Bitchy vent inside (semi @ish but not really)

[heyjude]

We threw my friend a baby shower over the weekend. I volunteered to make the favors because I found a cute idea on pinterest that went along with the theme.

I shared the link to the favor idea to the two other hosts and a friend of the mom to be ("friend") who wanted to help with the party.

Favor plans were approved by co hosts weeks in advance. No response from the friend.

I made the favors on fri morning.

On Friday afternoon I get a call from the friend "I started to make your favors; is that okay?"

"I already made them, but thanks."

"Okay well I want to add something to them, a ribbon I custom made, can I do that?"

"Sure sounds great."
(Keep in mind eyebrows already beginning to raise at the buttinsky nature)

That evening I text a pic of the favors to host and friend including a little thank you sign I crafted with an expression that tied in the favor and the theme of the shower.

Friend texts back "can I make a banner with your expression for the party?"

"Sure!" In my head banner met some additional signage that incorporated my expression.

Saturday arrives. I've got my favors all lined up on a cute silver platter with my little hand written thank you sign with my expression on the buffet.

Friend arrives. Takes my platter. Dissembles them entirely to add her new ribbon, has ME put them back together because she can't. Shoves them all into stupid boxes that she handmade that morning so no one can actually see what I made. Arranges them back on my platter. THROWS AWAY my thank you sign and puts up her own sign that had my expression but clearly professionally printed and designed.

Marches around the shower showing everyone the favor she made with me.

OMG I WAS SO MAD!!!!!!

She also gave the largest most obnoxious gift.

It was real life Bridesmaids and I was Krisren Wiig and she was Rose Byrne!!!!!

I just really needed to vent BECAUSE WHO ACTS THIS WAY?!!?!!!!!!!!

[ttt]

I am furious for you!!!!!

[laurenpetro]

not acceptable.

how did she feel after you slashed her tires?

[heyjude]

Sept 21, 2015 11:40:56 GMT -5 ttt said:

I am furious for you!!!!!

THANK YOU!!

This whole time I'm wondering if I'm overreacting due to my pregnancy hormones?

I have photo evidence too. Hold on.

[laurenpetro]

Sept 21, 2015 11:43:25 GMT -5 heyjude said:

Sept 21, 2015 11:40:56 GMT -5 ttt said:

I am furious for you!!!!!

THANK YOU!!

This whole I'm wondering if I'm overreacting due to my pregnancy hormones.

I have photo evidence too. Hold on.

nope.  not even a little.  my MIL took the credit for my SIL's baby shower that i did basically by myself (my sister, who is not related to SIL, was the only one that helped me) and i had to leave the room.

[ttt]

Not overreacting. I would be SO mad if someone messed with favors I had spent all that time working on AND THEN went out and took credit for them. And she threw away your sign??? No ma'am. No.

[Alyssa]

Ohhhhhhhh....(((RAGE))) I would be pissed!

[StrawberryBlondie]

Unacceptable.

[partiallysunny]

I want to see the photo evidence.

[WOT?*]

Sept 21, 2015 11:43:25 GMT -5 heyjude said:

Sept 21, 2015 11:40:56 GMT -5 ttt said:

I am furious for you!!!!!

THANK YOU!!

This whole time I'm wondering if I'm overreacting due to my pregnancy hormones?

I have photo evidence too. Hold on.

Not overreacting. Probably under-reacting because pregnancy hormones.

[AJL]

She's a butthole.

[twotrue]

[curbsideprophet]

Who does that?

[MixedBerryJam]

Sept 21, 2015 11:38:30 GMT -5 heyjude said:

...

I just really needed to vent BECAUSE WHO ACTS THIS WAY?!!?!!!!!!!!

@cse1960's friend, B! Now ask a hard question!

[partiallysunny]

WTF. How weird.

[ttt]

Yours are way, way cuter. Plus you have beautiful handwriting.

Verdict: she sucks.
/gavel

[MixedBerryJam]

Oh, hell no. That is way, way worse than I was imagining. Your setup was perfect! Her additions were definitely not better. At all.

[heyjude]

Sept 21, 2015 12:36:53 GMT -5 tillie said:

Nope, you definitely have a valid reason to be mad.

Now I want to know what the gift was, lol.

A million outfits. And blankets and towels. And all that. Two huge gift bags. That she was first to give. It was over the top for a sprinkle shower.

[heyjude]

Phew. Okay guys. Thank you. I was trying to explain this all to my husband and he just didn't get it. He said this doesn't happen in guy world.

[heyjude]

Oh and I forgot!

When she had me retie all my blue bows that she took apart so she could add her stupid thing she tried to tell me how to retie MY BOWS so the bow would be on the back to hide the seem she had just added with her new stupid paper ribbon stupidness.

I was shaking. And totally DID NOT retie MY BOWS the way she instructed me. FUCK THAT.

God. So mad.

[ChillyMcFreeze]

Does she also have trouble making female friends because she's so pretty?

[emilyj]

Sept 21, 2015 12:53:55 GMT -5 heyjude said:

This is is what I'm talking about. She wrapped some paper crap around it and then moved my bow to the back. And who just happens to have filler paper on hand in the right shade?

It's clear to me she had this planned all along. 

And yes, it's cute. 

I actually don't think her 'additions' are cute.  I think it made a really cute favor way over the top and fussy.

Key her car.  

[kapoentje]

No. WTF. Nooo.



100% Rose Byrne/Helen Harris III territory

[heyjude]

Sept 21, 2015 13:14:21 GMT -5 toledo said:

I wish I could go back in time to offer you $50 to be all Kristen Wiig "Are you FUCKING kidding me?" and start flinging her giant gift bags all over the party.

I didn't do this. I instead sulked in another room and texted another friend to vent and to stop myself from crying (this was definitely pregnacy hormone related lol).

I found new levels of sympathy for Annie during the shower though. And I kinda want to watch that movie again.

[ringstrue]

Dude. This is why I never send pic previews of things I have created. People just stare at the pics and figure out ways to fuckkwith what I made. If I bring them then they will be used and no one will have any time to mess with them.

[heyjude]

Sept 21, 2015 13:26:09 GMT -5 ringstrue said:

Dude. This is why I never send pic previews of things I have created. People just stare at the pics and figure out ways to fuckkwith what I made. If I bring them then they will be used and no one will have any time to mess with them.

You are so right! I had no idea!!

[josieposy]

I think the obvious answer is to leave a flaming bag of dog poop (w/ sprinkles of course) on her porch. WTF?!!

[saz]

Wow that is so rude! This was obviously your project. Those boxes are freaking over the top. I'm so irritated on your behalf!

[heyjude]

Sept 21, 2015 13:55:33 GMT -5 @mrsbecky said:

I would be so mad.

First, if she wanted to help you with the favor, she could have just asked. "great idea! I have an idea for something to add to it, what do you think about X." Then you could have said "no, we want to keep it simple" or "sounds great, lets do that too." She designed this so that she was going over your head and you wouldn't be able to stop her.

Also, the "brightening the sprinkle" sign doesn't make a lot of sense without seeing the candles. I mean its still a cute saying, but its seeing the saying next to the candles with the sprinkles that's so cute.

This is why I hate group projects in any form.

Right? Putting the candles in boxes totally makes the thank you sign stupid.

I actually spent a few minutes coming up with that expression too. That part wasn't pinterest. Lol.

Meh. I feel much better talking about this all. Thank you!!

[taratru]

What a bitch. Seriously.