We got a notice today at DC that they're starting "homework" in DS' preschool class. I'm really tempted to just say that we're opting out of doing it. The afternoon teacher said it'll be easy stuff like find 5 things that start with F, tracing letters, etc., but I 100000% don't agree with "homework" in a freaking 3/4 year old class.
Is it actually homework or just suggested home-school connection activities? I'm okay with suggested activities but I'm not a big homework fan, particularly not for the preschool set.
We have to hand in papers. We'll get a folder each day he's there (T-Th) and have to hand the assignment in the next morning completed. The teacher was all, "we know you're busy at night but this should only take 5-10 minutes..."
I get the idea behind it of wanting to reinforce what they do during the day at home, but damn, he has a LONG road ahead of him with homework. Let's not start at 3 and tack 2 years on to that!
I stopped at TCBY and got ice cream because it's Waffle Cone Wednesday. I wont be sharing that fun fact with DH and will likely have chocolate cake or an ice cream sandwich later tonight.
I'm lying on the couch right now while DH is tidying up the kitchen and family room. And then he will cook dinner. I don't plan to move. I will milk these last few days or weeks of being pregnant for everything I can!!
Is it actually homework or just suggested home-school connection activities? I'm okay with suggested activities but I'm not a big homework fan, particularly not for the preschool set.
We have to hand in papers. We'll get a folder each day he's there (T-Th) and have to hand the assignment in the next morning completed. The teacher was all, "we know you're busy at night but this should only take 5-10 minutes..."
I get the idea behind it of wanting to reinforce what they do during the day at home, but damn, he has a LONG road ahead of him with homework. Let's not start at 3 and tack 2 years on to that!
Yeah no.
Heck as it is K and 1st grade HW was only due once a week for my kids. I don't feel like they are lacking because of it.
After my anatomy scan today I ate a box of Swedish fish and a box of watermelon sour patch things. I forgot to dispose of the evidence and had to fess up to DH. Then he pulled out the milk duds and whatchamacallit I bought to eat later (aka tomorrow) and he just shook his head at me.
Is it actually homework or just suggested home-school connection activities? I'm okay with suggested activities but I'm not a big homework fan, particularly not for the preschool set.
We have to hand in papers. We'll get a folder each day he's there (T-Th) and have to hand the assignment in the next morning completed. The teacher was all, "we know you're busy at night but this should only take 5-10 minutes..."
I get the idea behind it of wanting to reinforce what they do during the day at home, but damn, he has a LONG road ahead of him with homework. Let's not start at 3 and tack 2 years on to that!
We got a notice today at DC that they're starting "homework" in DS' preschool class. I'm really tempted to just say that we're opting out of doing it. The afternoon teacher said it'll be easy stuff like find 5 things that start with F, tracing letters, etc., but I 100000% don't agree with "homework" in a freaking 3/4 year old class.
DDs preschool has "homework" but it's like twice per semester. I like the find 5 things that start with a certain letter. It really helped DD make a connection between home and school. I get that homework is annoying and especially for such little kids so hopefully they don't go overboard.
The find 5 things is definitely a good idea-but I really wish it was presented in a way that was, "hey, here's some stuff you can do at home to help your kid with stuff we're working on!" instead of "hey, PS is all about prepping for K! Surprise! You'll have to hand homework in."
That isn't anything to be embarrassed about. 18 month olds can't do much except throw tantrums and get into things that they shouldn't.
This makes me feel better. I do take him out quite a bit - bubbles, sidewalk chalk, water table, walks around our hood, etc. It's tough after a work day but I still manage some days.
My boss sort of side-eyed me b/c I mentioned about the park. She has older kids though and I think moms tend to forget what it's like at various stages.
18 month olds require you to keep them safe and usually interact with them. Older kids mean sitting and reading a book. I bet she's just forgotten. I hated outside play when my oldest was 18 months. At almost 7 I shove him out the door with his siblings in tow so I can have a moment's peace.
We picked up a Little Ceasars pretzel crust pizza for dinner. It was ah-freaking-mazing. I've had horrible nausea all day and am feeling ten times better after eating it, so it's obviously the cure for this damn morning sickness.
Now I really want a soft pretzel. And cheese sauce. Mmmmmmmmmm...
