I can't stand all the "look how great this cop is" stories lately. 99% of the time they are doing their job. It is all damage control and the fact that you even need damage control for a whole profession speaks volumes.
And tonight on the news look how great texas police officers are.
Post by penguingrrl on Jul 23, 2015 9:10:51 GMT -5
I do love hearing about an officer who goes above and beyond in the performance of their job duties. But I'm tired of the way some people are trying to use it to drown the noise of the black lives matter movement and to dismiss that some police are absolutely racist and that many people are dying at the hands of police because of it. Nobody is trying to say all police are racist and all police are trying to kill black (or hispanic or any other minority) people. Just that there is a systemic problem that needs to be addressed. You can have great cops and racist cops. It's not either or. Just like any profession, some are far better at their jobs than others.
I do love hearing about an officer who goes above and beyond in the performance of their job duties. But I'm tired of the way some people are trying to use it to drown the noise of the black lives matter movement and to dismiss that some police are absolutely racist and that many people are dying at the hands of police because of it. Nobody is trying to say all police are racist and all police are trying to kill black (or hispanic or any other minority) people. Just that there is a systemic problem that needs to be addressed. You can have great cops and racist cops. It's not either or. Just like any profession, some are far better at their jobs than others.
I agree. However why is it we only see these stories about cops on the news? Teachers, nurses and a lot of other professions go out of their way too, a lot.
I do love hearing about an officer who goes above and beyond in the performance of their job duties. But I'm tired of the way some people are trying to use it to drown the noise of the black lives matter movement and to dismiss that some police are absolutely racist and that many people are dying at the hands of police because of it. Nobody is trying to say all police are racist and all police are trying to kill black (or hispanic or any other minority) people. Just that there is a systemic problem that needs to be addressed. You can have great cops and racist cops. It's not either or. Just like any profession, some are far better at their jobs than others.
I agree. However why is it we only see these stories about cops on the news? Teachers, nurses and a lot of other professions go out of their way too, a lot.
My guess is that it frequently has to do with the level of drama surrounding police work. A teacher may turn your child around over the course of a year but it's slow and steady work generally. A police officer saving a life often involves some sort of dramatic rescue, not quiet support. You also hear about random strangers saving lives in dramatic fashion.
Nobody knew about the police officer who recognized my brother's depression for what it was and that he needed hospitalization instead of jail because it was slow and steady, but without a doubt he saved my brother's life. That story wouldn't have made the news either, for the same reason that a teacher recognizing the same wouldn't.
That's not to say that teachers don't have the same impact. Without question or doubt they do, but that doesn't make for a flashy headline.
I agree. However why is it we only see these stories about cops on the news? Teachers, nurses and a lot of other professions go out of their way too, a lot.
My guess is that it frequently has to do with the level of drama surrounding police work. A teacher may turn your child around over the course of a year but it's slow and steady work generally. A police officer saving a life often involves some sort of dramatic rescue, not quiet support. You also hear about random strangers saving lives in dramatic fashion.
Nobody knew about the police officer who recognized my brother's depression for what it was and that he needed hospitalization instead of jail because it was slow and steady, but without a doubt he saved my brother's life. That story wouldn't have made the news either, for the same reason that a teacher recognizing the same wouldn't.
That's not to say that teachers don't have the same impact. Without question or doubt they do, but that doesn't make for a flashy headline.
But I am not even talking about saving lives. Like the story that made our news a couple of weeks ago was about an officer holding and talking to a two year old while taking a report. Look how sweet he was. Stuff like that. Or this police officer bought diapers for this mom. While all of this is nice it's not out of character for most public service professionals.
My guess is that it frequently has to do with the level of drama surrounding police work. A teacher may turn your child around over the course of a year but it's slow and steady work generally. A police officer saving a life often involves some sort of dramatic rescue, not quiet support. You also hear about random strangers saving lives in dramatic fashion.
Nobody knew about the police officer who recognized my brother's depression for what it was and that he needed hospitalization instead of jail because it was slow and steady, but without a doubt he saved my brother's life. That story wouldn't have made the news either, for the same reason that a teacher recognizing the same wouldn't.
That's not to say that teachers don't have the same impact. Without question or doubt they do, but that doesn't make for a flashy headline.
But I am not even talking about saving lives. Like the story that made our news a couple of weeks ago was about an officer holding and talking to a two year old while taking a report. Look how sweet he was. Stuff like that. Or this police officer bought diapers for this mom. While all of this is nice it's not out of character for most public service professionals.
