Even when my house is clean, it can always be cleaner. Deep cleaning stuff that I never get to, endless dust and dog hair coming back second after I vacuum, etc.
She probably just knows that as a new(ish) mom, you're busy and have better things to do than clean (even if they include taking a nap or some time to yourself!). I'm sure she just wants to help and figures there must be something she can clean. I don't think it necessarily means she thinks your house is dirty.
I can relate. I'm mostly a SAHM right now (working barely part time) and I always feel like things have to really be "together'. I'm constantly picking up, cleaning, etc. I even have a cleaning lady every 2 weeks because I really hate mess. So if someone was to come into my house and criticize it I might get a bit sensitive. That said, take her up on the offer!! She probably means it to be helpful, not to hurt.
She is trying to do something to help you and this was her idea. If this is offensive to you, offer another suggestion as how she can help. I think you are over sensitive and that this really is about something else in your relationship with your mom.
I actually think it's harder to keep a home clean as a SAHM because you're playing in it all day. Like others said she's trying to help, not criticize.
Post by curbsideprophet on Aug 24, 2012 8:27:33 GMT -5
I suppose it is hard to say without knowing the person, but I would not automatically assume someone was trying to criticize if they offered to clean. Cleaning is an easy way for some people to help. I think you are reading too much into it and projecting your own thoughts into her offer. Especially since she has helped you in the past by cleaning.