I am the one complained about and judged in budget posts. I spend money on random stuff that makes my life easier in the day to day/here and now. I don't have a job or a lifestyle that's ever going to allow me to cruise to Bermuda for a month every 3 years so I might as well enjoy what I can when I can how I can.
I also thin about .25% of MMM is actually following the "My papertowels are budgeted within an inch of my spreadsheet's life so I can afford 3 weeks a year to get lost in the Bermuda Triangle" speech. I see how much the "collective you" shops on the daily. Either that or the "fun money" line item is far off the charts compared to general America.
I get the hypocrisy. This is a statement, observation and confession in one I suppose.
LOL @justdairy I am jealous of all the random shopping people do here. Maybe we are bad at budgeting.
wait, I know the answer to that. we ARE bad at budgeting. That should be my confession. H is horrible with money and I try to reign him in and I hate it because it makes me feel like I am a nag or the "bad guy" constantly. He just doesnt get the concept of a budget. I feel like I need to give him a credit card with like a 500 dollar limit or something.
Haha.
I'm actually not bad at managing money. We live well within our means. I just feel like a bad person because everyone on here is bankrolling their IRAs, 401Ks, pension funds, yearly dream vacation and I'm over here like "Look at this new shirt I bought at Target!"
Different priorities for different people I know.
I'm not a bad person because I don't constantly prioritize the future, kwim? I'm not dumb about it for sure, but there is a point where I'd rather spend my money in the here and now than have a billion dollars saved that I'll probably never live long enough to use.
Ha.
I meant my OP as pretty TIC btw in case that wasn't clear to anyone.
Post by Velar Fricative on Aug 5, 2015 15:17:01 GMT -5
We have an insane Excel spreadsheet budget so I'd be livid if a friend told us, "Well, maybe you should make a budget?" Asshole, we have a budget. We make great money, IMO. We just have a lot of necessary expenses too, so a $10k vacation is out of the question.
(I promise I'm not middle class, nor do I feeeeeeeeeeeeel middle class because of SL debt, daycare, etc.)
Hugs, halfpint. I'm there now too. DS has been so.fucking.annoying at night lately. He thinks it's awesome to talk in this high pitched squeal (because "I'm being funny, mama!") and I've snapped at him on more than one occasion to just STOP.
@drewly WTF to them not intervening sooner! I know they can't watch every kid every second, but seriously.
Yeah, I'm not thrilled. I mean, he's 16 months old. I didn't even know what to say when she called me. I just went and got him and scheduled a meeting with the director.
Sometimes I lack any patience with my toddler, and I feel like I'm mean. H is so much more patient than me, no wonder he likes him more. I was changing his diaper yesterday, and it was a messy poo. He kept kicking and screaming, risking getting his foot in the poop and and his poop butt all over his clothes, himself, the changing pad...blech. I kind of shook his feet and yelled at him, I was so mad about his behavior. Of course that made him scream louder, and I felt like a terrible mother. I get really frustrated when he's in the middle of a tantrum, or is acting out and not being cooperative, and I don't know how to love him through it. I tend to push him off on my H and walk away, or I risk yelling or doing something physical, like giving him a shake or yanking him away from something he shouldn't be doing.
He really, really prefers my husband right now, and I feel like it's my fault.
This exact damn thing happens all the time here. Usually it's touching something she knows she's not supposed to and she KNOWS it, and looks at me and giggles while she touches/bangs on it.
I mostly just try to ignore and/or walk away. There's NOTHING wrong with that. At this point they're doing it for attention.
It's the same at our house. She is constantly looking at me and laughing when I tell her "no" about something. I have very little patience for that. I recognize that I need to work on it.
Peppermint really does work for spiders, and we use tea tree and lavender in the tub when there's a particularly bad or long lasting diaper rash.
Thank you! Some of the MLM ones make me nervous and require so many accessories. I love the way tea tree oil and lavender smell, that would be such a relaxing bath!
We have an insane Excel spreadsheet budget so I'd be livid if a friend told us, "Well, maybe you should make a budget?" Asshole, we have a budget. We make great money, IMO. We just have a lot of necessary expenses too, so a $10k vacation is out of the question.