Oh. I haven't seen anything like that. It's nice and all, but that's not news. At least, I don't consider it news when a police officer also happens to be a decent human being.
That bullshit is absolutely to deflect from the black lives matter movement and is bullshit.
But I am not even talking about saving lives. Like the story that made our news a couple of weeks ago was about an officer holding and talking to a two year old while taking a report. Look how sweet he was. Stuff like that. Or this police officer bought diapers for this mom. While all of this is nice it's not out of character for most public service professionals.
Oh. I haven't seen anything like that. It's nice and all, but that's not news. At least, I don't consider it news when a police officer also happens to be a decent human being.
That bullshit is absolutely to deflect from the black lives matter movement and is bullshit.
Post by andrewsgal on Jul 23, 2015 10:20:35 GMT -5
I have two FB "friends" who have outed that their spouses cheated on them. One actually on FB and one through a private message she sent to me and 100 of her closest friends. They are both now back with their husbands.
I judge the shit out of them. Not for staying with their husbands and working on the marriage I think that's a to each their own thing. But for not being close friends with these ladies I know way too many details of their husbands affairs (one was two years and he paid for an abortion for his mistress). I actually feel bad for their husbands in this. There is no reason the whole world needs to know about their marriage problems. I see these spouses frequently and it's weird.
Post by penguingrrl on Jul 23, 2015 10:28:37 GMT -5
That's so bizarre! I know a few people who put way too much out there on FB, too, though. One woman I knew all the details of her marriage breaking up and the back and forth (he's moving out, he's moving back in, he's moving back out) surrounding it. And details of her hysterectomy. I haven't spoken to or seen her since high school and we were never close, but knew each other well enough to reconnect on FB. She's also friends with a HS teacher (our theater teacher, so we were close to him) and putting that kind of stuff out there for teachers and people she barely knows to see. I'll admit I only keep her in my newsfeed for entertainment value.
I have two FB "friends" who have outed that their spouses cheated on them. One actually on FB and one through a private message she sent to me and 100 of her closest friends. They are both now back with their husbands.
I judge the shit out of them. Not for staying with their husbands and working on the marriage I think that's a to each their own thing. But for not being close friends with these ladies I know way too many details of their husbands affairs (one was two years and he paid for an abortion for his mistress). I actually feel bad for their husbands in this. There is no reason the whole world needs to know about their marriage problems. I see these spouses frequently and it's weird.
I had one of my FB "friends" from childhood that's wife did something similar. She hacked into his FB account & posted his status something like "to all the bitches out there you can have Chris he's a lying cheating bastard". I was like wow! It took him over 24 hours to de-activate his FB account.
I mean my husband is a lying cheating bastard but I don't need the entire world to know only a select few, like everyone on here.... but you don't know me IRL so it's different.
That's so bizarre! I know a few people who put way too much out there on FB, too, though. One woman I knew all the details of her marriage breaking up and the back and forth (he's moving out, he's moving back in, he's moving back out) surrounding it. And details of her hysterectomy. I haven't spoken to or seen her since high school and we were never close, but knew each other well enough to reconnect on FB. She's also friends with a HS teacher (our theater teacher, so we were close to him) and putting that kind of stuff out there for teachers and people she barely knows to see. I'll admit I only keep her in my newsfeed for entertainment value.
I hate FB over sharing. FB is for cute pics of your kids, funny stories, sharing the occasional frustrating story, etc.
But, I keep an old co worker in my newsfeed because she's a hate read for me. Such entertainment
That's so bizarre! I know a few people who put way too much out there on FB, too, though. One woman I knew all the details of her marriage breaking up and the back and forth (he's moving out, he's moving back in, he's moving back out) surrounding it. And details of her hysterectomy. I haven't spoken to or seen her since high school and we were never close, but knew each other well enough to reconnect on FB. She's also friends with a HS teacher (our theater teacher, so we were close to him) and putting that kind of stuff out there for teachers and people she barely knows to see. I'll admit I only keep her in my newsfeed for entertainment value.
I hate FB over sharing. FB is for cute pics of your kids, funny stories, sharing the occasional frustrating story, etc.
But, I keep an old co worker in my newsfeed because she's a hate read for me. Such entertainment
Ditto the over sharers. The other entertaining ones are the ones who pretend their spouse is perfect and they have the perfect relationship. Sorry girl, your dh is a douche. It's just impossible to look away though...
I have two FB "friends" who have outed that their spouses cheated on them. One actually on FB and one through a private message she sent to me and 100 of her closest friends. They are both now back with their husbands.
