I made a mommy blogger mad about purity rings

[marriedfilingjoint]

On Twitter. It's going pretty well. I felt like you guys would appreciate it.

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[ttt]

Where is the article??

[ttt]

PLEASE COME HERE AND MAKE OUR DAY!!!

[ttt]

Hey I found it!

savingugreen.com/purity-ring/


Sooooo creepy. 

[wambam]

I read the article and NOPE, you do not need to retract your statement. At all.

[marriedfilingjoint]

Nov 3, 2015 14:04:02 GMT -5 ttt said:

Hey I found it!

savingugreen.com/purity-ring/


Sooooo creepy. 

Noooo don't give her clicks! Here:

ur second oldest daughter, Kayla turned 13 years old on November 1. Her feisty attitude, hunger for knowledge, and fearlessness to take on the world are so inspiring. We celebrated her birthday with her favorite meal and a few presents. Then her dad took her for a cup of coffee. He gave her a special gift, a purity ring along with this letter.

In a time where peer pressure is HUGE. Kids can get caught up in situations and moments where they aren’t sure how to respond. Her dad chose to give her a purity ring as an outward symbol of Jesus’ and his love for her during difficult situations.

As parents, we can’t watch our children continuously. As they grow we must teach them skills needed in life, then encourage them to explore the world, while we hope they have knowledge, faith, and the morals we have instilled in them. We have taught our girls to realize it’s their minds that make them beautiful…. not a revealing outfit or their bodies. We have taught our girls to respect themselves enough to wear clothing that is appropriate. No booty shorts here! Just because society has embraced TeenMom on MTV, doesn’t mean that is an acceptable path for a teenager. We are raising our girls to place an importance on education. Marriage and babies come after gaining knowledge and life experiences. We hope this purity ring will be a gentle reminder that TRUE LOVE WAITS!

Happy 13th Birthday, Kayla!

[hopecounts]

Gross.

[ECB]

Well, o.k. If she really can't see how CREEPY It is for her husband to be the one giving their DD a purity ring w/ a note talking about how she should think of HIM every time she looks at that ring....

Why is a girls purity always about their FATHER??

[marriedfilingjoint]

I want to ask if they have sons and if they wear purity rings.

[BirdGirl]

Why is their 13-year old drinking coffee? Oh, that's not the point?

[btdt]

To channel Jimmy Fallon, "Eeww."

[BirdGirl]

Nov 3, 2015 14:10:11 GMT -5 ECB said:

Well, o.k. If she really can't see how CREEPY It is for her husband to be the one giving their DD a purity ring w/ a note talking about how she should think of HIM every time she looks at that ring....

Why is a girls purity always about their FATHER??

So much this.

[ECB]

Nov 3, 2015 14:08:17 GMT -5 marriedfilingjoint said:

Nov 3, 2015 14:04:02 GMT -5 ttt said:

Hey I found it!

savingugreen.com/purity-ring/


Sooooo creepy. 

Noooo don't give her clicks! Here:

ur second oldest daughter, Kayla turned 13 years old on November 1. Her feisty attitude, hunger for knowledge, and fearlessness to take on the world are so inspiring. We celebrated her birthday with her favorite meal and a few presents. Then her dad took her for a cup of coffee. He gave her a special gift, a purity ring along with this letter.

In a time where peer pressure is HUGE. Kids can get caught up in situations and moments where they aren’t sure how to respond. Her dad chose to give her a purity ring as an outward symbol of Jesus’ and his love for her during difficult situations.

As parents, we can’t watch our children continuously. As they grow we must teach them skills needed in life, then encourage them to explore the world, while we hope they have knowledge, faith, and the morals we have instilled in them. We have taught our girls to realize it’s their minds that make them beautiful…. not a revealing outfit or their bodies. We have taught our girls to respect themselves enough to wear clothing that is appropriate. No booty shorts here! Just because society has embraced TeenMom on MTV, doesn’t mean that is an acceptable path for a teenager. We are raising our girls to place an importance on education. Marriage and babies come after gaining knowledge and life experiences. We hope this purity ring will be a gentle reminder that TRUE LOVE WAITS!

