Moms group offensiveness

[ksun]

Well, that's fun to wake up to - an invite to November Bunco, dress in "Indian" attire. Maybe in January we can dress in black face for Black History Month.

I think I'm on the hunt for a new moms group.

[pixy0stix]

Why not dress as pilgrims?!

[ksun]

My bad, I thought it was January.i apologize. And yes, I told them it was offensive and suggested pilgrims.

[pixy0stix]

Although... Pilgrims are the white devils that started the subjugation of the native people.

[erbear]

Where do you people live that this is coming up over and over again? Granted, I live in a diverse neighborhood full of people with brains, but I have never once in reality had an adult think blackface or something like this is acceptable. 

[mominatrix]

I would go in a sari.

[ksun]

Denver. In a pretty conservative gun happy suburb. Too bad there weren't Facebook neighborhood groups when we were house hunting 7 years ago to alert me of these people.

Turkeys. Let's just be turkeys.

[ksun]

Nov 2, 2015 10:27:46 GMT -5 mominatrix said:

I would go in a sari.

If I were going I probably would have gone this route

[ttt]

Nov 2, 2015 10:27:46 GMT -5 mominatrix said:

I would go in a sari.

I was trying to decide whether that kind of "Indian night" is better or worse. 

[tacosforlife]

Why is anyone even making a Bunco night costume-themed? That is way too much work for my lazy ass.

[mominatrix]

Nov 2, 2015 10:34:11 GMT -5 ttt said:

Nov 2, 2015 10:27:46 GMT -5 mominatrix said:

I would go in a sari.

I was trying to decide whether that kind of "Indian night" is better or worse. 

It's the same. But it would mess with them, which I would enjoy.

Actually, in reality I wouldn't go. But a sari would be a fun way to mess with them.

[Michelle]

Nov 2, 2015 10:27:46 GMT -5 mominatrix said:

I would go in a sari.

this is what I would do just to have an excuse to do it. Oh my gosh my neighbors at my old house were Indian-American and for holidays they had lots of family over and dressed in the most beautiful clothes.

[2curlydogs]

Nov 2, 2015 10:36:45 GMT -5 tacosforlife said:

Why is anyone even making a Bunco night costume-themed? That is way too much work for my lazy ass.

This is where I'm at. Why am I dressing up to drink wine and play cards dice?

(I had to google what bunco is. I thought it was a card game #suburbanmomfail).

[tacosforlife]

Another idea:

Show up in leggings (referably lululemon) and Uggs. Carry a pumpkin spice latte. When someone asks you why you're not wearing Indian garb, you say: "Well, I thought only basic white bitches would come up with such an offensive idea, so I figured I'd fit in like this."

[ttt]

Nov 2, 2015 10:36:45 GMT -5 tacosforlife said:

Why is anyone even making a Bunco night costume-themed? That is way too much work for my lazy ass.

Right? Halloween is over! 

[heyjude]

I saw w FB photo of a bunch of white ladies wearing Indian attire for bunco night and it was Indian as in India and it was just as distasteful.

[ksun]

I was in a different bunco group for a while and we did theme nights like 80's, PJs, green for St Patrick's - for thanksgiving we just each brought a thanksgiving dish for a potluck.

I want to like the women in my neighborhood, but they make it so damn hard.

[foundmylazybum]

Gross. Don't go...and say its gross.

[foundmylazybum]

www.buzzfeed.com/chrislam/i-am-not-your-costume#.riaV3RV7j

[Aquatica]

I'd understand if it was a food theme to try new dishes (potluck style), but dressing up to play dice? No thanks.

[AJL]

I think your group should dress up as turkeys.

[josieposy]

I will pay you 5000 GBCN bucks if you show up and give the Wednesday Addams Thanksgiving speech from Addams Family Values.

[downtoearth]

Nov 2, 2015 11:22:40 GMT -5 Dig Ophelia said:

Nov 2, 2015 10:52:31 GMT -5 ksun said:

I was in a different bunco group for a while and we did theme nights like 80's, PJs, green for St Patrick's - for thanksgiving we just each brought a thanksgiving dish for a potluck.

