Post by rootbeerfloat on Jun 18, 2015 6:00:14 GMT -5
What time do randoms start?
I'm already on a bus en route to being trapped at the CDC for the second day in a row. We can't even go outside without an employee escort, not that we'd want to since it's a million degrees out. And I'm so tired since my body still wants to sleep on HI time.
I felt like I had magical powers this morning. Every night for the last month, the baby has woken up at 4:30. Last night, I said, "it would be so nice if you woke up at 5:30 instead so I could spend time with you and not have to get up at the crack of dawn!" His wakeup time today was 5:30 (8 straight hours!!). Maybe I should ask for 6 a.m. tonight?
I have an all-day meeting today and plan to drown myself in caffeine. 5:30 is better than 4:30, but I used to wake up for work at almost 7. This is going to take some getting used to.
Post by teatimefor2 on Jun 18, 2015 6:12:46 GMT -5
That's sounds like an interesting day at the CDC!
I'm exhausted. For the first time, DS1 peed overnight. Of course this happens when I'm nursing DS2. DH handles it including starting the washer. However, DS1 was wide awake and up for an hour. He finally was asleep around 5:00 am, baby woke at 6:15 am and we were laying down nursing for a doze and he wakes again to go potty. Cue waking the baby again.
And we are OUT of COFFEE!
DS1 is sleeping, but I'm waking him at 7:30 to ensure an afternoon nap.
I felt like I had magical powers this morning. Every night for the last month, the baby has woken up at 4:30. Last night, I said, "it would be so nice if you woke up at 5:30 instead so I could spend time with you and not have to get up at the crack of dawn!" His wakeup time today was 5:30 (8 straight hours!!). Maybe I should ask for 6 a.m. tonight?
I have an all-day meeting today and plan to drown myself in caffeine. 5:30 is better than 4:30, but I used to wake up for work at almost 7. This is going to take some getting used to.
I told J on Tuesday night that for every 10 minutes he slept past 5:30, I'd give him a quarter for his piggy bank. He slept until 6:30. Kid's not even 2 and bribing with money has started.
Ds2's first nap was 1.5hrs and over by 7:45am. So, you can imagine I've been up for awhile. Don't know what to do with my day. Maybe try to arrange a play date.
Today is my baby's birthday! We're going swimming, out for Mexican and to run some errands. In Minnie Mouse dresses (well, not me). You only turn two once!
I am kind of pissed at DH but I don't know if I am being reasonable.
Long version: Basically, if we are both home, DS is my 'job' and DD is his. Premise is that DS needs me for nursing and during the day I have them both and DD is a lot of work so when he is home, he takes her.
Essentially the same plan works for MOTN. I am already up with DS multiple times a night, getting reduced sleep and rarely making it up during the day because they rarely nap at the same time. So for the rare occasions that DD wakes up, I will wake DH to check her (he sleeps like the dead).
Last night she woke, he went to take care of her but then she woke again. He just stayed in bed listening to her cry. So I had him pass me the monitor and tried to calm her using the mic. Didn't work, but he doesn't move. So finally I get up and go to her room and lay on the floor for 30 minutes.
This morning DH is all like, how long did you have to 'shush' her on the monitor. Apparently he had no idea I even got out of bed to be with her.
Short version: I am pissed because I had to get up MOTN to care for DD when I already have to do it for DS.
DH had to LEAVE for the office at 5am (normally 9-930) so I had to wake up when DS did. I'm drinking a cup of coffee has he has a stern conversation with the stuffed animals in his crib and it is hilarious! I love sleeping in but hearing this is so sweet.
We have a house cleaner coming for the first time today and I'm so excited! She was referred from a friend and is only charging $60 since I don't need her to clean 2 bedrooms!
I went to a jewelry party last night that was also a Botox party. I was by far the least fashionable person there -- all kinds of jump suits and blackless tops with super tall strappy sandals. I'll be over here in my maternity jeans and flip flops, thanks! Who knew suburban Indiana was so fashionable on a Wednesday?
Post by MadamePresident on Jun 18, 2015 6:49:09 GMT -5
Nods is having a grandma day. I'll drop her off then won't have to worry about her for the rest of the day. I have a great mom. Now I just need to decide what to do with just Chase.
Short version: I am pissed because I had to get up MOTN to care for DD when I already have to do it for DS.
I would be pissed too. Maybe you could email him later today and explain why you need him to take care of her MOTN too? I'm sure you already have spoken about it but if your h is like my h sometimes conversation isn't enough.
