You guys are right. This isn't a healthy start to a relationship, and I really can't see it working out from here. My post was more to ask how to deal with this new info about the recent divorce/pregnant ex, and to vent about finding such a great guy, then having him turn out to be sketchy.
I made the out of my league comment mostly because he blows the other men I've dated out of the water. I'm just not used to being with someone so smart, charming, and with the body of a Greek god. It was intimidating to me! But with his drama, he's not worth it. Don't judge a book by its cover, right?
I made the out of my league comment mostly because he blows the other men I've dated out of the water. I'm just not used to being with someone so smart, charming, and with the body of a Greek god. It was intimidating to me! But with his drama, he's not worth it. Don't judge a book by its cover, right?
100% right. I'll spare you the anecdotes, but ANYONE can put on a good show for a few dates. I've known guys who fit the outward description that you listed but reality was far, far different.
All signs point to it being his, unless she's SUPER shady and tried to pass it off as his at first, then he found out it wasn't.
The FB announcement is their son in a big brother shirt, and he's tagged in the post - something like "Yep, we're expecting baby #2!" He's tagged in a lot of the congratulatory comments. He's in a couple more posts after that, check ins at restaurants or whatever, and then she starts posting the divorce stuff.
I feel like it would be naïve to think it's not his.
O.k. but wait- the baby announcement posts came first THEN the divorce posts? Eh, I think it's still totally up in the air whether the kid is his or not. If he found out she cheated, he may be questioning paternity. I don't think these posts are proof of ANYTHING other than she's PG.
See, this is what my IRL friends are saying. The fact that he hasn't mentioned it, and in fact made a comment about his son being an only child, PLUS the recent deployment... One if my friends is in the army and said that it's not uncommon for soldiers to come home and find out their SO cheated.
Regardless, I'm not looking to be his rebound or replace his ex. I'll ask him about all this, but I'm pretty much in shut-it-down mode either way.
I think it's important to remember that just because you are ready to date doesn't mean you should date THIS guy. You've had a rough go, being cautious is good.
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