NMMMR: your bridesmaids

[jenn248]

I'm friends with all but one of my bridesmaids. We had a bit of a falling out in the months before my wedding, patched things up, and then had another falling out about a year later. She was one of my college roommates and we'd been friends for years before my wedding. I'm still very close with the others though (my sister, my other college roommates, and friends that I'd known since elementary or middle school).

DH only has brothers; I did not ask my SILs to be in the wedding party, but we did ask them and my sister's husband to do readings.

[sarahsas]

I am, I only had my sister and my best friend though. I was MOH in a wedding about 10 years ago and lost touch with that friend soon after. After she got married, her H got really controlling and we ended up not being able to hang out ever because of it. I finally gave up, then moved away.

[meij]

Yes, I just had four attendants, my closest friends. We had all been friends for ten years at that point and eight years later still all close.

My SIL still hasn't forgiven me for not having her as a bridesmaid, even though having my SILs would have doubled my bridal party. She was all pissy about it, we had her do a reading but she read with a scowl on her face and fake smiled during the photos. Yay! Funny enough when she got married years later she only wanted her friends in her bridal party and not her sister, let alone her SILs.

[irishbride2]

Most but j don't regret asking any of them. To me it was simply about who I was closest to at the time and would be emotionally supportive that day.

[Susie]

MOH (K):  yes, still super close.
BM (L):  yes, still super close.
BM (J):  eh, more like friendly acquaintance now.  Incidentally, she was a difficult bridesmaid.
BM (S):  SIL.
BM (K2):  not really close with anymore.

K, L, J, and I all went to college together and lived together at various points.  K, L, and I are all still very close with each other.  K and J are still friends, but L and I are less so with J.  L, J, and I were all in K's wedding less than a year ago.

I haven't seen K2 in a really long time, but nothing bad there.  We're pretty far apart in age.

[loreleigilmore]

I had four. My sister and three friends. I of course would not regret my sister. I speak to all of them regularly. One lives across the country, one lives an hour away and one lives about three hours away. I see each of them at least once a year. I speak to them about 2-3x per month.

[arebee]

My 'bridesmaids' were my brother and his wife. They are in the middle of a divorce so I probably should have chosen differently.

[chw57]

I had 3 and am only still close with my sister. I feel like I really suck at maintaining long distance friendships

[cherry1111]

I only had 3. My maid of honor and I are still close. I am still friendly with another and the last one I had a bit of a falling out with and we have never gotten it back together. She lives far away and our lives are very different now so I guess that is why neither of us made an effort to repair the rift.

[drloretta]

My 2 bridesmaids were my SILs, so I'm stuck with them My MOH was/is my BFF, and even though we live a good 3500 miles apart, we are still close.

[Deleted]

My sister was my only attendant. And I'm super close to her, like speak daily and text all day.

[shortstax]

1 - DH's sis
3 - college roommates (still close although we don't see each other often)
2 - friends from my hometown. one of them turned weird after having kids and cut everyone out with a "I DONT HAVE TIME FOR GIRLFRIENDS" manifesto. I wish I were kidding.
1 - DH's BF's then-wife. they were our couple friends. She cheated on him and went through a nasty divorce---so I don't really have a relationship with her.
1 - a random friend who I had just gotten to know right around wedding planning. One night while wasted I told her I wanted her to be a bridesmaid, lol. I stuck with it, and I'm so glad I did because she ended up becoming one of the best girlfriends in the world. I'm the closes with her than any of the above

[meltoine]

I'm glad I chose who I did. My sister was my MOH, and I had four BMs. One was a friend from infancy (our parents and grandparents were friends before us). I don't talk to her much now because she has a super demanding job, but I still love her and I'm close with her family.

I also had two friends from college, one of which was my roommate. I'm still close with both of them. We are godparents to each other's children.

The last one was a friend I met while studying abroad who I was super close with at the time but gave distanced myself from recently. She hasn't matured at all since college and is still taking money from her (not wealthy) parents every month for basic living expenses despite having been married and divorced in the interim, and she's dropped out if two grad school programs for no good reason. I can't be supportive of a lot of her life choices right now, so I'm keeping my distance. I don't regret having had her in my wedding. It would have felt incomplete without her at the time because we were so close back then.

