For those 100% sure they are DONE having kids

[savan]

We always knew we were only having 2. DH had his vasectomy when #2 was just 3 months old.

[mainelyfoolish]

We knew before we got pregnant with #2 that there was not going to be a #3. Decision was finalized when #2 was about 18 months old because DH had it in his head that a doctor wouldn't do a vasectomy until our last kid was a year old and then he dragged his feet making the appointment.

[penguingrrl]

My H had a vasectomy when our youngest was 2 months old. Had my VBAC attempt turned into a RCS I would have had a tubal day of birth. I had a dangerous third pregnancy due to uncontrollable high blood pressure, so another pregnancy was never going to be a safe option.

At the time I felt completely sure I was done. We always wanted three and had three, three was going to stretch our finances a bit, and my health couldn't risk a fourth pregnancy. Lately I've felt twinges of regret about the finality, but I think it's because DS is getting bigger and I miss the baby stage less than that I want another.

[AmyRI]

I have yet to birth #3 and I am 100% done after I do.

It was a hard decision to TTC #3 and I know we do not have the time, money, or energy to have a fourth. I want to work and it does not make financial sense with 4 kids and my income.

Also, DH has always said he is done when he turns 40 no matter how many we have. That happens 6 months after I'm due, so he is 100% done.

[water*drop]

We knew DS was our last baby before he was even conceived. DH got a vasectomy two weeks ago, the day DS turned 5 months old. I had feeeeeelings about it leading up to the vasectomy, but not really because I want a third baby; more because it feels weird to be making such a permanent decision.

[jeaniebueller]

Like, immediately. I had a tubal with my scheduled c section. So we knew we were done.

[tulips]

I've really never wanted more than two, so I knew I was done with K. H had his vasectomy when she was 9-ish weeks old.

[Deleted]

before the pee dried on the stick

[turtlegirl]

DH has always wanted 4 kids. I've always said 3. During the end of my 3rd pregnancy and now during the newborn phase of DD I am 100% sure.

Done being pregnant. Done with newborns. Financially things are going to be tight with 3. I've been telling DH we are done and he seems sad. Oh well, lol.

[whitemerlot]

Decided when my youngest was almost 3 and followed through 6 months later.

[rugbywife]

Like the second the OB had her arm halfway inside of me, trying to get P out, as I screamed because I felt like my pelvis was being shattered.

Right about then. And many moments since. I love them both. But we are done at 2.

[shamrockshake]

Before I was even pregnant, 4 is my limit, there's just no way I'm doing any more. I still got a big sad the day of DHs V though

[zeewifeandmama]

Pretty much when it took 2 hours to sew me back up with #2....then completely when I was re-cut and stitched at 12 weeks pp. I think my vagina is done.

[thebreakfastclub]

I was on the fence about a 2nd, but H never wanted another.

As DS became a toddler, I realized we were meant to be OAD.

H procrastinated so DS was 18m when he had it done.

I could always have a baby like DS in my life. I am so glad we didn't have another, because kids/toddlers are too much.

[eddy]

I have only ever wanted two.

We waited until the youngest was one for H to get the V.

[carolinagirl831]

We have been on the fence until recently we are realizing we are maxed out! We have a super dramatic 2.5 yr old who demands alot and a super sweet 6 month old, but she wakes up a ton! I'm realizing I don't think I'd be a great parent to three and we like the 2:2 ratio
Working full time, our lives are hectic
I'm sad though 3 kids in the long run seems like fun
I'm,on the pill and eventually Dh will get the big city, but we're waiting a few years for anything permanent
I also want my body back and don't really want a 3rd c section

[meltoine]

I knew as soon as the second line showed up on the hpt with DS3.

[lindyanne]

Before we even got pregnant. DH got a vasectomy when DS was like two months old.

[sunshineandpinot]

Nov 5, 2015 21:20:13 GMT -5 savan said:

We always knew we were only having 2. DH had his vasectomy when #2 was just 3 months old.

This except #2 was 2 months old. We have always been on the same page regarding this (thankfully) 

[jenn248]

Before we had kids, we decided we were either having zero or two. We are absolutely done at two, and DH will be having a vasectomy; he's just waiting until March Madness

[deo]

This pregnancy will be my last, I'm 100% sure of it. Yet I don't think I can do anything permanent. I'm thinking of getting a IUD and then we'll decide in a couple of years if DH should get snipped or not.

[madringal]

I'm due in 3 weeks and I knew 6 weeks into this pregnancy I was done, done, done. In fact I told DH repeatedly that if I lost the baby, I would not want to try again. I do not enjoy pregnancy, at all. I am sick the whole time, I've gained 80 lbs, 3 times now. It's hell on me and I sooooo know I'm done.

[cinco]

DH scheduled his vasectomy shortly after I had my 3rd, but 4 was never in the picture.

[glitzy07]

We've always known we're done after the one currently occupying my uterus. We'll start the process of a V for H sometime shortly after birth, I'm sure.

I'll probably ask my doc about a tubal if I have to have a RCS, but it's not really something I want to do.

[lindsaymg]

I told my OB that I wanted a tubal during my csection while at an appointment during my last trimester.

[IrishBelle]

After DD1 we went back and forth on having another. When I got pregnant with DD2 we new we were done. I had my tubes tied during my CS.

[circa1978]

Before I got pregnant with my first. I wasn't interested in having kids; DH was. He's also 10 years older than me, which played a part in our thinking. We tried and there was Henry. I love him beyond compare and might have been tempted to have a second (or more) but I also had wicked PPA/PPOCD. H is less willing to revisit that time than even I am, so that confirmed the decision.

[timorousbeastie]

Before DD was ever conceived. We never had any intention in having more than one.

[vanillacourage]

I am very confident we're done and my DH was making noises about he and his cousin getting March Madness snips together, but I said no way, my Mirena is amaaaaazing and I plan to just get them over and over until menopause. 

[Brie]

P's diagnosis pretty much sealed the deal for us. I cannot go through the anxiety another pregnancy would hold. It wouldn't be healthy for me or a baby or our family generally.

I have a Mirena to buy us 5 years JIC, and then H will get snipped, and I will buy myself a present.