Happy 13th Birthday, Kayla!

I already clicked.  The note says:

I've loved you since the day you were born.  Watching you grow into a beautiful young woman over the years has made me proud beyond words.  I picked this gift to remind  you every time you glance at is of the love I have for you.  A physical symbol to show the world that I will protect you as my strong, smart and beautiful daughter.

There is no other man on earth who will ever love you more than I do.  This gift should be a constant remind that your heart belong to Jesus and me until your future husband replaces it with a wedding ring because True - Love - Waits!!

Happy 13th Birthday!

I love you to the moon and back,
Daddy

[heyjude]

I will say it again. It is abusive to be this obsessed with your daughter's future sexuality.

[tacosforlife]

Nov 3, 2015 14:10:11 GMT -5 ECB said:

Well, o.k. If she really can't see how CREEPY It is for her husband to be the one giving their DD a purity ring w/ a note talking about how she should think of HIM every time she looks at that ring....

Why is a girls purity always about their FATHER??

I remember True Love Waits being a big thing in my church in middle school. But I don't remember there being such an emphasis on the father/daughter thing. It was supposed to be a commitment to God and your future spouse. Maybe I've blocked it out as a traumatic experience, but I don't recall parents having a huge part in this. I still find the emphasis on "purity" distasteful and have no intention of raising my children in the same environment I grew up in, but it at least isn't super-creepy-icky without all the daddy issues thrown in.

[WOT?*]

Okay, but teaching them that education is important, intelligence is valued above camel-toe and ass-cheeks precludes also teaching them that sexuality is a natural part of being a woman, use birth control if you're going to explore your sexuality, use condoms to prevent the spread of STDs and just don't be a promiscuous pleaseandthankyou.

But "Jesus said" and all that, and your hymen is sacrosanct and under daddy's protection because Daddy!

[orriskitten]

Creepy creepy creepy!!

The whole concept of waiting till marriage being about the dad in some way just squicks me out.

[josieposy]

Meh. It's gross but we've seen worse. Unless she puts glitter on ugly clothes or comes here and calls me a bureaucrat, I'm gonna pass.

[Skyesthelimit1212]

You should go back and say, "Ok, Nothing says "Happy Birthday" like your father telling you to think of him when you are contemplating having sex.

[LoveTrains]

Nov 3, 2015 14:10:11 GMT -5 ECB said:

Well, o.k. If she really can't see how CREEPY It is for her husband to be the one giving their DD a purity ring w/ a note talking about how she should think of HIM every time she looks at that ring....

Why is a girls purity always about their FATHER??

I read that as think of Jesus and the love of Jesus, but either way, I don't like it. 

[YeahSure]

I got as far as

Kayla’s 13th Birthday Gift A Purity Ring From Dad

EWWWWWW!!!!!!

*Runs from room screaming*

[cap]

Nov 3, 2015 14:04:02 GMT -5 ttt said:

Hey I found it!

savingugreen.com/purity-ring/


Sooooo creepy. 

I'm sitting here making this face.  

[BirdGirl]

My family did NOT push this at all, but in middle and early high school I "fell" into an uber conservative church group for a bit. I remember hearing about purity rigns and I remember thinking that meant sex was shameful. Ugh. I really really hope I can teach my daughter that it's not. Shit like this is such a mind-f*uck for young girls. Combine that with abstinence only education and it's a disaster.

[ECB]

Nov 3, 2015 14:15:03 GMT -5 tacosforlife said:

Nov 3, 2015 14:10:11 GMT -5 ECB said:

Well, o.k. If she really can't see how CREEPY It is for her husband to be the one giving their DD a purity ring w/ a note talking about how she should think of HIM every time she looks at that ring....

Why is a girls purity always about their FATHER??

