Two of my closest friends came to visit me this weekend. One was my childhood friend and MOH (who was pleased as punch when she realized I look at her signature every day on the Ketubah we have hanging in our bedroom) and the other was my college roommate and also bridesmaid. Despite living in different cities for the last 13 years since I got married, I'm still very close with both of them.
So, this got me wondering. Are you still friends with/close with your bridesmaids? Are you glad you picked who you did? My other bridesmaids were all family.
No--I wish we would have eloped. One of my bridesmaids, who I had been friends with for years spent most of my wedding planning/wedding trying to make everything about her and making herself look stupid in front of my family. ETA--she also hit on one of the married groomsman. She basically ditched her H all night. In hindsight, I should have kicked her to the curb during planning for being such a jerk. She even called my mother to complain that I wasn't paying enough attention to her needs.
Post by dancingirl21 on Jun 22, 2015 13:40:19 GMT -5
My sister was my MOH and DH's 2 sisters as well as SIL were in our wedding. The other 2 were my childhood best friends. I am still close with both of them.
Yes, I'm still very close with my bridesmaids (my sister and two best friends). In fact, as of next year I will have been a bridesmaid in all of their weddings, too!
One was my sister, two were sorority sisters, and one was a close friend.
My sister is the only one local to me. My friend I see about twice a year when she's down visiting her parents who live close to me.
One sorority sister isn't really close to any of us anymore. She got a new group of friends that are the wives of her husband's friends. The other one lives OOT too and I try and see her once a year.
I had 9 bridesmaids. 3 college friends & 6 HS friends. They are all extremely close friends who I love dearly. I know it's crazy, but the only thing I regret is not asking a tenth. She is also in our group of childhood/HS friends and we have gotten closer over the years. She was an attendant, but I wish I had included her in the bridal party.
Post by longtimenopost on Jun 22, 2015 13:42:59 GMT -5
I had two SILs, my sorority big, and two other sorority sisters. I am not close with the two other sorority sisters but we were very close my senior year of college when we were wedding planning.
On a side note: would you be offended if your future SIL did not ask you to be a bridesmaid (brother's fiance). She is having 11 attendants, none of them family. Strange?
Out of the 9 bridesmaids, I'm still extremely close with all of them except one. The one is my ex-SIL and I can't stand her face but it has everything to do with her relationship with my brother and zero to do with me. My MOH and I aren't as close as we were since kids, jobs, and living cross country from eachother. But when we track eachother down for a conversation it's like nothing has changed at all.
One lives across the street from me, the other lives within the same city. We get together often. Actually, the one across the street I see less often other than waving at each other as we drive off in opposite directions, lol. We work different hours, our husbands work opposite shifts (same job) and we have kids in different ages/stages so we're in different directions most days. The other one is single, so she'll just stop by some nights when my DH is working.
Post by badtzmaru22 on Jun 22, 2015 13:46:01 GMT -5
I had a lot, because I had a bunch of family to include, and still wanted my friends.
MOH- my sister: I'm glad I chose her. She isn't speaking to me now, and I'm really sad about it. She didn't even invite me to her wedding.
SIL brother's wife: love her.
SIL1 and SIL2: DH's sisters: wasn't thrilled about having them at the time, but whatever. It was important to DH. Our relationships have been up and down, but they're ok now.
Two HS BFFs: still friends. I was in both of their weddings- one was last month. We live 6 and 8 hrs away, and I've seen them both several times in the last two months.
Two college BFFs: still friends. We live 8 hours away, and they've both made trips here recently.
Post by antoniamarchette on Jun 22, 2015 13:46:23 GMT -5
I had my sister, one of my sister in law's and 3 friends. 2 of my friends I'm not that close with any more. I was happy with my decision at the time but thinking now I probably would have cut out one of the friends and possibly my sister in law. We aren't close and it was more uncomfortable than anything. Especially because her sister didn't want to be in the wedding.
Post by turtlegirl on Jun 22, 2015 13:47:25 GMT -5
Yes. MOH was my sister.
My two bridesmaids were friends from jr. High and high school. They both love about 8-10 hours away (in opposite directions), so I usually only get to see them once a year. But we keep in touch through FB and texts pretty regularly and whenever we do get together in person we pick up right where we left off. Love them both!
I had 9 bridesmaids (I know, I know) - my sister, cousin, 2 SILs, and the group of 5 friends I have known for a million years. Still very close with everyone.