I've been having a rough time lately, emotionally, but don't really have much excuse. L is doing great, my H is mostly helpful, I only work p/t but have access to f/t daycare... I think I need some me-time, maybe. Because I do all the wakeups, all tje bedtimes, all the meals (when she's home), and it's a lot. But I want a second child, which, duh, won't make things easier. And any time I mention anything to H, his first solution isn't to pitch in a little more, it's to scrap the idea of having another - I can't imagine, yet, giving that idea up. I love DD so, so, much, but am just tired of being the *only* one on-call 24/7.
Ugh.
Hugs. My situation isn't identical, but I certainly can relate. I spend a lot of mental energy wondering if it will break me to have a 2nd or if the alternative will leave me consumed with "what if?" thoughts for the rest of my life.
I admitted defeat and handed my fussy baby over to my MIL so I can rest. My confession is that I'm not happy about this because MIL is BEC to me, even though she is a perfectly nice person.
I can hear him crying in the living room and I know they're trying to calm him, but the only thing that works today is my breast.
Three week growth spurt?
If so, try and give in and feed him as often as he wants it.
We picked up a Little Ceasars pretzel crust pizza for dinner. It was ah-freaking-mazing. I've had horrible nausea all day and am feeling ten times better after eating it, so it's obviously the cure for this damn morning sickness.
Now I really want a soft pretzel. And cheese sauce. Mmmmmmmmmm...
I am on day 4 of the whole 30, and I really want to cheat at lunch and get Panera or, thank to this thread, LC crazy bread.
If I do, I wont tell DH because I was the one who talked him into doing it with me, and he has been doing really well on it.
This may be an UO, but stay strong! You are in the hardest few days right now and will feel amazing soon enough!
Thanks for the encouragement! I do feel pretty good, just still battling nasty cravings! I guess I'll stick to the steak salad that I packed for lunch.
Post by Ashley&Scott on Aug 6, 2015 8:44:22 GMT -5
@lauralynne - M has started to make comments about a baby & I am cheering on the inside. I would love to give him a sibling & hoping that his comments sway DH over.
Is it actually homework or just suggested home-school connection activities? I'm okay with suggested activities but I'm not a big homework fan, particularly not for the preschool set.
We have to hand in papers. We'll get a folder each day he's there (T-Th) and have to hand the assignment in the next morning completed. The teacher was all, "we know you're busy at night but this should only take 5-10 minutes..."
I get the idea behind it of wanting to reinforce what they do during the day at home, but damn, he has a LONG road ahead of him with homework. Let's not start at 3 and tack 2 years on to that!
What? Actually paper homework for a 3 & 4yo class? No, no, no.
M is 3.5, his "homework" is optional, based on the units they're doing & coincides with show & tell (once a week). Last month they learned about clothing so they had days where they wore their favorite color shirt or their favorite hat. This month they're learning about farms so tomorrow he's is supposed to bring something that grows on a farm. Worksheets are no age appropriate IMO.
DS will not drop the "I want a baby brother" conversation with DH. Recently he upped it to "baby brother baby sister"
I am encouraging him. A lot.
Aww, I love that. My kids want another sibling also. They keep saying, "We need another baby." "We have room in our car for another car seat." I say go for it!
I had a huge long thing typed out, but I've deleted. Let's just say I'm the one being pressured to have another kid and I'm having feelings about some of the things in here.
I had a huge long thing typed out, but I've deleted. Let's just say I'm the one being pressured to have another kid and I'm having feelings about some of the things in here.
Remember when you were single and everyone said 'you should get a boyfriend' And then you had a boyfriend and people said 'you should get married' And then you got married and people said 'You have to have a baby' And now they say 'Have another - you can't just have one'
You only have to be polite for so long.
Now if the conversation is with your H, then this makes it more difficult. Don't just do it and it will all work out, like my MIL insists. Think it over properly and know that there is no wrong choice. People say you will never regret having another. I say you won't regret not having one either. You just adapt and have the best life and assume it is the best life. If you are on your deathbed thinking another child would have made everything better - you are wrong. That's a lot of expectations of a human being.
I had a huge long thing typed out, but I've deleted. Let's just say I'm the one being pressured to have another kid and I'm having feelings about some of the things in here.
Remember when you were single and everyone said 'you should get a boyfriend' And then you had a boyfriend and people said 'you should get married' And then you got married and people said 'You have to have a baby' And now they say 'Have another - you can't just have one'
You only have to be polite for so long.
