Recovering from a divorce is a funny thing. Maybe he thought he was over it and was giving it a shot with you to prove to him that it was over, but even though he hoped it was true, it hadn't happened yet.
Again, I am sorry. I know it hurts like a mo' fo'. (((hugs)))
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Post by underwaterrhymes on Jul 18, 2015 11:35:28 GMT -5
I'm so sorry.
I know this is an anecdote and every situation is different, but when H and I were dating I fell pretty hard. He was in the process of applying for the Peace Corps, and I really didn't want him to go. He told me he wasn't sure if he loved me and that he never wanted to get married or have kids and that he had decided to accept the invitation. And we broke up because I sure as fuck was not going to wait around for 2 years for someone who didn't love me.
I was devastated. We broke up for three weeks and got back together right before he left. Once he was over there, he realized he did love me after all. I wound up moving over there too (independently, not with the PC) after I finished my Masters Degree. And here we are 10 years later, married, with a toddler, and another baby on the way.
I'm not saying that's necessarily the way this will play out, but even awesome guys can be pretty dumb sometimes and occasionally it takes something like this to make them see.
I hope things work out the way you want them to, but in the meantime just know that you are awesome and this is not a reflection of whether or not he knows this or does love you, but rather his own insecurities. It sounds like you DO know this, but I wanted to reaffirm.