Can you buy it as a vacation/rental home? What do you plan to do if you're not working? As much as some of that sounds luxurious, I cannot imagine just DH and I being alone every single day with nothing nearby and childless. So would you be retired??
As much as it pains me to agree with bluesky, elle, it sounds like you just really like THIS HOUSE and are only considering it because you're familiar with the area. Everything else seems like a downside. Especially leaving a career where re-entering is not possible, per your words. Have you thought about what you're going to do on a day-to-day basis? You don't strike me as a person who will be happy with loads of idle time.
I am doing that right now. I lived DT in a midsized city and am closing on a small farm in 3 weeks. It's a beautiful old homestead and even has a 100 year old red barn! The plan is to get chickens and goats in the spring, then horses down the road. It's what I've always dreamed of and I'm very excited! But, it's not in the middle of nowhere; it's not isolated. I can still get to super target in 15 minutes, even though it's private and on a dirt road. Dream come true for me
This is what we want more now. More isolated living space but still in civilization.
I don't want to drive more than 20 minutes to the grocery. That's my litmus test lol.
Yeah, I looked at a few places where it was 15 minutes on gravel roads and then another 20 on pavement just to get to...anywhere. No thank you.
I moved from the city (downtown) to the country when I got married. And scurried right back to downtown after my divorce. When I moved here, I moved to the 'burbs for DD's education, but we're still in the middle of town.
I'm doing the opposite lol! I always really wanted to live in the country but exH really didnt. It was part of the spiral of doom for us.
Post by Captain Serious on Oct 30, 2015 11:18:09 GMT -5
We just did it this summer, and its the best thing we ever did. The only issues we've faced are that services for the kids are harder to find (which wouldn't apply to you anyway). We are staying to make friends, love our life, and are living healthier lifestyles.
ETA: We are 10 minutes from the nearest small stores and 20 minutes from everything else, but are surrounded by farms and cow pastures. It's the perfect combination of country living within a short drive to anything we could need.
Um....yes. Well, you didnt really miss it because I've never posted about it. I have a hard time posting about, like, actual real life personal stuff, so by the time I decided "Hey, I should maybe mention that I got divorced and am in a relationship with my bff of 20 years and we're buying a farm," it feels awkward. So uh, yeah. Here's me sharing personal stuff
I moved from the Seattle area to a town with 500 people about 8 years ago and don't regret it at all. I love it and can't imagine moving back to the city. I do have a good job here and work full time.
It's 2 hours to the closest (small) airport, 1 hour to the nearest stop light, minimal restaurant and shopping choices. But I love the friendly community, having lots of land, how quiet it is, and only having a 10 minute commute.
Um....yes. Well, you didnt really miss it because I've never posted about it. I have a hard time posting about, like, actual real life personal stuff, so by the time I decided "Hey, I should maybe mention that I got divorced and am in a relationship with my bff of 20 years and we're buying a farm," it feels awkward. So uh, yeah. Here's me sharing personal stuff
LOL
I figured out the divorce on FB. Then I saw your picture with your BFF and I was like "oh, cute couple". "oh wait that is her BFF" "well, that's a very cozy hug". But then it was awkward to ask... So I'M glad the mystery is solved, you two are adorable btw ;-)
Um....yes. Well, you didnt really miss it because I've never posted about it. I have a hard time posting about, like, actual real life personal stuff, so by the time I decided "Hey, I should maybe mention that I got divorced and am in a relationship with my bff of 20 years and we're buying a farm," it feels awkward. So uh, yeah. Here's me sharing personal stuff
LOL
I figured out the divorce on FB. Then I saw your picture with your BFF and I was like "oh, cute couple". "oh wait that is her BFF" "well, that's a very cozy hug". But then it was awkward to ask... So I'M glad the mystery is solved, you two are adorable btw ;-)
Aww, thanks! I figured I would just, you know, drop things here and there, because I'm not big on announcements or whatever. Apparently it's worked sort of? LOL
I figured out the divorce on FB. Then I saw your picture with your BFF and I was like "oh, cute couple". "oh wait that is her BFF" "well, that's a very cozy hug". But then it was awkward to ask... So I'M glad the mystery is solved, you two are adorable btw ;-)
Aww, thanks! I figured I would just, you know, drop things here and there, because I'm not big on announcements or whatever. Apparently it's worked sort of? LOL
WHAT?! Man, you are a woman of mystery and surprise! I'm glad you're happy . Leave the panini maker behind with your mom.
