I do the picture thing so sorry to anyone I have offended. Usually if I see a picture and it reminds me of a picture I have then I post it too.. Because why not? I have never tried to or even see how this could be "one-upping" them... How? Like I know I posted a picture in @tambcat 's thread recently but I don't even remember what the thread was about so I can't use it as an example.
I just don't get how this is seen as one-upping. Like the example with the climbing kids? How is that one-upping? My kids a better climber? A cuter climber? No, it's like "oh hey! I have a picture of my kid being crazy too!" I love seeing pictures of all the kids on here and I thought others did too... But I guess not.
I understand that more feelings were hurt, but if you were doing something that truly bothered people, wouldn't you want to know? Instead of them just getting pissed off every time you posted?
Definitely and I am glad it finally did come out but truly, people should address stuff when it happens. These airing of the grievances, while they can be entertaining, are also hurtful.
FFTC....I am a relater and want to be liked. I connect with shared experiences, too. When I see that or learn that someone else has twins, I want to be their friend because we share an experience.
And I get nervous around other twin moms because I'm very self conscious of my boys' behavior, their size, the comparing that is out of control around here, and their speech delay.
You are doing an amazing job. If anyone ever tells you otherwise, they can get the f out.
Post by dixeedeluxe on May 29, 2015 9:26:32 GMT -5
I usually abandon special dailies (FFFC, UO) when it's the next day but I'm glad I came back to this one. I have some thinking to do! I'll think out loud for a minute.
I think some things are obvious. Like bragging in developmental concern threads.
But I felt really comforted the other day when ladybug and katie and I were talking about our ding dong husbands being the same. I never felt one-upped. But that wasn't related to children so that is probably not within this sphere.
But I do try to be careful when offering advice when someone is frustrated by saying "if you're not looking for advice, plz ignore". I feel like that absolves me from being a know-it-all, but it pirobably doesn't.
C25K...it works Seaside 5K...........40:45(2012) Turkey Trot..........41:30(2012)/37:08(2013)/37:40(2014) St Pat's 5K..........39:27(2013)/38:48(2014)/35:12(2015) Belair Town Run......38:09(2013)/36:27(2014) Back To Football 5K..37:36(2013)/43:44(2015) Balt Run Fest 5K.....34:59(2013)/41:50(2014)/35:54(2015)
I just feel like it's obvious when things are ok or jerky?? I mean especially now if you are thinking more.
So "Hey guys, I'm so worried about <kid> because <kid> isn't talking/walking/eating food/wiping his own butt"
OK answers include "My child didn't talk/walk/eat/wipe his own butt until AFTER the age yours did, and now he's totally fine! Please try not to worry" "I'm sorry, that's tough. I hope <kid> starts doing it soon so you can stop worrying" "My friends kid had this issue and her pedi told her to try XYZ and it really worked"
not ok answers "huh. My kid was doing that about six months before yours. hugs!"
It seems simple
It doesn't mean you aren't allowed to post things in random threads about your kid because you think you remember something someone else said about their kid not doing that thing a few weeks ago or something. Nobody is going to jump on you because you create an "OMG my kid is walking and he's only 8 months old, slow down baby!" that's just... likes and comments about "you go kid" "whoa!! cool!" etc.?? it's not like we are bitter about each others kids?! I feel like we generally celebrate our probiekids in all things.
Ugh I don't know. I don't want it to be weird but also I don't feel like it has to be .. because it's seems simple ..
Post by dixeedeluxe on May 29, 2015 10:25:57 GMT -5
laurack, I feel like it's obvious too, but the one upping example of climbing got me thinking. Just thinking. I'm sure my output will be the same but being concious is always a good thing, right?
C25K...it works Seaside 5K...........40:45(2012) Turkey Trot..........41:30(2012)/37:08(2013)/37:40(2014) St Pat's 5K..........39:27(2013)/38:48(2014)/35:12(2015) Belair Town Run......38:09(2013)/36:27(2014) Back To Football 5K..37:36(2013)/43:44(2015) Balt Run Fest 5K.....34:59(2013)/41:50(2014)/35:54(2015)
laurack, I feel like it's obvious too, but the one upping example of climbing got me thinking. Just thinking. I'm sure my output will be the same but being concious is always a good thing, right?
The climbing thing was a cumulative example though. If you post about climbing and I respond with a pic of my own kid climbing, fine, no one even notices. If over the period of a year I start responding to every single one of your posts with comments and pictures about my own kid you might start to notice.
I don't think everyone needs to be all worried about posting now. It's not that difficult.
C25K...it works Seaside 5K...........40:45(2012) Turkey Trot..........41:30(2012)/37:08(2013)/37:40(2014) St Pat's 5K..........39:27(2013)/38:48(2014)/35:12(2015) Belair Town Run......38:09(2013)/36:27(2014) Back To Football 5K..37:36(2013)/43:44(2015) Balt Run Fest 5K.....34:59(2013)/41:50(2014)/35:54(2015)