Finally I got to the right police department and they kept asking if I was SURE I wanted to give them the info because if they find him they will arrest him with a tone like I was a jerk for reporting my dad. It was all around weird.
I'm guessing they did this because they wanted to make sure you understood that they would arrest him because they were worried he might be abusive to you when he found out you were the one called. Sort of like domestic violence, this kind of an arrest can make it worse for the resorting family member at home.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by mrsjuleshs on May 26, 2015 23:32:45 GMT -5
So lame now that I got the kids settled. He said he had one? Now dd is saying she didn't think he even had one but she yelled it into the phone because it would get us there faster, clearly we have a lot of talking to do with the girls but just glad they are safe. I'm still trying to pin down the details. All I know is he threatened them and now dd told he he tried to choke her at some point. It was all an emotional roller coaster and I'm still trying to put it all together. Bottom line girls were terrified, he threatened them, they called 911 and gave up and the other called us. We went there, I saw he didn't have a gun and pushed him away from my property and made sure my girls were safe. Dh never grabbed his gun. Kids parents showed up. We are planning on pressing charges against him for threatening the girls and laying hands on my dd. dd said to drive to our house but she didn't want him to know where we lived. Yes, it wasn't handled well by anyone but all of the kids are home safe. There wasn't any gun drawn when we got there so I was skeptical because the kid was pretty calm. And what does my marital issue from months ago have to so with it? We've worked through our issues and are better off than the day we got married.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by mrsjuleshs on May 26, 2015 23:35:57 GMT -5
She didn't drive to the house because she was scared that he would know where we live once he got back out of wherever his parents are sending him to. Hope the jus gets the help he needs and hoping dd's BFF has finally figured out she can't help someone who doesn't want help.
So lame now that I got the kids settled. He said he had one? Now dd is saying she didn't think he even had one but she yelled it into the phone because it would get us there faster, clearly we have a lot of talking to do with the girls but just glad they are safe. I'm still trying to pin down the details. All I know is he threatened them and now dd told he he tried to choke her at some point. It was all an emotional roller coaster and I'm still trying to put it all together. Bottom line girls were terrified, he threatened them, they called 911 and gave up and the other called us. We went there, I saw he didn't have a gun and pushed him away from my property and made sure my girls were safe. Dh never grabbed his gun. Kids parents showed up. We are planning on pressing charges against him for threatening the girls and laying hands on my dd. dd said to drive to our house but she didn't want him to know where we lived. Yes, it wasn't handled well by anyone but all of the kids are home safe. There wasn't any gun drawn when we got there so I was skeptical because the kid was pretty calm. And what does my marital issue from months ago have to so with it? We've worked through our issues and are better off than the day we got married.
That's what you said after the reconciliation before the last one.
Buuuuut....you're right. Your marital status has nothing to do with this. However, I still think you behaved foolishly by running up to this kid.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by mrsjuleshs on May 26, 2015 23:43:55 GMT -5
Yes, my property is her car. We have his name and his parents told us that they understand if we want to press charges on him for threatening our daughter and his behavior. I'm sorry if it's disc jointed but it was terrifying and I'm just happy the girls are safe and he is getting help. His parents have already texted her BFF that they are trying to get him readmitted somewhere. I told both of the girls to disengage and don't have any part of this next step. The kid is clearly troubled and they can't fix him. They both care but this is too much and we can't go through this again.
Post by lexxasaurus on May 26, 2015 23:48:12 GMT -5
I lived in Houston for 4+ years. The one time I called screaming "he's kicking the door in, help" and then gave them all the pertinent information, it still took them forty five minutes to get there. In LA my mom had to try for 10 minutes to get through to 911 when she stopped (as a nurse) to help at a major wreck. It absolutely happens, though I imagine they had two phones and one of them absolutely should have kept trying to get a hold of the police. As a kid I made pretty dumb choices, but it's something you should correct, because you are not always going to be able to rush right there.
Post by LeggsBenedict on May 26, 2015 23:54:04 GMT -5
this is like that time I had to tell someone on the knot she's an idiot because someone jiggled her doorknob at night so she ran around the apartment parking lot with her gun to clear the area. she was totes military and super efficient though, jeez.
sometimes I run into our apartment in front of my h and yell about how I need to "clear the room."