Post by spaghettisquash on Nov 6, 2015 8:45:46 GMT -5
I was fine with just one. My husband really wanted the second and he convinced me. After this one, though, I'm done. I have really bad morning sickness and a high likelihood of pre-e again. I can't do this a third time. Nor can we afford a third.
For those who had a tubal after a C section, how was the recovery? Was it worse than a recovery from a C?
When I got my first period pp at around 5 mo, I was hounding DH to get snipped. Of course, it didn't happen until another two years after that when, after pg scare #3 (not really as I was on the pill, but my period was scarily missing a couple times), I told him it was the V or no more sex.
Post by londoncalling on Nov 6, 2015 8:54:18 GMT -5
32-ish weeks pregnant.
Then I had an easy delivery and held my perfectly nursing, sleepy newborn and reconsidered for a few hours. Then I got home to a house with 2u2 and laundry and yardwork that needed to be done that day and that put me all the way back to 2 being it. EVER.
We are two and through. No doubts about it. We have gone over finances and what we'd personally like for our family and we know 2 fits us well. More than that would not. Daycare, and everything else for us is better with 2 then more. Completely omitting the cost it takes to have a child via fertility treatments for us.
I will be having my tubes tied when my c-section is performed and has already been set by the doctor.
For us we just sat down and went through the logistics and reality of our own situation. Sometimes what we 'want' isn't always what we 'need' so when discussing this we really tried to keep feelings out of it and discuss more along the lines of what we wanted life to be like and how finances would play a part both when the children are young and when they grow up.
I've never wanted more than two. I don't want to be outnumbered.
This is true for us as well.
We were on the fence for a long time and then agreed to have two - so our options were either zero or two. DH got a vasectomy about 8 weeks after DS was born, and I got a Mirena three weeks later. We're really, really, really done.
Before I even got pregnant with #2, we were both sure we were done at 2.
When my SIL announced she was pregnant with #3, I felt happiness and joy for her and no jealousy. That's when I knew there wasn't even a question (I mean, I knew, but that was FORSUREFORSURE)- because I was jealous both times she got pregnant with her first two kids since it was before me.
Related: I was hanging with my newish baby nephew this past weekend and even though he is a joy and a super calm, happy baby, I was more than happy to hand him back off to his mom. Hah.
This is such a good point. It took me 2-3 years to decide we were OAD. But now I feel so confident in my decision. People are pregnant - no jealousy. People have small infants - no thanks. Cute but keep him.
I always knew I was OAD but for a small brief tiny period there was a "what if" some times floating around my head. Now not even in the least. I have several friends who are pregnant now and all I can think is I am sooooooooo glad it isn't me having to go through the new born phase or deal with chasing around two kids.
I had 3 m/c and now I have a special needs baby. I don't think my heart could take it if I have a another loss. I realize now I need to focus all the funds and love towards these two I have now.
I got my tubes tied a month after I had DD#2. Free since I met my deducible. I am actually relieved and at peace with the decision.
After my first child I decided I only wanted one more. I had imagined we'd have three before having any and I had a really rough time with post partum anxiety so I revised my number. I'm happy with two.
We decided when the us tech told us it was twins the second time around
Really though, we knew we wanted 3 and we thought they were fraternal which meant I would have had a 1 in 10 chance of frat twins again. No way were we taking that chance. So H had a vasectomy. Later we had them tested and learned they are identical but still, we were done at 3.
Post by runblondie26 on Nov 6, 2015 14:27:49 GMT -5
The first one rocked my world. I needed about 4 years before I was ready to TTC again. Even though we said we were only going to have 2, I decided I wanted a 3rd basically as soon as we got home from the hospital. (Our age, as well as the age gap between the first two, made it seem like a pressing issue to finish up the baby making phase of life).
This 3rd pregnancy was much more challenging and tiring. I accept it was by body's way of saying I'm an old bag and have no business having a fourth. Yet, I opted for and IUD instead of having my tubes tied because I'm only 99% certain. The youngest is only 10 weeks, I need some time to reflect, lol.
Post by thebreakfastclub on Nov 6, 2015 14:46:05 GMT -5
It's so weird to think that this time last year, H had a week or so where he thought we should have a 2nd. Now that I haven't changed a diaper in 4 months, I cannot even fathom starting that all over again.
I am very confident we're done and my DH was making noises about he and his cousin getting March Madness snips together, but I said no way, my Mirena is amaaaaazing and I plan to just get them over and over until menopause.
No reason you can't do both. My DH got the vasectomy (during March -- and he hates basketball!) and I am not giving up my Mirena. We're really, really done with having babies!
Why spend the money on the vasectomy? I'm not worried about doubling up on protection.
No reason you can't do both. My DH got the vasectomy (during March -- and he hates basketball!) and I am not giving up my Mirena. We're really, really done with having babies!
Why spend the money on the vasectomy? I'm not worried about doubling up on protection.
I am so, so done having kids, the tiny chance of IUD failure was more than I was willing to deal with. Between the IUD and the vasectomy, I am comfortable that there will be no birth control failure!
This pregnancy will be my last, I'm 100% sure of it. Yet I don't think I can do anything permanent. I'm thinking of getting a IUD and then we'll decide in a couple of years if DH should get snipped or not.
This is me but 97% sure... 5 is A LOT of kids DH and I both had space between us and siblings (I am 10 years younger than my sister and DH has a sis that is 13 years younger). I am not going to want another 6+ years down the road, I am open to adoption if we feel we can take on another child to love and raise but I still can't think about snipping anything lol