One of the guys I work with just brought me a bag of Garrett's popcorn (fancy popcorn you can only get in the city) because he was on his way home from the airport and I mentioned that I was craving some to his roommate earlier this week.
Sometimes I feel like I grew up in an alternate universe. I grew up in rural upstate NY too so it's not like it was super liberal either. Ex.1- the working mom debate. My mom worked as the breadwinner, all of my aunts worked, my friends' moms worked, really I can think of very very few SAHMs. It was always a given that you just work when you grow up. No one was shamed for doing so either... it was just normal. I mentioned in the other post that I am shamed for staying at home and feel guilty about it, even though I know that is not the standard. Ex.2- male vs female being "smarter." It was not until literally high school that I found out that boys are "supposed" to be smarter than girls/that stereotype. I always felt and had the impression that everyone thought boys were not as smart and girls were better at stuff. Lol. Clearly my parents and teachers did well at teaching my sister and I that girls can do whatever they want (except SAH ).
Basically every mother I encountered growing up was a SAHM, but I don't recall anyone telling me or even implying that boys were smarter than girls when I was a kid. I have obviously seen this sentiment expressed in various media, but to this day, I cannot recall anyone ever actually saying it to me IRL. Were other people actually made to believe that their intelligence was inferior as a result of their sex growing up? Yuck.
Not exactly but I definitely heard the "math/science is hard for girls" and "you're a really good reader" sentiment more than I should have.
Good: Got to go to the movies today for work... We saw Jurassic World. It was actually good! I probably wouldn't have seen it in theaters, but for free, during working hours? AWESOME!
Bad: But then I got back to my desk and ate some chocolate. I apparently dropped some on my chair at some point and it got smushed into the fabric. It looks like poop on my chair. I haven't checked to see if it's on my pants, but it probably doesn't look good. lol
Short story- H and I are supposed to run a 5k on Saturday but our babysitter (my niece) may not be as available now and I really don't want to sit out the race.
Long story- we signed up to run the race with my sister and my niece was going to come watch the race and DD. Sister had to back out because work is busy, which means niece isn't coming to the race, so now I don't know what to do. Take her to their house and bother my sister while she works at the house? I'm not sure I'd want my niece (15) watching her alone anyway since she can't drive.
Gah.
I'd let the 15 year old do this, even without a driver's license. Where does she need to go, really? 15 year olds babysit all the time.
DD cried on and off for about three hours last night. She seemed hungry but wouldn't latch and was just a miserable little thing.
How did you split up MOTN duties between the BF and non-BF parent? DW is up so much more than I am just because she has to feed the baby.
It's all a haze, lol, but I think I tried to go to bed before msniq and wake up earlier. Basically whatever nursing session turned into V being up for the day, I would take him and let her go back to sleep.
Post by humpforfree on Jun 18, 2015 13:00:40 GMT -5
Nooooo. Some dude wants to see my car, so I gave him my number and told him to text me. He wrote back that he would call. Come on man! I don't talk on the phone!
DD just napped from 1-2pm and that's it. There went my nice long afternoon nap. Now she's awake playing in her crib. We're going to a carnival tonight so I hope that short nap is enough to keep her in a good mood.
Short story- H and I are supposed to run a 5k on Saturday but our babysitter (my niece) may not be as available now and I really don't want to sit out the race.
Long story- we signed up to run the race with my sister and my niece was going to come watch the race and DD. Sister had to back out because work is busy, which means niece isn't coming to the race, so now I don't know what to do. Take her to their house and bother my sister while she works at the house? I'm not sure I'd want my niece (15) watching her alone anyway since she can't drive.
Gah.
Why does your niece have to know how to drive to babysit? Why can't your niece come to the race and watch DD while you run the 5K?
I have a serious case of the wants. Our house that I adored when I bought it as a single woman over ten years ago is just really small for us as a family if 3. 1940s bungalow, 1100 sq ft. I really want to move and it's in our 4 year plan, but I want to move like, yesterday. To make matters worse, I found my dream home yesterday. I WASNT EVEN LOOKING! It is the house next door to a friend (good acquaintance not close friend) that us for sale, it is EXACTLY everything I want plus built in play mates ! But it's $75000 over our budget ...our 4 yrs from now budget. And, I started doing some meetups and I feel like I can never host anything here. The house is too small and I also feel like I will be judged by the other moms who are clearly more posh than we are.
