I am afraid I am kind of flaky. The thing is, I would be good with social plans 1x a week. Some weeks, not at all. But I have a really hard time saying no when people ask me to do something and I don't have actual plans. Like, I feel bad saying "I would rather spend Saturday afternoon watching Netflix in my yoga pants than hanging out with you" because that's kind of insulting. So I'll say I want to do something, but really I don't want to leave my house. So I don't flake as in, not showing up, but I'm not unlikely to back out. I guess I'm better if we've set a specific time and meeting place, but vague "let's do something Saturday", I am likely to cancel.
IDK. I always feel bad but I feel bad saying no too. It's something I probably do need to work on.
I flake all the time, but more so on big group events or a casual drinks before or after plans with other friends. A lot of my plans are last minute thoughts that aren't grandiose. But I'm also in a long distance relationship so I have time and many of my friends are single so we don't have families and kids and don't plan a ton. Planned events I get annoyed when someone flakes on and will never do that - brunch with a group, birthday dinner, concert, etc
I was a city girl who moved to an apartment by the beach. So, I invited my VERY GOOD FRIENDS to my place for a fun weekend day. Easy, right? No. One *super flake* refused to say if she was coming/not coming. UNTIL THE MORNING-OF. Like, she actually admitted that she was "going to wake up and decide if she felt like going out to the beach" that day. Like that was okay for ME and the rest of our friends.
News flash flakey-asshole: WE ALL HAVE BETTER THINGS TO DO THAN WAIT-ON YOUR DECISION TO GRACE US WITH YOUR PRESENCE.
Especially because it means we're coordinating your transportation, food and beach passes for the day. Or not.