Maybe twice a month, but come football season that vastly increases (he's either AT home games for the ENTIRE Sunday or he's watching the game somewhere/etc).
It actually annoys the sh*t out of me - not because I begrudge him the fandom, but because I'm supposed to consider the schedule for ALL weekend planning between Aug and January and it's a little ridiculous.
At least once a week H either goes to a friends or one comes over and they have beer in the garage. If he leaves he always waits till after bedtime. I don't mind.
Post by Velar Fricative on Jun 22, 2015 10:21:43 GMT -5
Definitely less than me. I picked once a month but even that might be a stretch.
However, he doesn't really do "nights" with people anyway. He's a teacher and if there are days or afternoons off when daycare is open, he'll go golfing with friends or something instead of going out for dinner.
DH goes out at least 1x every 2 weeks sometimes once a week. He is in a D&D league that meets nearly weekly and he is in 3 fantasy football leagues (2 of which he's in charge) and a fantasy baseball league. He gets out more than I do but I'm fine with that.
Post by badtzmaru22 on Jun 22, 2015 10:25:55 GMT -5
Never. . He is really lacking in the friend department. He had also worked second shift for so long, I don't think he would know what to do with himself anyway. He does have a BFF next door who works weird hours as well, so sometimes they go to the mircrobrewery together on a weekend afternoon.
I try to push my H out the door for more guy nights. He's been on a streak of once every few weeks now, but he can go months without one. He's more apt to go when there's a superhero or sci fi movie in theaters he really wants to see.
At least once a week. He plays poker every Friday night. He often goes to watch a game or have drinks after work. He goes to a concert prob every month or two. I go out a lot too but mine are often with the kids. I go on play dates with my friends, hang out at the school with my friends, doing activities with Girl Scouts and sports. I like that we are both able to do our own things and enjoy our friends/hobbies on our own.
Post by turtlegirl on Jun 22, 2015 10:37:27 GMT -5
Usually 1-2 times a month. He has two groups of guy friends that he tries to do things with pretty regularly (his "regular" friends and his former military buddies).
His friends actually all have really cool wives and most have kids around our kids ages, so we usually all get together as a big group for bbqs, sporting events, etc at least once a month as well.
Without me? Almost never. Once in a while with his family if I don't want to/can't go. A couple times a year lunch or other events with friends if I have a conflict. We met 10 years ago because our main social circles converged. I have other social circles he doesn't particularly.
Once every few months, but it's really just to go drink whiskey at one of their houses and all his friends have kids so it's almost always after kid bedtime.
Before we moved, he'd go out with a couple guys from work for a beer a couple times a year. And he'd go golfing on his mid-week day off (while I worked) occasionally.
Post by cincodemayo on Jun 22, 2015 10:50:18 GMT -5
Fairly often but seasonal. Probably equal to me.
He's in a fishing league now that is biweekly. He also goes out with friends on occasion. In the fall/winter he does stuff for football probably biweekly too.
It seems like all the damn time. He is the social one and I'm the homebody.
In reality, he works 2-3 nights a week, so it feels like he's 'out' more than he is. During the summer, he plays in a softball league (usually 1 night a week) and plays in golf tournaments (once every other week or so) so he's out more. His work also has more off duty events and meetings. And at that point, the guys will go out for a drink because they're already out. Doesn't matter to me, by that point I've already done the solo parenting and it's past bedtime. Enjoy your beverages, I'll be on the couch.
Post by christy082 on Jun 22, 2015 10:52:13 GMT -5
Much less now that we have a baby. He used to have monthly poker night at our house, but that doesn't fly now. He does grab lunch with a friend once or twice a month when they work on their side business.
Probably every other week, on average. A lot of times he will meet up with friends for a beer after DD goes to sleep on weeknights, and he has "scotch night" with a group of guys once a month. He definitely goes out more than I do, but I personally don't have the energy to go back out once I get home from work.
I go out far more than he does, but he values sleeping in far more than I do. So I let him sleep in Saturday & Sunday and then I go out at least weekly.
Same answer as for girls. He has fighter practice 2x/week and attends a weekend event (1-3 days) up to 2x/month. Just going to hang out with guys? Never
It isn't quite every month, but more often than every few months. Sometimes he does better but he doesn't have a lot of truly local guy friends. Most are 2ish hours away, which isn't convenient for weekly or even monthly. He's getting better about trying to go to a monthly game night with some coworkers, and sometimes he'll go out to the movies with my BIL.
Whenever he feels like it, I don't keep track. He will go out and get a drink and/or dinner on a weeknight with a friend if he's not working late or do so and then head back to the office. He has a lot of non-strictly-professional social events on weeknights, too.
He doesn't usually do a lot of that kind of stuff on the weekend because we either try to do date nights or I plan to go out with my own friends.