Aww, thanks! I figured I would just, you know, drop things here and there, because I'm not big on announcements or whatever. Apparently it's worked sort of? LOL
WHAT?! Man, you are a woman of mystery and surprise! I'm glad you're happy . Leave the panini maker behind with your mom.
LOL!! It's a quesadilla maker, and it's stayed with exH. He likes it
I never feel mysterious, but then I realize that I dont talk about shit, so I guess I seem a lot more mysterious than I feel!
Post by bernergirl on Oct 30, 2015 12:29:17 GMT -5
So, FI and I are considering a similar move as one of our options- back to where I grew up to work with my parents on their farm. It would be a similar change - we're in Denver right now, in a suburb with great schools. If we moved, it would be to a town of 300. Groceries -15-30 minutes away, target and closest airport and dining/shopping on par with what I like, 45-60 minutes. Hospital 25 minutes. Major cities (Chicago, St. Louis), 3-4 hours. My biggest concerns about this are the schools (4's on Great Schools) and my career. I am 85% certain I could keep my job and work remote, but I would definitely and fully give up any advancement opportunities and if I lost this job, I'd have to make a career change (which might not be an issue, there just aren't a lot of opportunities in general). We do have one kid and hope for one more. I'm very conflicted about this. I don't want to deprive my kids of opportunities but at the same time I feel like Im unfairly disparaging where I grew up. We need farmers, and trades, and there are opportunities for doctors and pharmacists and tech people and lord knows there will be a lot of change over the next 20 years before the kids have jobs.
Post by Captain Serious on Oct 30, 2015 14:12:39 GMT -5
Oh, the one negative we didn't anticipate was how pervasive the opioid addition problem is. At least here in the Northeast, the more rural, the worse the problem. It means there are a lot of burglaries and thefts, especially since the houses are spaced out and it gets really dark at night. The other day, my son's skooch scooter was even stolen out of our yard during the school day (he rode it down the driveway to the bus each morning, and back in the afternoon). I'm guessing it wasn't for another child nearby because it's pretty distinctive and hard to replace; it's good metal, though, so I figure it was sold for scrap.
We haven't taken this step yet but I have stepped back from work. I haven't regretted that part (yet) Might be different because I do plan to return to the workforce but I've re-evaluated what I want from my next job and so what I go back to will be very different.
I know my aunt and uncle kind of tried this and hated it. They just couldn't make that adjustment from city life and having everything close. But they had a number of other complications (kids and one of them got sick)
Is this the guy where you left your bra at his house and it was totes innocent? Lol
She made a very strong case for platonic relationships over that guy so I doubt it's the same one!
Good luck with the farm, Em, that sounds awesome.
Same one. But it was absolutely platonic and always had been until I left my exH. Sometimes when making a strong case for something, you're convincing yourself as much (or more) than you're trying to convince others. Feelings, man. So many feelings.
I was gonna blabber on about how I moved to the rural desert this year and LOVE it. Way more than expected, too. But then the emiliemadison bomb happened. Emilie! So didn't you just go to Paris or Europe somewhere with your husband? Haven't you defended this 'male bff' as platonic for years? And now he's not? Oohhh-oohhh this is juicy.
Well, this is a blow for platonic opposite sex relationships. LOL. I'm glad you're happy EmilieMadison!
Yeah, and we have a big post about platonic friendships at least twice/year!
I have a male BFF, but since he just got married in August and they announced this week she's due in May, I think I'm in the clear. Plus I don't like her, so pretty sure our friendship is going to die off anyway