I judge the shit out of them. Not for staying with their husbands and working on the marriage I think that's a to each their own thing. But for not being close friends with these ladies I know way too many details of their husbands affairs (one was two years and he paid for an abortion for his mistress). I actually feel bad for their husbands in this. There is no reason the whole world needs to know about their marriage problems. I see these spouses frequently and it's weird.
I had one of my FB "friends" from childhood that's wife did something similar. She hacked into his FB account & posted his status something like "to all the bitches out there you can have Chris he's a lying cheating bastard". I was like wow! It took him over 24 hours to de-activate his FB account.
I mean my husband is a lying cheating bastard but I don't need the entire world to know only a select few, like everyone on here.... but you don't know me IRL so it's different.
Yes! See sharing on here is different. We don't know your husband, see him or have to talk to him.
I hate FB over sharing. FB is for cute pics of your kids, funny stories, sharing the occasional frustrating story, etc.
But, I keep an old co worker in my newsfeed because she's a hate read for me. Such entertainment
Ditto the over sharers. The other entertaining ones are the ones who pretend their spouse is perfect and they have the perfect relationship. Sorry girl, your dh is a douche. It's just impossible to look away though...
Yes this one will no doubt post how great he is in a couple of months like we should forget about his two year affair while you were pregnant.
I have two FB "friends" who have outed that their spouses cheated on them. One actually on FB and one through a private message she sent to me and 100 of her closest friends. They are both now back with their husbands.
I judge the shit out of them. Not for staying with their husbands and working on the marriage I think that's a to each their own thing. But for not being close friends with these ladies I know way too many details of their husbands affairs (one was two years and he paid for an abortion for his mistress). I actually feel bad for their husbands in this. There is no reason the whole world needs to know about their marriage problems. I see these spouses frequently and it's weird.
I can see wanting to do this in a moment of anger, but I can't imagine following through. The whole world doesn't need to know my business.
Sort of related- My sister and her husband had a fight on fb the other day. They have a joint fb account, so they we're arguing with each other under the same screen name. It was kind of hilarious. But seriously, pick up the dang phone. All of your friends don't need to see you fight.
I cannot stand the shared fb accounts! Please, either get your own account or don't have one at all. Nobody thinks it's cute. It just makes me think someone in your relationship has trust issues (warranted or not).
I cannot stand the shared fb accounts! Please, either get your own account or don't have one at all. Nobody thinks it's cute. It just makes me think someone in your relationship has trust issues (warranted or not).
Right?!
Nothing says, "I trust my spouse" like a joint Facebook account.
I cannot stand the shared fb accounts! Please, either get your own account or don't have one at all. Nobody thinks it's cute. It just makes me think someone in your relationship has trust issues (warranted or not).
Yep I think either trust issues or the husband is super controlling
Oh and re: the cop stories, I have a family member (IL side) who posts that shit all the time. The thing is that it's just so beyond the point. The people who do it to discredit the BLM movement are just so clueless. Just because some random cop or two or three or fifty do something great, doesn't mean the systemic shit isn't very real and very very problematic. Missing.the.point.
Post by dizzycooks on Jul 23, 2015 12:59:04 GMT -5
Tffc apparently I'm the controlling one. Dh and I didn't have fb until about 5 years ago and we didn't plan on getting it, but it became apparent we were missing certain social things by not being online. We got it simply to stay in touch with a few specific things. Now I use it 99.9% of the time, but his name is a part of the sn which I actually like bc it makes it borderline impossible for students to find me. Old, technologically inept, controlling...not so much. Although I guess you'll need to define old. I got called a young mom yesterday and I just laughed.
Tffc apparently I'm the controlling one. Dh and I didn't have fb until about 5 years ago and we didn't plan on getting it, but it became apparent we were missing certain social things by not being online. We got it simply to stay in touch with a few specific things. Now I use it 99.9% of the time, but his name is a part of the sn which I actually like bc it makes it borderline impossible for students to find me. Old, technologically inept, controlling...not so much. Although I guess you'll need to define old. I got called a young mom yesterday and I just laughed.
I think Taylor swift is a fake ass feminist. And I also think she is a master manipulator of the media. She curates this sweet down to earth girl next door image when in reality she is mega rich and doesn't give a shit about the black experience.
I don't get the big deal about having a joint facebook? I guess my UO is that I don't give a crap if someone has a joint facebook with the SO or one of their own. I didn't even realize that people hated joint facebook accounts until one of my friends posted a Meme about it. What's the problem?
For the record, we do not have a joint account. H doesn't do FB.