I am dreading my mom's AW'ing ways coming up on the 17th. That will be one year since my dad passed away and she has gotten progressively worse with needing to be the center of attention. I may just not log into FB that day.
I think it's silly to stress about choosing a middle name. We spent about 2 seconds deciding on DS's middle name (which is DH's first name) because nobody cares about your middle name after you are a baby anyway.
My dad retired yesterday. His staff, who adorably love him, ordered an engraved gift, and one of them (who I happened to go to HS with) messaged me specifically to get his entire name. Some people DO care about middle names
DS doesn't have a family middle name because we couldn't find one we liked (and I wanted Hawaiian, so we were only choosing from my side, ha). I feel a teensy bit bad about that, but he ended up with a good one anyway.
This reminds me of the time my mom had a plaque engraved for her at work. They used her full name and put Lynn as the middle name, except her middle name isn't Lynn. She is embarrassed by her middle name because she thinks it makes her sound country, so she was glad they didn't use it. LOL
Plaques aside, I still think nobody cares. I don't know any of my friends middle names and I don't think they know my (super generic) one either.
I ate a bag of potato chips with my lunch. 15 minutes later I noticed stuff on the back of my hand....potato chip crumbs. I licked them off and looked up and my boss was walking by and saw me. Lol.
I get annoyed when people have girls and use Marie or Elizabeth as the middle name (family connection excepted). It just seems like such a cop out/default name. Be creative!
I feel like Grace is the new Marie/Lynn.
Lol, my middle name is Grace..I guess I'm ahead of the trend. I do think it's pretty!
DS's middle name is Irvin, which I hate, but it is tradition on H's family side. I'm glad we did it because it meant a lot to H, but it still makes me cringe.
Once when I was a kid I sat on a cactus because I thought it would make me fly 10 feelt up in the air, like in a cartoon.
I did not fly.
I did have to have my mother pull cactus spines out of my butt with a pair of tweezers.
Oh man! Once when I was a kid I also sat on a cactus. Unfortunately, I did not have a reason for doing so like you. I tripped and fell onto it after my dad took my down from a tree I had climbed. I'll never forget having those spines pulled from my butt.
And I do agree with others, Grace and Elizabeth are the Lynns and Anns of our generation.
I had a friend get all bent out of shape about her brother and SIL, who were due within weeks of my friend, using Elizabeth for their daughter's MN too. I had to bite my tongue.
Once when I was a kid I sat on a cactus because I thought it would make me fly 10 feelt up in the air, like in a cartoon.
I did not fly.
I did have to have my mother pull cactus spines out of my butt with a pair of tweezers.
I sat on a cactus while playing paintball with friends. I was like 25 and had just moved in wth my boyfriend. I couldn't ask him to do tweezer duty, so waited another day and a half until we went to my grandmothers for Christmas. Then we spent the morning of Chritsmas Eve tweezering cactus barbs out of my ass and drinking mimosas. It was probably the funniest thing I've ever experienced. My grandmother is like an 86 year old Lucille Ball. Hilarious!
Using family names seems like a good way to open up a whole can of worms if you don't use the right name or someone else called dibs (I know, not a thing) or if you honour your mother but not MIL or whatever. Or if one side is super Ukrainian, and your choices are like Slavoslav and Wolodomyr. Lol.
Although our #1 girls name is technically my dad's adopted aunt's name, lol. Obscure family connection and she's been gone for years, so I think we're in the clear.
Both of my girls have middle names that honor people on my side of the family only. lol. (Well DD1's middle name is my first name, but it is also my paternal grandma's first name. DD2's middle name is from my mom's side and is an unusual middle name for a girl.)
My MIL has never said anything about it. H was apathetic about middle names so he just let me do what I pleased. She probably knows this. His side of the family is ultra laid back anyway, they just don't get up in arms about stuff.
Once when I was a kid I sat on a cactus because I thought it would make me fly 10 feelt up in the air, like in a cartoon.
I did not fly.
I did have to have my mother pull cactus spines out of my butt with a pair of tweezers.
First of all, I thought this said you sat on a catbus, and for a brief moment I was like OH THE NAME CATBUS IS FROM A CARTOON!? QUESTIONS ANSWERED!
Then I was going to tell you it reminded me of "no Pat, no, don't sit on that!" from Hop on Pop but, uh, don't google image search that because it is NSFW apparently.
I may have accidentally returned an empty shoe box to Amazon that was supposed to have a pair of shoes in it, but I found the shoes in the closet 3 days after I sent the box.
I think it's silly to stress about choosing a middle name. We spent about 2 seconds deciding on DS's middle name (which is DH's first name) because nobody cares about your middle name after you are a baby anyway.
Quite a few people like my mn, but it's my choice to use it publicly.
I may or may not have thought about someone else while sleeping with my husband last week. :-#
ETA: So people don't think I'm a total monster, this was not like my coworker or something.
I do this... frequently. Sometimes it is people we know, sometimes hot celebrities. It's not all the time, but you have to shake up married sex somehow, right?