Now if the conversation is with your H, then this makes it more difficult. Don't just do it and it will all work out, like my MIL insists. Think it over properly and know that there is no wrong choice. People say you will never regret having another. I say you won't regret not having one either. You just adapt and have the best life and assume it is the best life. If you are on your deathbed thinking another child would have made everything better - you are wrong. That's a lot of expectations of a human being.
I think the hard part is that there is a part of me that thinks it would be nice to have another kid but I am worried about adding a second when we have a nice rhythm going on with just us 3. I am just worried that in a few years I might change my mind and then it would probably be too late mostly due to my DH's age. I kinda wish I could freeze time a bit.
I had a huge long thing typed out, but I've deleted. Let's just say I'm the one being pressured to have another kid and I'm having feelings about some of the things in here.
Remember when you were single and everyone said 'you should get a boyfriend' And then you had a boyfriend and people said 'you should get married' And then you got married and people said 'You have to have a baby' And now they say 'Have another - you can't just have one'
You only have to be polite for so long.
Now if the conversation is with your H, then this makes it more difficult. Don't just do it and it will all work out, like my MIL insists. Think it over properly and know that there is no wrong choice. People say you will never regret having another. I say you won't regret not having one either. You just adapt and have the best life and assume it is the best life. If you are on your deathbed thinking another child would have made everything better - you are wrong. That's a lot of expectations of a human being.
It actually flip-flops after two. Two is the "correct number" and if you choose to have more than two, you start getting smart-ass feedback about "you know what causes that?" and "do you believe in birth control?".
It actually flip-flops after two. Two is the "correct number" and if you choose to have more than two, you start getting smart-ass feedback about "you know what causes that?" and "do you believe in birth control?".
Two is only the correct number if you have one boy and one girl.
Oh, yes, I did forget this.
LOL that the people I know that want a third are totally people with two boys. One did have a girl as her third (but would have been done either way).
I had a huge long thing typed out, but I've deleted. Let's just say I'm the one being pressured to have another kid and I'm having feelings about some of the things in here.
I pressured DH into having another kid. I do have feelings about that, but our 13-year-long marriage has been about a lot of compromise regarding a number of things, from number of kids to where we live to our respective careers. We each have strong opinions about things and neither one of us gets 100% decision-making control. We own the things we won't budge on and try to make concessions to each other to make up for that.
@lauralynne - M has started to make comments about a baby & I am cheering on the inside. I would love to give him a sibling & hoping that his comments sway DH over.
Won't lie - DS repeatedly asking when we can get a baby and DD lovingly caring for her dolls was one of the "pros" on my list of reasons to have a 3rd!
I pressured DH into having another kid. I do have feelings about that, but our 13-year-long marriage has been about a lot of compromise regarding a number of things, from number of kids to where we live to our respective careers. We each have strong opinions about things and neither one of us gets 100% decision-making control. We own the things we won't budge on and try to make concessions to each other to make up for that.
I like that way of looking at it - the give and take and concessions when possible, but (truly, I don't want this to come out bitchy, I apologize in advance if it does) I think it's "easier" for the woman to pressure the man into having a kid. She does the hard work of being pregnant and giving birth. And nursing if that's important to her. Her career takes a hit. She is most likely to be the default parent. Often times, her career is the one that is less important to the family in terms of $$ brought in (I know this is not 100% the case, but women are, for many reasons, often paid less and/or in less lucrative careers).
It's a lot larger of a thing to ask when the husband wants another kid.
I've internally decided that #2 is off the table unless DH gets that other job with the huge salary increase. I need to be able to pay for more help while keeping up our lifestyle if I'm going to do it, because I don't want to carry that much more of the load on my shoulders. At the moment, I make almost exactly 50% of our income - so it just seems like too much to also have me doing 80% of the work for kids (and daycare is in my building, so I get them ready in the morning, drop off, pick up, get them if they are sick, etc.). Yes, that's not forever, but 3-5 years out of my career at this point is huge.
I completely understand this. DH wanted another kid as soon as we had DS1 and I was adamantly in the no camp. It took me a long time to "come around." I am the breadwinner by far as well as doing the majority of the parenting and have pretty awful pregnancies/births. It wasn't going to work unless it was something I really, really wanted or else I was going to be incredibly resentful.