I want to like the women in my neighborhood, but they make it so damn hard.

I had to look up Bunco, but is there a reason why people dress up to play the game in the first place?

My parents used to do this... dress up or bring theme food, drink, and get silly playing bunco. I think it's b/c when you live with small kids or towns with not much to do (don't have sitters to go out) you need to break up the mundane with crazy stuff.  I haven't played as an adult, but I consider book club my bunco - I put on makeup and cute clothes, drink with girlfriends and giggle and talk about life - all while the kids play in the basement or are with their dads.

FTR - My parents dressed in like turn-of-the-century clothes or smurfs or hippies or just had food themes.  I don't think they ever did Indian or the like. 

I also think that even if ksun doesn't go, it's good to mention that the theme is offensive.  I sort of wish they had a NA in the group b/c it's way more powerful coming from someone who is of that culture.  And I would hope that when called out, they would change the theme to silly Holiday sweaters or something.

[ksun]

Oh, I'm not going. I commented with exactly why it was offensive and left the group

The bunco group I belonged to (a different one) was more about drinking than anything.

[Deleted]

Nov 2, 2015 10:07:28 GMT -5 ksun said:

Well, that's fun to wake up to - an invite to November Bunco, dress in "Indian" attire. Maybe in January we can dress in black face for Black History Month.

I think I'm on the hunt for a new moms group.

We must be neighbors.  I just saw the invite. I've only been in the neighborhood for about 6 months. I haven't actually met anyone through the group.  I connect with more woman on the working moms group since most of the activities on that moms board are all during the day. It's crazy how oblivious some of the comments are.  And the picture, WTF?  One woman said, "it's Indian attire, so that's not offensive."   ^o)

[mx27]

Help me understand...

Why are (some) white people so obsessed with dressing up as other races/cultures/ethnicities?

Weird.

[bugandbibs]

Huh. Our bunco theme is usually "who can drink the most". My group sounds more fun, but it's co-Ed.

[sushi]

Nov 2, 2015 12:34:57 GMT -5 mx27 said:

Help me understand...

Why are (some) white people so obsessed with dressing up as other races/cultures/ethnicities?

Weird.

I think it's relayed to that whole not feeling like we have a culture thing. Were you here for that thread?

[frlcb]

Nov 2, 2015 11:22:40 GMT -5 Dig Ophelia said:

Nov 2, 2015 10:52:31 GMT -5 ksun said:

I was in a different bunco group for a while and we did theme nights like 80's, PJs, green for St Patrick's - for thanksgiving we just each brought a thanksgiving dish for a potluck.

I want to like the women in my neighborhood, but they make it so damn hard.

I had to look up Bunco, but is there a reason why people dress up to play the game in the first place?

I have been playing bunco with the same group for 3 years and we have never had a theme night. We just want to drink wine and eat and chat and roll dice and possibly win $120. No theme needed.

[ksun]

Nov 2, 2015 12:04:56 GMT -5 @slayerkate said:

Nov 2, 2015 10:07:28 GMT -5 ksun said:

Well, that's fun to wake up to - an invite to November Bunco, dress in "Indian" attire. Maybe in January we can dress in black face for Black History Month.

I think I'm on the hunt for a new moms group.

We must be neighbors.  I just saw the invite. I've only been in the neighborhood for about 6 months. I haven't actually met anyone through the group.  I connect with more woman on the working moms group since most of the activities on that moms board are all during the day. It's crazy how oblivious some of the comments are.  And the picture, WTF?  One woman said, "it's Indian attire, so that's not offensive."  

I left the group after the invitee responded to me by saying "I'm sorry you choose to find this offensive". I thought it was pretty big of me to not reply "I'm sorry you choose to be an ignorant bigot". I don't care for the majority in that group anyway, but I was holding out hope for someone being normal.