I get annoyed when people have girls and use Marie or Elizabeth as the middle name (family connection excepted). It just seems like such a cop out/default name. Be creative!
eh my mom specifically wanted us kids to have biblical middle names as a nod to our gpa and dad's profession (they're both Lutheran ministers). So we have T. Elizabeth, M. Marie, B. Timothy and J. Rebecca. my mom thought Mary was too common so she opted for the french, Marie.
The Elizabeth is a family one .. my mom's fn, my mn, one of dd's 2 mn and my niece's mn (both of her gmas are named Elizabeth).
First of all, I thought this said you sat on a catbus, and for a brief moment I was like OH THE NAME CATBUS IS FROM A CARTOON!? QUESTIONS ANSWERED!
Then I was going to tell you it reminded me of "no Pat, no, don't sit on that!" from Hop on Pop but, uh, don't google image search that because it is NSFW apparently.
I would personally love a sprinkle. In my close group of friends we've had several so I'm hoping they have one for me.
I'm okay with a sprinkle, I'm not okay with paying to host a full-on shower at the country club.
What's the difference between a "sprinkle" and a "full on shower"? I just have a feeling the the low-key-ness of a sprinkle is probably what most people in my circle consider a baby shower. I've never been to super extravagant baby shower.
DD's mn is Lynn, named after my mom. If we have another daughter she will likely have Marie as a mn since it is a family name as well. Possibly Anne, which would be after my grandma. No creativity in my family Me, my sister, my SIL and my MIL all have the same mn.
Our girl name has the family connection from both sides-first name was late MIL's middle name, middle name was my first name, my mom's middle name, and her mom's middle name. Then my sister took that middle name for her daughter (after getting the green light from me, she was super relieved that I didn't give a hoot). I'm not against keeping the middle name the same IF we have another kid and IF it's a girl (cousins with the same MN isn't that weird is it?) but J wants to change it because he likes my middle name (Elizabeth) better. It's also my dad's mom's middle name so we'd still keep it in the family, but who knows what'll happen. Two very big IFs have to happen first
I'm okay with a sprinkle, I'm not okay with paying to host a full-on shower at the country club.
What's the difference between a "sprinkle" and a "full on shower"? I just have a feeling the the low-key-ness of a sprinkle is probably what most people in my circle consider a baby shower. I've never been to super extravagant baby shower.
The other sprinkles we've had have either been the group meeting for lunch at a restaurant (pay for your own meal and chip in for the mom-to-be's meal) with small gifts or just at someone's house with delivery pizza during the week while kids are at MDO/preschool. Definitely not a room at the country club with a buffet or sit down meal and floral arrangements, which is what is being planned.
I would personally love a sprinkle. In my close group of friends we've had several so I'm hoping they have one for me.
I would have loved a sprinkle. The utter indifference people have toward second pregnancies among my acquaintance circle baffles me. I offered to throw several people a sprinkle for their seconds and everyone turned me down. Come on, who doesn't want free diapers?
What's the difference between a "sprinkle" and a "full on shower"? I just have a feeling the the low-key-ness of a sprinkle is probably what most people in my circle consider a baby shower. I've never been to super extravagant baby shower.
The other sprinkles we've had have either been the group meeting for lunch at a restaurant (pay for your own meal and chip in for the mom-to-be's meal) with small gifts or just at someone's house with delivery pizza during the week while kids are at MDO/preschool. Definitely not a room at the country club with a buffet or sit down meal and floral arrangements, which is what is being planned.
Ok - that seems pretty laid back. Seems like most baby showers I've been to (no matter what # kid it is) have been something in between those two. At someone's house, buffet/finger foods, presents, maybe a game or two. No big hall rented or flower arrangements.
But I'm not big on baby showers in general. Probably just my own "I hate being the center of attention" hang-ups being projected onto everyone, lol.
A few people I know were surprised I didn't have a shower for DS2. My step-sister offered to throw one. But I declined. It was my second kid, same sex, less than 2 years after DS1 was born. I didn't really "need" anything. And even though baby #3 is a girl, I still don't want a shower. I've gotten a decent amount of hand-me down clothes already and I'll buy any bottles or diapers I need rather than deal with a bunch of people all "sqee-ing" over girl clothes they bought me and asking me 5234234 questions about my pregnancy and how I MUST BE OMG! SO EXCITED! about FINALLY having a girl.
But like I said, I think I have a hang-up about baby showers in general, lol.
I would personally love a sprinkle. In my close group of friends we've had several so I'm hoping they have one for me.
I would have loved a sprinkle. The utter indifference people have toward second pregnancies among my acquaintance circle baffles me. I offered to throw several people a sprinkle for their seconds and everyone turned me down. Come on, who doesn't want free diapers?
No one I know has sprinkles. I don't feel like people are indifferent to second children, though. Someone organized a meal chain for us after DS was born and many of my neighbors brought us dinner in those early weeks. That's the thing to do around here and I love it.