I remember True Love Waits being a big thing in my church in middle school. But I don't remember there being such an emphasis on the father/daughter thing. It was supposed to be a commitment to God and your future spouse. Maybe I've blocked it out as a traumatic experience, but I don't recall parents having a huge part in this. I still find the emphasis on "purity" distasteful and have no intention of raising my children in the same environment I grew up in, but it at least isn't super-creepy-icky without all the daddy issues thrown in.

This is exactly it.  If, within their belief system, you should wait until you're married - I can't argue w that.  I don't agree but it's not my place to tell them to do it differently.  If these lessons were just about waiting for the right person and wait for marriage, o.k., go on w/ your bad selves.

But the linking it to the father and making these pledges to him, and getting purity rings FROM him...

Squicky.

[LoveTrains]

Nov 3, 2015 14:20:20 GMT -5 ECB said:

Nov 3, 2015 14:15:03 GMT -5 tacosforlife said:

I remember True Love Waits being a big thing in my church in middle school. But I don't remember there being such an emphasis on the father/daughter thing. It was supposed to be a commitment to God and your future spouse. Maybe I've blocked it out as a traumatic experience, but I don't recall parents having a huge part in this. I still find the emphasis on "purity" distasteful and have no intention of raising my children in the same environment I grew up in, but it at least isn't super-creepy-icky without all the daddy issues thrown in.

This is exactly it.  If, within their belief system, you should wait until you're married - I can't argue w that.  I don't agree but it's not my place to tell them to do it differently.  If these lessons were just about waiting for the right person and wait for marriage, o.k., go on w/ your bad selves.

But the linking it to the father and making these pledges to him, and getting purity rings FROM him...

Squicky.

Ok I agree, once I read the note I almost threw up in my mouth. 

[cap]

Nov 3, 2015 14:20:20 GMT -5 ECB said:

Nov 3, 2015 14:15:03 GMT -5 tacosforlife said:

I remember True Love Waits being a big thing in my church in middle school. But I don't remember there being such an emphasis on the father/daughter thing. It was supposed to be a commitment to God and your future spouse. Maybe I've blocked it out as a traumatic experience, but I don't recall parents having a huge part in this. I still find the emphasis on "purity" distasteful and have no intention of raising my children in the same environment I grew up in, but it at least isn't super-creepy-icky without all the daddy issues thrown in.

This is exactly it.  If, within their belief system, you should wait until you're married - I can't argue w that.  I don't agree but it's not my place to tell them to do it differently.  If these lessons were just about waiting for the right person and wait for marriage, o.k., go on w/ your bad selves.

But the linking it to the father and making these pledges to him, and getting purity rings FROM him...

Squicky.

Yeah, that's what makes me make the "ew" face.  

[marriedfilingjoint]

Nov 3, 2015 14:17:57 GMT -5 BirdGirl said:

My family did NOT push this at all, but in middle and early high school I "fell" into an uber conservative church group for a bit. I remember hearing about purity rigns and I remember thinking that meant sex was shameful. Ugh. I really really hope I can teach my daughter that it's not. Shit like this is such a mind-f*uck for young girls. Combine that with abstinence only education and it's a disaster.

My mind always goes to 14-year-old Elizabeth Smart thinking she was like a used piece of gum. No one, girl, boy, consensual sex or not, should feel like a used piece of gum.

[tacosforlife]

Nov 3, 2015 14:13:04 GMT -5 ECB said:

The note says:

...

This gift should be a constant remind that your heart belong to Jesus and me until your future husband replaces it with a wedding ring because True - Love - Waits!!

Happy 13th Birthday!

I love you to the moon and back,
Daddy

[marriedfilingjoint]

I had a really good comeback about how the last time her husband should have been that concerned with his daughter's vagina was the last time he cleaned a poopy diaper but the character limit got me.

[sparrowsong]

I would be so much more ok with this entire thing if it was a mother-daughter conversation about respect and sexuality and when it's right to allow physical contact.

But the implication that a father owns his daughters virginity until he gives her to a man to be owned in marriage is so fucking medieval I just rage. Come on ladies, think a little bit about what you are practicing! It's disgusting.