decision.
I'm dealing with this now, so I'll put another vote for profs.
@stpete-I also think certain personality types, one more prone to cheating, are attracted to certain careers, hence the reputation as cheaters. This doesn't mean people in other careers DON'T cheat, or everyone in that career DOES cheat, just an increased likelihood based on the personality traits of one attracted to such a career.
I think this makes sense and also translates to cops and DV. When I worked at the shelter any victim who was married to a cop was considered a very high risk level, he had access to weapons, you couldn't trust other officers not to protect him etc. We would usually suggest they transfer to a shelter out of town because the police could also find the location of the safehouse and come looking for her or stalk her when she left. (general policy, not one experience in particular).
I would never date a cop in part because of that also.
Yeah. My sister's experience with her cop XH and DV is pretty crazy. She was NOT protected, and he was not reprimanded for his actions. Although, I think he has been fired since then. He was sooooo charming, though. It was gross.
i agree with pdx, online I can pick and choose and I have my preferences. I would def. look away from musicians, bar tenders and flame-fully, someone without a degree.
but in real life if i were to meet my perfect match i wouldnt care what he did as long as he had a steady job and work ethic
It is important to me that "future bf" (LOL) enjoy his job. I dont want to come home to hear him whining and complaining about his job
Obviously all of my "issues" stem from my previous experiences.
if that's flameworthy, i'll be on the bar stool next to you. after xh and his GED vs my 2 BAs ... if you want to mess w/ me first you've got to 1-have AT LEAST a BA or 2- have completed a union apprenticeship ie electrician, plumber, etc.
I think this makes sense and also translates to cops and DV. When I worked at the shelter any victim who was married to a cop was considered a very high risk level, he had access to weapons, you couldn't trust other officers not to protect him etc. We would usually suggest they transfer to a shelter out of town because the police could also find the location of the safehouse and come looking for her or stalk her when she left. (general policy, not one experience in particular).
I would never date a cop in part because of that also.
Yeah. My sister's experience with her cop XH and DV is pretty crazy. She was NOT protected, and he was not reprimanded for his actions. Although, I think he has been fired since then. He was sooooo charming, though. It was gross.
this is why I steered clear of a cop I met via OKC .. super charming w/ a tendency to find himself in Fed Ct for yep civil rights violations and excessive force. I don't want to go near that road after my experience w/ DV and xh. nope, no thanks !
is there any career that at least someone doesn't associate with cheaters? It seems like everyone associates whatever the lying bastard did for a living with the fact that they cheated.
nope .. even my minister dad cheated on my mom .....
is there any career that at least someone doesn't associate with cheaters? It seems like everyone associates whatever the lying bastard did for a living with the fact that they cheated.
nope .. even my minister dad cheated on my mom .....
Well, minister is one of the careers that attracts narcissists. Everyone listens respectfully when they talk, people go to them for advice, and automatically have trust and confidence in them without them having to earn it. I'm certainly not saying all ministers are narcissists... it's just a role that is attractive to narcissists.
Same reason why some of us have had problems with professors. They are the center of attention a lot of the time, they are often regarded as one of the smartest people in the room just by their title, plenty of opportunities to show off publicly and bask in the praise.
Most Doctors are a no for me. Unless they are private practice with decently predictable hours. I work in a hospital and see all the hours they spend here and I am not a fan of not seeing my SO for that long... and I wont lie, there is a high percentage of a-holes.
Not all! Not even MOST, just more than a lot of other fields.
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