(I promise I'm not middle class, nor do I feeeeeeeeeeeeel middle class because of SL debt, daycare, etc.)
I hope you realize I'm well aware a 10k vacation is not realistic for most people. I'm not completely disengaged from reality.
Student loans and daycare make almost everyone's budget difficult.
Alright here's a real confession. I hate when people make blanket statements about how they "don't understand how people can vote XXX". I think it's so close minded and there are great points from understanding both sides.
And it's also okay to admit when your party makes mistakes. Like I do not understand all the republicans who are supporting Trump. He is such an idiot and I get so much secondhand embarrassment from him.
ETA- making the trump statement as a republican. Though this is probably the biggest confession haha!
Alright here's a real confession. I hate when people make blanket statements about how they "don't understand how people can vote XXX". I think it's so close minded and there are great points from understanding both sides.
And it's also okay to admit when your party makes mistakes. Like I do not understand all the republicans who are supporting Trump. He is such an idiot and I get so much secondhand embarrassment from him.
I don't necessarily disagree with you on these points, but the saying what you just said you hated people saying is making me LOL.
I was saying that as a republican, that part wasn't clear. Sometimes I forget that since I don't talk about it ever no one knows! Whoops
So many ((hugs)) chickadee77. I can completely relate with the exception that my DH sees zero issue with having another kid (he helps very minimally kid-wise and I feel like I'm always on and have zero "me time"). Hope you can get some time to yourself soon!
My confession is semi-related...we plan to TTC when C turns 1 (so 4 more months). I am completely dreading all things TTC and am fairly bitter about having to have sex with DH since he's obviously only interested when he wants to get me knocked up (we've barely had sex this past year and only 4 times since C was born).
I was saying that as a republican, that part wasn't clear. Sometimes I forget that since I don't talk about it ever no one knows! Whoops
No, I get that. I understand that a statement like, "I don't understand how anyone can vote Republican" can be considered close-minded, but people who support Trump might think he makes "great points," kwim?
I mean, he doesn't and those people are idiots, but you know.
I get that, my point was so many people feel like you can only be one or the other but really, there are idiots in every party and its okay to say you think someone is one. I will say that comes from my experience working in politics and having to be "united with all candidates" which I don't understand and think that's something that contributes to such a stark divide between parties.
I get that, my point was so many people feel like you can only be one or the other but really, there are idiots in every party and its okay to say you think someone is one. I will say that comes from my experience working in politics and having to be "united with all candidates" which I don't understand and think that's something that contributes to such a stark divide between parties.
I think we are saying the same thing, or at least, I agree with you. I just thought the wording/juxtaposition of your first post was funny.
Probably. This baby is killing my brain already and it's been genuinely hard for me to form sentences and articulate my thoughts. Kids, man!
My niece is here and I'm letting her parent dd for a while while I GBCN.
I kind of hate being a SAHM when she's not in school. August sucks. I'm counting down the days until preschool starts again. One three hour break from my child a week plus occasional stolen moments on the weekend does not cut it.
We got a notice today at DC that they're starting "homework" in DS' preschool class. I'm really tempted to just say that we're opting out of doing it. The afternoon teacher said it'll be easy stuff like find 5 things that start with F, tracing letters, etc., but I 100000% don't agree with "homework" in a freaking 3/4 year old class.
I don't normally miss NYC. But I saw this article about my old neighborhood and where DH and I dated and where the apartments are and I got all nostalgic.
Well, sure, for just $3.3 million, your run-of-the-mill divorced SAHM can buy a 2-bedroom apartment there!
We got a notice today at DC that they're starting "homework" in DS' preschool class. I'm really tempted to just say that we're opting out of doing it. The afternoon teacher said it'll be easy stuff like find 5 things that start with F, tracing letters, etc., but I 100000% don't agree with "homework" in a freaking 3/4 year old class.
Is it actually homework or just suggested home-school connection activities? I'm okay with suggested activities but I'm not a big homework fan, particularly not for the preschool set.