Monday Night!

[krystee]

How is your night?

We survived the first day of daycare! He was happy when we dropped off and happy when we picked up, and she said that he almost never cries, so I am calling it a win!

It was so adorable when the 2-year-old announced my arrival (Baby Jack's mommy is here!!!) and all the little kids (four in total, all around 3-4) were saying, "See you tomorrow, baby Jack! Good night, baby Jack! Have fun with your mommy, Jack!"

It was so sweet how they have taken him under their wing already.

Also, he did not eat enough, but he napped three times for an hour or more each! She is magical. I can barely get two 25-minute naps out of him. He has since taken another short nap since coming home.

[spk926]

That's great he had a good first day!

DH is out with friends so it's just DD and I all day today. Once she woke up from her nap we went for a run to a far park. As soon as we got there it started raining. So I ran back in the rain. We get home and it stopped and the skies are blue and sunny. I just had to laugh!

[zarapipe]

Sounds great!
Watching OITNB while dd is in the bath. Dh is working late all week. I started a fb book club! Hopefully a few people I invited join and we have a good meeting in a month! I need a moms night out

[ssmjlm]

DH and I are having a disagreement on approaching a builder about building a house. I think we need a realtor, he says we don't just to talk to them. If we do a contract, then we'll get a realtor. The problem is the realtor we were working with has flaked, but DH doesn't want to find another one. I'm like "just text your friend and see who they used." But we don't want anyone to know we're thinking of moving yet.

[Deleted]

I can't breathe and I'm so constipated. Today was not my idealized first day of maternity leave. I almost threw out my debit card too. Here's hoping I can sleep tonight. Already in bed....

[Brie]

I successfully navigated P's IFSP meeting solo. He will be getting weekly PT and monthly OT for now. I'm happy with that.

My work friend got me a mixed six pack for my birthday. I can't wait to tear into it once P goes down.

[hermione]

C's missing tooth looks...bad. I cried when I saw it. Then I felt like asshole for crying about something so trivial and shallow.

[Brie]

Also I am still vaguely angry at rugbywife for rejecting my sea salt caramel gift in my dream yesterday.

[Deleted]

We had a great first day of vacation. We went to the beach for the morning, out to lunch, then the girls napped while we sat out on the deck and had a glass of champagne and read while J ran around the yard. Then H and I went to an early dinner while my mom watched the kids.

I feel both refreshed and exhausted.

[pinotgrig]

I feel like twins are in the water! A friend had hers today, one friend is expecting twins, another has twins g's age, and another friend announced her twin of today. H is terrified, lol.

G took a nap on a mat at daycare today. It went pretty well - fingers crossed it continues!

[countthestars]

Jun 22, 2015 18:30:28 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

DH and I are having a disagreement on approaching a builder about building a house. I think we need a realtor, he says we don't just to talk to them. If we do a contract, then we'll get a realtor. The problem is the realtor we were working with has flaked, but DH doesn't want to find another one. I'm like "just text your friend and see who they used." But we don't want anyone to know we're thinking of moving yet.

I missed the backstory - Are you looking to buy in a development that already has a builder? Do you have a plot of land in mind but no builder? Starting from scratch?

[ssmjlm]

Jun 22, 2015 18:49:57 GMT -5 countthestars said:

Jun 22, 2015 18:30:28 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

DH and I are having a disagreement on approaching a builder about building a house. I think we need a realtor, he says we don't just to talk to them. If we do a contract, then we'll get a realtor. The problem is the realtor we were working with has flaked, but DH doesn't want to find another one. I'm like "just text your friend and see who they used." But we don't want anyone to know we're thinking of moving yet.

I missed the backstory - Are you looking to buy in a development that already has a builder? Do you have a plot of land in mind but no builder? Starting from scratch?

There is a 9 lot development near us.  The lots were bought by various builders to be built, but it appears the community is represented by one realtor.  The lot we prefer is owned by a builder DH used to work for and wrestled with his son in high school.

DH just wants to talk to to the builder to see if the lot and possible house are in our budget. 

[biscoffcookies]

Jun 22, 2015 18:30:28 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

DH and I are having a disagreement on approaching a builder about building a house. I think we need a realtor, he says we don't just to talk to them. If we do a contract, then we'll get a realtor. The problem is the realtor we were working with has flaked, but DH doesn't want to find another one. I'm like "just text your friend and see who they used." But we don't want anyone to know we're thinking of moving yet.

At least with builders like Pulte that do big subdivisions of new construction, I read that if you don't have a realtor with you when you make your first contact/visit (e.g. to see the model home or whatever), the builder will refuse to pay your realtor's commission when you go to enter into a sales contract. Our buyer's agency agreement has a clause that specifically requires that we communicate via our realtor with a builder and/or take them with us when we visit their homes I think to avoid this.

[ssmjlm]

Jun 22, 2015 18:52:52 GMT -5 biscoffcookies said:

Jun 22, 2015 18:30:28 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

DH and I are having a disagreement on approaching a builder about building a house. I think we need a realtor, he says we don't just to talk to them. If we do a contract, then we'll get a realtor. The problem is the realtor we were working with has flaked, but DH doesn't want to find another one. I'm like "just text your friend and see who they used." But we don't want anyone to know we're thinking of moving yet.

At least with builders like Pulte that do big subdivisions of new construction, I read that if you don't have a realtor with you when you make your first contact/visit (e.g. to see the model home or whatever), the builder will refuse to pay your realtor's commission when you go to enter into a sales contract. Our buyer's agency agreement has a clause that specifically requires that we communicate via our realtor with a builder and/or take them with us when we visit their homes I think to avoid this.

This is my fear.  Which is why I'm just trying to get a new realtor.