My H chased after a loose dog in the neighborhood this morning. It obviously got out of a backyard or house, but he didn't recognize it. Here's hoping the owner is on Nextdoor. The dog growled at my H so he had to back off.
I had to do bedtime alone last night because H worked late. I hate that! By the time he got home I was exhausted and pretty much collapsed in bed.
J was up at 3am crying he had to go poopy and it took me an hour to fall back asleep.
Yesterday the pedi diagnosed the girls with hypotonia too. I knew it when I saw them starting to sit in the W shape a couple of months ago and they aren't walking. (K probably could she just doesnt because its faster for her to talk on her knees lol) It sucks because now I need to add pt in addition to the slp.
Last night she woke, he went to take care of her but then she woke again. He just stayed in bed listening to her cry. So I had him pass me the monitor and tried to calm her using the mic. Didn't work, but he doesn't move. So finally I get up and go to her room and lay on the floor for 30 minutes.
I mean, I don't know how you guys handle MOTN wake ups/sleep training. I'd just make sure you're both on the same page. After a year and a few months, if I had already gone up and fed/rocked/changed diaper/whatever DD and she woke up again shortly after I'd probably just let her cry too. No way I would lay on the floor in her room. Sounds like you guys just handle toddler MOTN wake ups differently.
But if you get on the same page and he IS going to let her cry and settle it out herself, then the crying monitor cannot affect the other person! Not cool that both of you are up listening to a kid cry on the monitor, I 100% agree with you there. We used to turn it all the way down and the person on duty would set an alarm for 10 minutes to wake up and check to make sure that she was back asleep. Rinse repeat.
Well we live in an old bungalow with paper thin walls. DH can sleep through anything, I can't. So if she is crying, I am not sleeping regardless.
I don't have a problem letting her CIO (we sleep trained her at 5 months) but now at 14 month she will cry hysterically until she vomits so letting her CIO isn't working. She rarely wakes like this. In this case it was because the Motrin hD worn off (if I had to guess). She was in pain and couldn't self soothe until the next dose kicked in.
Anyways, he might not want to have to get up but me listening to her scream, when I will have to be up in 2-3 hours to deal with DS...just wasn't going to happen.
((rugbywife)). The transition to two was so hard for us. Well, DH. It was really hard for DH. A single kid's needs can pretty much be satisfied by a single caregiver, so with two of you, someone gets down time. With two small kids, it's all hands on deck. It was the great parenting equalizer.
When we have a new baby, DH becomes the primary parent for the older kids when he's home. Full stop. So if DD or later DS1 woke up while I was still nursing a baby, sorry dude, that's your kid to deal with. I would have melted down otherwise. It's not forever, but it is for now.
During one ctj talk I finally got through to him that if I really lost it (dramatic, I know lol) he'd be all on his own with both. He needed to help me get sleep, period.
DH and I had a huge argument in the MOTN. I know, I know, we need to bite tongues and not take things personally when sleep deprived, but I was at the end of my rope from sleep deprivation thanks to 3 nights of getting only 4-5 disjointed hours of sleep, and he made a comment about how hard it is to go to work on 6 solid hours of sleep (and they're truly solid hours if sleep because DS and I go to sleep in another room so DH can sleep). DH is normally not like that, so I feel a little bad about it now, but I was almost in tears from exhaustion and just couldn't let the comment go.
My fabulous LA cousin with her fabulous Swedish boyfriend are in town. She has a DS the same age as DS1 and we're all going to a pool/amusement park today.
When she asked about going again yesterday, I was honest with my hesitation, I mean three small kids on my own, at a pool, is hard. She immediately wrote back that it take a village and she will take the older ones and we can do this! I <3 her so much and it just makes me more sad that she lives so far away and I only see her a few times a year.
DH and I had a huge argument in the MOTN. I know, I know, we need to bite tongues and not take things personally when sleep deprived, but I was at the end of my rope from sleep deprivation thanks to 3 nights of getting only 4-5 disjointed hours of sleep, and he made a comment about how hard it is to go to work on 6 solid hours of sleep (and they're truly solid hours if sleep because DS and I go to sleep in another room so DH can sleep). DH is normally not like that, so I feel a little bad about it now, but I was almost in tears from exhaustion and just couldn't let the comment go.
DH regularly wakes up and complains of being tired after getting 6-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep. Meanwhile...sigh.
