I just need a place to vent. It's driving me crazy that all of these ftm on my bf twins fb group are all "on no, my little twincesses can't have any cake for their first birthday" I mean the sugar and butter the horror!! Seriously, shut up. Its their birtdhay. Lighten up!!!! No one is saying you need to feed your kale babies cake for dinner every night.
They are talking about meatloaf cakes (gluten free of course) with mashed potato frosting and watermelon cakes.
This is one of the most ridiculous trends ever. Just because you make something have layers does  not mean it's a cake. WTF people. WTF. Watermelon is watermelon.
It gets better - chocolate flavored avocado or sweet potato frosting!
DD cried on and off for about three hours last night. She seemed hungry but wouldn't latch and was just a miserable little thing.
How did you split up MOTN duties between the BF and non-BF parent? DW is up so much more than I am just because she has to feed the baby.
We've done different things for the first and second kid. With our first, I had DH get up for many of the feedings in the first few weeks to help with diapering and swaddling. In some cases this was probably good (I remember being kind of delirious from sleep deprivation MOTN), but other times we probably would have been better off having one of us get some better sleep. This time, I'm doing 99% of MOTN wakeups so far because DH needs the energy to watch DD (who STTN but is exhausting during the day). I don't know if most babies are like this or not, but for us in the early weeks the baby falls asleep quickly MOTN after a feeding, so there's not an extended ritual to get them to go back to sleep. If this is the case for you, I would recommend having the non-BF parent get more sleep now, but be ready to lose sleep later on when you've got a kid who won't fall asleep in the evenings. Also by having one parent be more rested, that parent can take care of more around the house including meal prep, letting the sleep-deprived parent nap more during the day.
I have a serious case of the wants. Our house that I adored when I bought it as a single woman over ten years ago is just really small for us as a family if 3. 1940s bungalow, 1100 sq ft. I really want to move and it's in our 4 year plan, but I want to move like, yesterday. To make matters worse, I found my dream home yesterday. I WASNT EVEN LOOKING! It is the house next door to a friend (good acquaintance not close friend) that us for sale, it is EXACTLY everything I want plus built in play mates ! But it's $75000 over our budget ...our 4 yrs from now budget. And, I started doing some meetups and I feel like I can never host anything here. The house is too small and I also feel like I will be judged by the other moms who are clearly more posh than we are.
Hugs... We just purchased our home and I feel the same why. It's great for right now, but after some play dates I'm in awe and wish we had a bigger, newer home. I keep reminding myself that this home helps us met our goals, and we save time and money due to its size (less stuff, cleaners host less, less overall work to maintain).
But we/I have a plan to "upgrade" in five/six years.
I tend to host at playgrounds, and then I just get over it?. I try to wow people with my baking as opposed to my home. LOL
The last part is making me lol because last night my moms playgroup (that I'm new to) did a potluck moms night, hosted at an AMAZING house. So I decided I would wow them with a berry cheesecake, cheesecake being my trademark dish, I can practically make them in my sleep. Well, either something happened when the electrician came and it wasn't baked enough, or the thousand degree heat here caused it to melt, but it was soup in the center. I was so embarrassed. It was a mess! So much for wowing them with my baking skills. (wilted)
DD cried on and off for about three hours last night. She seemed hungry but wouldn't latch and was just a miserable little thing.
How did you split up MOTN duties between the BF and non-BF parent? DW is up so much more than I am just because she has to feed the baby.
Hugs, those nights are tough! Usually I would get up and feed DD, and if she didn't fall back asleep after eating and some rocking I would pass her off to DH (and if she was still up after like an hour or whatever he could stand he'd pass her back).
DD napped for 90 minutes this morning and 2 hours this afternoon, plus a cat nap in the ergo. It's totally unlike her and has been amazing. I hope she's just making up for her short sleep last night and isn't getting sick.
Post by sporklemotion on Jun 18, 2015 16:54:35 GMT -5
I'm still reading through the posts, but rugbywife and water*drop, I could have written either of yours. My DH is well-intentioned, but a much better sleeper than I, which leads to MOTN frustration. Add to that a 19 month old who has suddenly decided that her new bed time is never, and things are tense. Like rugby's DD, DD1 will get so hysterical that she vomits, but right now, we are dealing with it by giving in to her. So she ends up overtired. DH and I need to get a plan and stick to it, but it's really tough when our entire evening is spent putting DD1 to bed. Hopefully, DD2 will start sleeping a bit longer soon (she gave us one 5 hour stretch two nights ago, but other than that hasn't done more than 2 or 3 hours), so we can talk to each other uninterrupted.
I just need a place to vent. It's driving me crazy that all of these ftm on my bf twins fb group are all "on no, my little twincesses can't have any cake for their first birthday" I mean the sugar and butter the horror!! Seriously, shut up. Its their birtdhay. Lighten up!!!! No one is saying you need to feed your kale babies cake for dinner every night.
They are talking about meatloaf cakes (gluten free of course) with mashed potato frosting and watermelon cakes.
I need a vomiting smiley for the "cakes" and their use of "twincesses."
Post by humpforfree on Jun 18, 2015 17:03:28 GMT -5
Crap. L didn't nap this afternoon, was a cranky butt and fell asleep at 4:15. It's 6 now and he's still asleep. I can't decide if I should wake him up now or wait and hope he eventually wakes up, pray he doesn't sleep through and wake up tomorrow at 4 am...
Post by MadamePresident on Jun 18, 2015 17:09:17 GMT -5
It's 5 pm and Nods is still with my parents. I should probably call to see if she will be home for dinner, but I'm hoping if I wait my mom will just feed her. I've had a pretty nice day with just Chase.
DH took the afternoon to go play golf. He was on the 18th hole over an hour ago so I expected him home, relatively soon. He just called, and after he said he was just now leaving the course, I hung up on him. I cannot handle two nights in a row of dinner/overly tired whining time from my three kids. I just cannot. And since I'm trying to hold it together with them, I am choosing to save my frustrations for him.
I just need a place to vent. It's driving me crazy that all of these ftm on my bf twins fb group are all "on no, my little twincesses can't have any cake for their first birthday" I mean the sugar and butter the horror!! Seriously, shut up. Its their birtdhay. Lighten up!!!! No one is saying you need to feed your kale babies cake for dinner every night.
They are talking about meatloaf cakes (gluten free of course) with mashed potato frosting and watermelon cakes.
Post by chickens987 on Jun 18, 2015 18:38:39 GMT -5
Signing in with an H vent.
We are SO not on the same page WRT discipline and it's driving me crazy. Tonight I volunteered to do bath and bedtime bc he has a headache. DD wouldn't get out of the tub, so when I pulled her out she was hysterical. Of course right as I get her calmed down, he comes in to "help", which just results in a bigger meltdown. And then he tries to leave, which of course results in more hysterics. It's like that awful FTM who is always jumping in to "help" soothe the baby. Leave me alone, I have it under control. I did it for 10 days while you were OOT dude. I feel like he thinks I am too harsh, I think he lets her walk all over him.