[Deleted]

Yes. One was my childhood BFF. We've been friends since we were ~10. We're less close now because of geography etc. but still friends. My other one was my BFF from college. We met on the first day of freshman orientation and clicked. We haven't lived in the same city since college but we still talk on the phone all the time. It's the kind of relationship where you just pick up where you last left off. We have really similar ways of seeing the world and invariably have the same pov on basically everything. 

[mcfelix]

Well I have been married twice and I did not have attendants in my 2nd wedding (other than ring bearer and flower girl). The people I would have chosen (and my BFF that gave a speech) are still close friends.

1st wedding I had 9 bridesmaids.
- 4 of them (including my BFF) I am still extremely close to. Would have had them as bridesmaids the 2nd time around had we wanted a bridal party
- 3 other sorority sisters I am still friends with, but we unfortunately don't see each other often (1 lives far away)
- 1 friend from HS, she "chose" Ex-h when we split up, still asked me to be her bridesmaid but we haven't spoken since her wedding 8 years ago
- ex-H's sister, we are still fb friends but that's it

[moonpie]

I only had two and both were sisters. I do not speak to one.

[cobber06]

I'm close with all of mine- I had 3 cousins, my best friend, and my SIL.

I don't see one of my cousins very often as we are at different life stages and she is crazy busy, but I still feel close with her.

[Jalapeñomel]

I haven't talked to my MOH since I got married. Her SO wouldn't let her, I think. It's been almost 11 years.

[darnkatz]

I had only a maid of honor. We're not friends. Her choice. She just stopped talking to me three years ago when we moved. We were already on the rocks because she told me that my miscarriage a year prior to that was 'probably for the best' because I 'really didn't need another kid.'

[browneyedgirl9]

Yes. Had my 2 best friends from high school who im still close with. And my 2 sister in laws.

[laurenh]

Yup, they were my two sisters and my best friend. My only regret is not having my SIL but H didn't have anyone else that he wanted to add.

[moopoint17]

I'm very close with my sister (moh).

My other 2 bridesmaids (friends from high school) and I have that type of relationship where we won't talk to each other for months but we're still able to bond while we're together. I just had them over last week and it was the last time all 3 of us were together in the past 2 years.

[rugbywife]

Best friends with my MOH. I had a bridesman, he is my closest male friend, I lived with him for 4 years prior to meeting DH, he is kindly referred to as my ex (a joke made at our rehearsal dinner) and he is very close friends with my DH now. My other two were my SILs, who I consider sisters.

So yes. DH, on the other hand, almost never speaks to his Best Woman anymore. It makes me sad. But I think a lot of it has to do with living far away and the fact that we have kids now and they don't.

[GotWine]

My MOH was my sister and we are incredibly close. We live in different states and talk almost every day.

I had 1 bridesmaid and she hasn't spoken to me since I told her I was pregnant with dd almost 4 years ago. I could write a book on all of the drama she caused with my wedding, including falling asleep when I brought her to the dress shop to show her my wedding dress while I was trying it on!! She is I never kicked her out because I thought things would improve after my wedding.

I wish I asked my sil instead.

[hetty]

My moh was my SIL and I love her so much. Bridesmaids were my best friend since HS (I'll be in her wedding this summer), my two closest cousins, and H's SIL. I'm still happy that I chose all of them!

[pooh8402]

I had 5. 2 were my sisters, one my SIL, one my BFF from home, and the last my college roommate. The roommate is the only one I'm no longer close to. We didn't have a fall out or anything, just grew apart.

[nabum]

I had my 2 sisters, so yes.

[thejen626]

I had 4. We've been married 10 years.

One I'm still close with but our lives are opposites and we don't have much in common anymore.

One I haven't spoken to in over a year after she completely blew me off and no showed to a fancy restaurant brunch. We are still FB friends.

One is local but we don't hang out much anymore. Her DH had an affair several years ago and it got awkward to hang out after she told me all the shit he did and then stayed with him.

One is a RAGING BITCH and I ended our friendship after she made my baby shower into a drama festival. Good riddance.

[niq]

None of us live in the same city, but we still keep in touch and whenever we're in the same city we hang out.

[jennistarr1]

I am but seriously they were punk ass bitches all day so I wish I didn't have bridesmaids