Post by cincodemayo on Jun 18, 2015 7:36:51 GMT -5
DS cries hysterically all the way to daycare and then as soon as she opens the door, he runs in happily.
We got our first Hello Fresh delivery last night. I love the idea, the recipes were good and I'll re use them, bit the portions were kind of small. Maybe this is a sign my H and I eat too big of portions. Definitely fun to try but the deliveries will be far and few between.
Anyways, he might not want to have to get up but me listening to her scream, when I will have to be up in 2-3 hours to deal with DS...just wasn't going to happen.
We have had the same discussion. DD is sleeping pretty well right now, but sometimes I hand DS off to DH to be soothed after I'm done nursing, and he'd try, like, one thing to get him to stop crying and then just keep doing the one thing that wasn't working. Meanwhile, I'm right next to them trying to sleep, but I can't because the baby is crying...and it'd be one thing if the baby was crying but DH was trying a million different things to get him to stop, but no, he's rocking the RnP and not trying anything else even though that is clearly not working. I do everything I can to try to keep the bedroom quiet so DH can sleep when it's his turn, including taking DS out of the room; I want him to do the same! (And eventually he did start doing that, but it took several discussions to get him to really understand.)
Post by cricketwife on Jun 18, 2015 7:50:04 GMT -5
I have a serious case of the wants. Our house that I adored when I bought it as a single woman over ten years ago is just really small for us as a family if 3. 1940s bungalow, 1100 sq ft. I really want to move and it's in our 4 year plan, but I want to move like, yesterday. To make matters worse, I found my dream home yesterday. I WASNT EVEN LOOKING! It is the house next door to a friend (good acquaintance not close friend) that us for sale, it is EXACTLY everything I want plus built in play mates ! But it's $75000 over our budget ...our 4 yrs from now budget. And, I started doing some meetups and I feel like I can never host anything here. The house is too small and I also feel like I will be judged by the other moms who are clearly more posh than we are.
Anyways, he might not want to have to get up but me listening to her scream, when I will have to be up in 2-3 hours to deal with DS...just wasn't going to happen.
We have had the same discussion. DD is sleeping pretty well right now, but sometimes I hand DS off to DH to be soothed after I'm done nursing, and he'd try, like, one thing to get him to stop crying and then just keep doing the one thing that wasn't working. Meanwhile, I'm right next to them trying to sleep, but I can't because the baby is crying...and it'd be one thing if the baby was crying but DH was trying a million different things to get him to stop, but no, he's rocking the RnP and not trying anything else even though that is clearly not working. I do everything I can to try to keep the bedroom quiet so DH can sleep when it's his turn, including taking DS out of the room; I want him to do the same! (And eventually he did start doing that, but it took several discussions to get him to really understand.)
Omgggg my H would do this too! And then get frustrated/pissed when the baby didn't stop crying. WTF dude, try other things!
Post by countthestars on Jun 18, 2015 8:02:44 GMT -5
hugs and coffee to everyone who needs it this morning!!
I need a better way of remembering when my cleaning ladies are coming. Every time she texts me that today is the day the house is a mess and I have to scramble to throw things in closets.
Post by humpforfree on Jun 18, 2015 8:05:41 GMT -5
Apparently Lane requires a morning nap today. Holy cow what a turd he was being. I do have a trainer meeting at the gym at 11, so I can't let him take his long nap like he probably would. This also means her afternoon nap will probably be shorter and crap
I have a serious case of the wants. Our house that I adored when I bought it as a single woman over ten years ago is just really small for us as a family if 3. 1940s bungalow, 1100 sq ft. I really want to move and it's in our 4 year plan, but I want to move like, yesterday. To make matters worse, I found my dream home yesterday. I WASNT EVEN LOOKING! It is the house next door to a friend (good acquaintance not close friend) that us for sale, it is EXACTLY everything I want plus built in play mates ! But it's $75000 over our budget ...our 4 yrs from now budget. And, I started doing some meetups and I feel like I can never host anything here. The house is too small and I also feel like I will be judged by the other moms who are clearly more posh than we are.
Meh. I doubt they judge and if so, who cares KWIM? Be proud you are making smart $$ decisions for YOUR family. We had a small house and invested in some furniture that did double duty and was the right scale and it made all the difference. Is that an option?
OR throw out a ton of stuff - that helped us too and I felt so much better.
Finally, people host in different ways. Clean the floor and throw down a blanket. Done.