Yeah, and we have a big post about platonic friendships at least twice/year!
I have a male BFF, but since he just got married in August and they announced this week she's due in May, I think I'm in the clear. Plus I don't like her, so pretty sure our friendship is going to die off anyway
Same one. But it was absolutely platonic and always had been until I left my exH. Sometimes when making a strong case for something, you're convincing yourself as much (or more) than you're trying to convince others. Feelings, man. So many feelings.
Did you leave your husband for him specifically or did you realize your feelings after you separated? Obviously you don't need to answer, but this is an intriguing update! I'm glad you found so much happiness.
It's complicated? LOL. I hadn't been happy for a long, long time and exH hadn't either. I wanted lots of things he didnt want, and he wanted things I didnt. We were just basically coexisting, but not fighting or anything. We acted happy, and sometimes we were happy. We liked each other, but that was about it.
I've always loved my bff. Even before I met my DH (whom I did love at one time, I didnt just randomly settle or anything). It was just never something I wanted to acknowledge, even to myself, and it scared me that I'd lose him if it ever came up. I never talked about it with anyone, not even my closest, dearest friends. But I never imagined that he felt the same way. Apparently, he did feel the same way and always had.
So. I left my ex because I knew I had to- yes, partly for my bff but mostly for me.
It's complicated? LOL. I hadn't been happy for a long, long time and exH hadn't either. I wanted lots of things he didnt want, and he wanted things I didnt. We were just basically coexisting, but not fighting or anything. We acted happy, and sometimes we were happy. We liked each other, but that was about it.
I've always loved my bff. Even before I met my DH (whom I did love at one time, I didnt just randomly settle or anything). It was just never something I wanted to acknowledge, even to myself, and it scared me that I'd lose him if it ever came up. I never talked about it with anyone, not even my closest, dearest friends. But I never imagined that he felt the same way. Apparently, he did feel the same way and always had.
So. I left my ex because I knew I had to- yes, partly for my bff but mostly for me.
Aw!
How do the kiddos feel about everything?
Also, it took me a while to figure out BFF here meant best friend forever and not best female friend because I was thinking you were now a lesbian. LOL.
He never married right? He pined for you for 20 years. IDK, I think it's pretty romantic EmilieMadison.
He said he never pulled the trigger and got married during his long term relationships because, he said, "I knew that if you ever ended up single again, I would have to get a divorce."
It's complicated? LOL. I hadn't been happy for a long, long time and exH hadn't either. I wanted lots of things he didnt want, and he wanted things I didnt. We were just basically coexisting, but not fighting or anything. We acted happy, and sometimes we were happy. We liked each other, but that was about it.
I've always loved my bff. Even before I met my DH (whom I did love at one time, I didnt just randomly settle or anything). It was just never something I wanted to acknowledge, even to myself, and it scared me that I'd lose him if it ever came up. I never talked about it with anyone, not even my closest, dearest friends. But I never imagined that he felt the same way. Apparently, he did feel the same way and always had.
So. I left my ex because I knew I had to- yes, partly for my bff but mostly for me.
Aw!
How do the kiddos feel about everything?
Also, it took me a while to figure out BFF here meant best friend forever and not best female friend because I was thinking you were now a lesbian. LOL.
LOL! Sometimes I have to say dudebff because otherwise, yeah. But now I guess he's my boyfriend? Weird!!
The kids are doing really well and adjusting much faster than I imagined they would. They have known dudebff/bf (??) since they were born, so at least they're not having to get used to a stranger. They're really excited about the farm, too
He never married right? He pined for you for 20 years. IDK, I think it's pretty romantic EmilieMadison.
He said he never pulled the trigger and got married during his long term relationships because, he said, "I knew that if you ever ended up single again, I would have to get a divorce."
He said he never pulled the trigger and got married during his long term relationships because, he said, "I knew that if you ever ended up single again, I would have to get a divorce."
He did, but only because I kind of asked. JOKINGLY! I swear!
We were talking about his girlfriend that he was breaking up with, that I was sad because I actually liked her (true story). He said something about just not really ever being able to make his relationships work, but that he at least tried to hang onto the ones when the girlfriend and I get along and I said, "Why, because you're secretly in love with me?" And he paused for just a second and said, "Well...yeah." Dun dun DUNNNNN!
I love that jenny1980 is asking all the questions we want answers to. lol.
Yeah, I admit that I was curious about the instant living-with-DH to living-with-BFF transition. I'm assuming that there was at least a conversation in there lol
He did, but only because I kind of asked. JOKINGLY! I swear!
We were talking about his girlfriend that he was breaking up with, that I was sad because I actually liked her (true story). He said something about just not really ever being able to make his relationships work, but that he at least tried to hang onto the ones when the girlfriend and I get along and I said, "Why, because you're secretly in love with me?" And he paused for just a second and said, "Well...yeah." Dun dun DUNNNNN!
AND THEN WHAT. Was this on the phone or in person? Were you like "wait, what?" Did you make out then?
LOL, in person!! We were walking back to his house. There wasn't making out then. There was like 5 hours of "Holy shit, what are we supposed to do now?" conversation. And then I left my ex a month later. And THEN there was making out.
He did, but only because I kind of asked. JOKINGLY! I swear!
We were talking about his girlfriend that he was breaking up with, that I was sad because I actually liked her (true story). He said something about just not really ever being able to make his relationships work, but that he at least tried to hang onto the ones when the girlfriend and I get along and I said, "Why, because you're secretly in love with me?" And he paused for just a second and said, "Well...yeah." Dun dun DUNNNNN!
OMG WHAT DID YOU SAY??
I didnt say anything at first! I just stopped walking and stared at him. For like a minute! SHOCKED.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
LOL, in person!! We were walking back to his house. There wasn't making out then. There was like 5 hours of "Holy shit, what are we supposed to do now?" conversation. And then I left my ex a month later. And THEN there was making out.
I bet it was amazing. It sounds amazing. Tell us it was amazing.