Hugs... We just purchased our home and I feel the same why. It's great for right now, but after some play dates I'm in awe and wish we had a bigger, newer home. I keep reminding myself that this home helps us met our goals, and we save time and money due to its size (less stuff, cleaners host less, less overall work to maintain).
But we/I have a plan to "upgrade" in five/six years.
I tend to host at playgrounds, and then I just get over it?. I try to wow people with my baking as opposed to my home. LOL
How did you split up MOTN duties between the BF and non-BF parent? DW is up so much more than I am just because she has to feed the baby.
DH was in charge of diapers and swaddling. He also was on dog duty b/c she was confused as to why this little thing was screaming and we were up MOTN.
So he would get her, unswaddle, change her while I got setup in the recliner. Then he handed her over (and in some cases assisted with latching) and then hung out while I fed.
DD cried on and off for about three hours last night. She seemed hungry but wouldn't latch and was just a miserable little thing.
How did you split up MOTN duties between the BF and non-BF parent? DW is up so much more than I am just because she has to feed the baby.
I BF,,when ours were that little DH did diaper changes and handed him to me. If he wouldn't sleep, DH typically was up with the baby, especially if he wasn't working the next day.
I am kind of pissed at DH but I don't know if I am being reasonable.
Long version: Basically, if we are both home, DS is my 'job' and DD is his. Premise is that DS needs me for nursing and during the day I have them both and DD is a lot of work so when he is home, he takes her.
Essentially the same plan works for MOTN. I am already up with DS multiple times a night, getting reduced sleep and rarely making it up during the day because they rarely nap at the same time. So for the rare occasions that DD wakes up, I will wake DH to check her (he sleeps like the dead).
Last night she woke, he went to take care of her but then she woke again. He just stayed in bed listening to her cry. So I had him pass me the monitor and tried to calm her using the mic. Didn't work, but he doesn't move. So finally I get up and go to her room and lay on the floor for 30 minutes.
This morning DH is all like, how long did you have to 'shush' her on the monitor. Apparently he had no idea I even got out of bed to be with her.
Short version: I am pissed because I had to get up MOTN to care for DD when I already have to do it for DS.
Newp. Newp. Newp. My H was 100% responsible for DD1 at night when DD2 was a newborn (and mostly still is now too). Wake him up by any means possible and tell him he has to get her back to sleep.
Same here. MOTN I am responsible for DD, and DH is responsible for DS. DH sleeps like THE DEAD, so I always hear DS wake up before DH does. I am not joking, I legit shove DH really hard to wake him up to deal with DS. I know I normally kowtow to DH, but in this instance I do not. It's his job, I make him do it.
Ugh. I know it's not really her fault and I need to set better boundaries but my Little Sister's mother doesn't drive so now my evening plans went from going home and passing out in the general vicinity of my family to running to the mall and probably spending money on a teenager. I'm so tired.
DD cried on and off for about three hours last night. She seemed hungry but wouldn't latch and was just a miserable little thing.
How did you split up MOTN duties between the BF and non-BF parent? DW is up so much more than I am just because she has to feed the baby.
When DH was home on paternity leave, we got up together with the baby. He got out of bed fast (so DD's crying wouldn't wake DS), unswaddled her, and changed her. I got out of bed slowly (recovering from c/s) and used the bathroom. I got comfy in the nursing chair and he brought her to me. Then he laid the swaddle out on the changing pad and went back to sleep. I nursed, swaddled DD, and put her back in the crib.
I just need a place to vent. It's driving me crazy that all of these ftm on my bf twins fb group are all "on no, my little twincesses can't have any cake for their first birthday" I mean the sugar and butter the horror!! Seriously, shut up. Its their birtdhay. Lighten up!!!! No one is saying you need to feed your kale babies cake for dinner every night.
They are talking about meatloaf cakes (gluten free of course) with mashed potato frosting and watermelon cakes.
Eta: and now I am just silently mocking them while they all laugh about how they are "that mom" tee hee. "Everyone is going to say I'm that mom but I don't care" "oh me too, lol" No idiots, I don't think you are "that mom" I think you are a sad ftm version of someone that wants to be "that mom"