Two of my closest friends came to visit me this weekend. One was my childhood friend and MOH (who was pleased as punch when she realized I look at her signature every day on the Ketubah we have hanging in our bedroom) and the other was my college roommate and also bridesmaid. Despite living in different cities for the last 13 years since I got married, I'm still very close with both of them.
So, this got me wondering. Are you still friends with/close with your bridesmaids? Are you glad you picked who you did? My other bridesmaids were all family.
I had a ridiculously large wedding party which I would not do again, but not because I don't like them.
I had 2 sisters, 1 cousin, 2 high school friends, 3 college friends, and my SIL.
I see all of them regularly and anticipate being close with them forever.
ETA: I would can my SIL and add my other high school BFF and my H begged me to do that from the beginning.
My 3 sisters yes. I'm Facebook friends with the other. I realized the other day she has never ever once like or responded to a single post or photo. Not even ones announcing the birth of our child or a picture on our tenth anniversary.
Some of them yes. My BFF/maid of honor and I are on the outs. We have a really shitty relationship, especially since I had a kid. We've not spoken in 10 days.
I'm an only child, so no siblings, and I've never been especially close to my three SILs (though in hindsight, I probably should have had them in the wedding somehow).
One was my BFF from kindergarten. We're still close, even though we haven't lived in the same state (hell, sometimes even the same country) since about 1987.
One was my BFF from junior high on - we went to HS and college together, and have remained close, even though we're in different states now.
The third was a work friend - we still visit each other a couple of times a year.
I was supposed to have a fourth, she flaked a few months before the wedding, then like six months later, completely went AWOL. I didn't hear from her for years, and suddenly had a FB friend request from her (she had unfriended me with no explanation). No note, no nothing, just started "liking" and commenting on pictures like nothing had ever happened. So weird.
Post by rootbeerfloat on Jun 22, 2015 13:53:15 GMT -5
I was in a wedding with 9 bridesmaids!
I had my sister (MOH), HS BFF, and college BFF. HS BFF and I are not that close anymore. College BFF and I are still pretty close considering we live thousands of miles apart and never see each other.
Post by mandapanda18 on Jun 22, 2015 13:53:18 GMT -5
3 out of 4. I had my twin (MOH), bff, H's sister and another friend. The other friend was actually kind enough to be a replacement bridesmaid for my step-sister who bailed, so it is not really a typical deal. Her H was already in the wedding and the dress (which I had paid for) fit.... she is sweet and I like her enough, we are just far away and not super close.
I had 5: My 3 sisters - I'm really close to them, we talk regularly despite living in different cities.
My cousin - still close but only get to see her once a year due to living in different provinces. She lives a kid-free lifestyle in a big city so we don't have as much in common anymore.
My BFF from highschool (MOH) - We have definitely drifted apart. We both have young kids and we just haven't found time to get together or talk much in the last couple of years. I still consider her a good friend but she wouldn't be the first person I would call in a crisis.
Yes, my MOH is my childhood best friend and we are still really close even though we are on opposite coasts. She is godmother to DD and I chose her birthday as my c-section date for DS. My other two live locally and I text with them almost every day and see them at least once a month.
MOH - stopped talking to day after wedding. I should have kicked her out when we were engaged but I didn't and I regret that. I wish SIL was my MOH but oh well.
Bridesmaids - SIL who I'm still close to and 3 friends. 1 friend I don't talk to anymore but the other 2 I'm very close to still.
H - Doesn't hate, but isn't close to BM anymore. He still talks to all his groomsmen and ushers that were his friends (my brothers and a cousin were also in wedding)
I still talk to my SIL, and two best friends who shared MOH duties. My other two were DH's cousin, who I used to be very close to but no associate with, she has made some life choices that are very unhealthy. The other was my college BFF who moved across the country with her awful boyfriend a few years ago. We still talk, but she has flaked out on several visits since I got married, including on where she was in my city with boyfriend and his family, and I waited all day for her to show up at a mutual sorority sister's house for a bbq. She kept sending texts that they were on their way, and at midnight all the sudden they were back at their hotel and "exhausted". I didn't have communication with her for several years after that.
On a side note: would you be offended if your future SIL did not ask you to be a bridesmaid (brother's fiance). She is having 11 attendants, none of them family. Strange?
I might find this strange, but especially so if I get along with future SIL and/or am close with my brother.
Some yes and one no. My sister is a yes and one of my good friends from high school. His sister I was never close to nor was he just had her to be nice. My best friend from college who I lived with after school as well was my fourth but ever since I had my son she has been phasing herself out and now I barely talk to her anymore