[rugbywife]

So tonight solidified my belief that I cannot handle putting DD down while also caring for DS. Just isn't going to work, at least not now. They both happen to require too much attention at the same time in the evening. This is only the 2nd time I have done it and it is essentially 90-120 minutes of sheer hell. I am sure others can hack it, I can't.

Now that they are out I need to address the shit show that is my house. Oh, and maybe eat dinner.

[ssmjlm]

Jun 22, 2015 18:57:17 GMT -5 @natariru said:

We are taking S to my parents for the night so we can go to our first RE appt early tomorrow morning. I think we might go see Inside Out after dropping him off.

S has been fighting getting into his car seat & screaming his head off. He's never done this. He's pushing against the seat with his legs & hanging from the handle above the window so it's especially difficult to get him in.
I don't want to flip him forward yet but I might have to. Someone tell me 2 yrs and 4 months is ok.

It's ok to turn him.  We turned E and all of the car seat tantrums stopped.

[cricketwife]

Jun 22, 2015 18:41:00 GMT -5 hermione said:

C's missing tooth looks...bad. I cried when I saw it. Then I felt like asshole for crying about something so trivial and shallow.

I can understand this. If it helps, my Bff's son lost his tooth when his brother knocked him into the stairs or something. (Same tooth as C.)  It kind of became this cute, endearing feature about him since it was years until the permanent touch came in. Like, it really was cute after the initial shock. I'm really sorry. 

[yellowbrkrd]

Today was rough. I had to have a chat with one of my employees about her performance and she was extremely defensive. I hate having conversations like that.

On top of that, I was super busy today but the exhaustion has hit and I could barely stay awake to get anything done. Early bedtime for me tonight.

[water*drop]

We're supposed to get storms with heavy winds tonight. DH's fear of a tree falling on our house had rubbed off on me, and now I'm not going to be able to sleep. We can't hear the tornado sirens from our house, either, which is annoying since it's less than a mile from our house.

[namasteak]

Isn't it great when you throw dinner together and you're not sure it will taste ok but it's delicious? I made a taco salad tonight and it was so good!

DH is exhausted and cranky so I think I'll read in the porch for awhile before taking a bath.

[Deleted]

yellowbrkrd, that sucks. I have to give a bad review this week and put someone on a PIP. I have had 3 of those conversations with him and he still isn't performing. It sucks every single time. I'm dreading it.

@natariru, hope tomorrow goes OK and you get some answers or an action plan.

[longtimenopost]

DD was a beast today. I hope it's not an ear infection or shunt malfunction. When I got home from work it was a Mommy only kind of night - hard when I'm supposed to be horizontal when I'm home! Poor DH.

[yellowbrkrd]

Jun 22, 2015 19:11:30 GMT -5 water*drop said:

We're supposed to get storms with heavy winds tonight. DH's fear of a tree falling on our house had rubbed off on me, and now I'm not going to be able to sleep. We can't hear the tornado sirens from our house, either, which is annoying since it's less than a mile from our house.

My dogs are hiding in the basement again, so I assume something is coming through soon (though I heard it was supposed to be further south.) Hopefully you'll get one of those phone notifications if anything comes through the area. 

[glitzy07]

I think I'm starting to get some energy back! I have no clue if it's from upping my dose of thyroid meds or getting close to second trimester, but I'll take it since I don't feel like a zombie by 7pm.

[mpc]

Jun 22, 2015 18:30:28 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

DH and I are having a disagreement on approaching a builder about building a house. I think we need a realtor, he says we don't just to talk to them. If we do a contract, then we'll get a realtor. The problem is the realtor we were working with has flaked, but DH doesn't want to find another one. I'm like "just text your friend and see who they used." But we don't want anyone to know we're thinking of moving yet.

We are building and didn't use a realtor. sometimes I wonder if we could've gotten a better deal if we had...? I'll never know. I asked the lady we are working with and she said 90% of their customers don't have realtors. She also said that you have to have one with you at your first visit or they won't agree to pay them their commission. 

[niq]

Lol I told the contractor "just leave the key in the garage and close it" but didn't tell him WHERE. So I am locked out of my own house.

Dinner out, with the whole crew, hopefully mom or ILs know where the key is

[rugbywife]

Crap, I started typing something and then DH texted me and I totally lost my train of thought!

I wore my fitbit in my pocket during my walk today and for sure it is more accurate that way...yay - except most of my yoga crops don't have pockets (oh, I guess they have that little key pocket, that could work). And yes, I am planning on wearing yoga crops the entire summer. I am that girl. I just bought three new pairs of the fake lulu ones at costco.

[rugbywife]

Can i just say that I am SO.JEALOUS of anyone who can build their own house. I dream of winning the lottery so we could afford to do it. I would be in heaven.

[ssmjlm]

Jun 22, 2015 19:29:01 GMT -5 rugbywife said:

Can i just say that I am SO.JEALOUS of anyone who can build their own house. I dream of winning the lottery so we could afford to do it. I would be in heaven.

We are only looking into it b/c we are being gifted a very generous downpayment.  Otherwise we wouldn't be moving at all.


I told DH what you ladies brought up, he got pissy, and went upstairs.

[mpc]

I saw my PCP today. I wanted to ask about my thyroid numbers. From what I've read here, it sounds like it might be a little high, but he dismissed it right off. He was like "putting you on thyroid meds won't get you pregnant. you're overweight. you need to lose weight."

I mean, I know that. but it still kinda sucked. and I'm sitting there thinking, gee I never thought of that before. what an easy fix!

he wants me to go on metformin. which I've always kind of known was an option at some point. i guess if it could help... i don't know why i'm so hesitant.