Real flameworthy - I don't want to give them the $200 we put in their card. Petty, party of 1.
One of my family members routinely shows up to weddings with a blank check. After scoping out the food/general decor, the check is filled out and gifted to the couple. This is also in the North NJ wedding circuit.
I hate the social media hubbub every time a tragic event occurs. Hashtag this. Change your profile to support that. Barf. I'll grieve without telling all 500 of my friends.
Well, huh, your flameworthy was what I was going to share but I thought it was too soon. I totally agree.
I lost my kid at Disneyland. We went to Disneyland on Thursday. After dinner my oldest said he wanted to go on a particular ride. I said "Okay" meaning okay, we can go that way but let's coordinate which family members are going and where we will meet up. He took it to mean okay, go ahead and go by yourself without discussing any details with anyone even though we agreed that we wouldn't let you go anywhere alone because you are only 9 and wandered off. We quickly realized he was gone and DH, my stepdad, and I split up to try to find him while my mom stayed with the girls. Stepdad went to the ride he had mentioned and they said they hadn't seen him and that they wouldn't let him ride alone because of his age. We searched back and forth, up and down for 10 minutes with no sight of him before I went to the "Lost Children" center. Security came, got his description, and just as they were radioing all personnel my stepdad called me as said he found him. He was gone for over 30 minutes and I was a crying, blubbering mess. I could barely give his description to the security officer because I was crying so hard. Stepdad found him walking back toward the restaurant and away from the ride where they said they wouldn't let him on and that no one had seen him. I understand that they see so many people that they probably didn't notice when he walked in the line but I was still upset that they assured us that they would not let him on the ride and they would hold him if he came through the line and neither of those things happened. I will give props to DL that they have a ton of measures in place to find kids and I was so, so grateful that they were calm and asked the right questions. I also felt bad that I was reassured to see another family full of crying faces leaving the lost children's center as I was arriving. I hate that anyone else had to temporarily lose a kid but I was really glad that I wasn't the only one. They also have a binder where they write the missing kid's info and it had page after page of info so I was reassured again that they are pretty good about finding people.
eta: I just lost one kid. I had originally written "kids".
Anddddd they ran out of food before our table was called. I might cry. Or send H to McDonalds down the street.
I went to a wedding on a hot, humid day a week before DS was born. The ceremony was outside and there wasn't enough seating, so I had to stand. The only food during the cocktail hour was one cheese/cracker/roasted veggie tray. Our table was one of two that was outside. And then we were the last table to be called for dinner. At least there was still food left though. But I was still pissed!
I can only assume the bride and groom are terribly embarrassed. But how does this happen?
They are eating, lol. I don't think they know yet.
Can I get more info on these people? Is this something you would have expected from them? I get that some people have cash bars so, okay. Plastic plates are okay is certain circumstances. Running out of food + plastic plates + cash bar is making me question your associations.
Add me to the I would like to not have our dog anymore. Because of her we can't have anyone in the house, can't have a babysitter and she has run away a few times lately and we've had to chase her. I just don't think it's a good fit, but dh is attached and she is great with ds. I'm so worried about the new baby, and have a contingency plan in place already
I have a co-worker who is really unpleasant and bad at her job. I don't know how she's lasted all these years, but, like a cockroach, she always survives. I just found out that she was put on a performance plan and has 3 mos to turn it around or she's getting fired. Part of me feels bad for her, but I still hope she gets fired. (ideally I wish she would just retire, but I know she won't).
Post by karinothing on Nov 14, 2015 20:07:33 GMT -5
@forcuatro I am glad you guys found him. That is so scary. We lost DS1 once at an Easter egg hunt. It was terrifying and Disney is so crowded, it seems like it be impossible to find someone there
I hate the social media hubbub every time a tragic event occurs. Hashtag this. Change your profile to support that. Barf. I'll grieve without telling all 500 of my friends.
Well, huh, your flameworthy was what I was going to share but I thought it was too soon. I totally agree.
I kind of agree as well. I also agreed with something that popped up on my feed about how people (on social media) only seem to care about white people dying - everyone is changing their Facebook profiles for Paris but no one seems to care about the deaths in Beirut. And apparently facebook set up the safe check in thing for people in Paris but of course there wasn't one for Beirut. I think the most flameworthy part is that this kind of thing really bothers me, but I don't have the wherewithal to do anything about it.
Post by melsamoony on Nov 14, 2015 20:16:51 GMT -5
I am totally joining the desire to be cat free train. I have Google'd how to rehome cats a million times but have yet to find an alternative/a person who would take them.
I wouldn't give them to a shelter since they are very attached to each other and would need to adopted together and are both a little older so I worry they wouldn't get adopted.
Post by MadamePresident on Nov 14, 2015 20:17:52 GMT -5
I am kind of annoyed by people who "support" a cause by changing a fb picture or doing the ice bucket challenge or any of those things. But they don't actually do anything real to support the cause or help real people. It just seems fake.
I am kind of annoyed by people who "support" a cause by changing a fb picture or doing the ice bucket challenge or any of those things. But they don't actually do anything real to support the cause or help real people. It just seems fake.
@forcuatro, holy shit. I would have been a blubbering mess, too. Like I'm feeling all stressed out and hot just reading that. I'm glad everything turned out o.k. Sheesh.
I hate the social media hubbub every time a tragic event occurs. Hashtag this. Change your profile to support that. Barf. I'll grieve without telling all 500 of my friends.
Well, huh, your flameworthy was what I was going to share but I thought it was too soon. I totally agree.
Well thanks for deciding what the appropriate way to grieve is. After spending more than 6 hours on social media yesterday waiting for every last one of my friends in Paris to check in as "safe," I felt like following the "temporary picture" wave. Fuck anyone who questions it. I find it heartening to see my feed filled with French flags today.
Well, huh, your flameworthy was what I was going to share but I thought it was too soon. I totally agree.
Well thanks for deciding what the appropriate way to grieve is. After spending more than 6 hours on social media yesterday waiting for every last one of my friends in Paris to check in as "safe," I felt like following the "temporary picture" wave. Fuck anyone who questions it. I find it heartening to see my feed filled with French flags today.
Well, huh, your flameworthy was what I was going to share but I thought it was too soon. I totally agree.
I kind of agree as well. I also agreed with something that popped up on my feed about how people (on social media) only seem to care about white people dying - everyone is changing their Facebook profiles for Paris but no one seems to care about the deaths in Beirut. And apparently facebook set up the safe check in thing for people in Paris but of course there wasn't one for Beirut. I think the most flameworthy part is that this kind of thing really bothers me, but I don't have the wherewithal to do anything about it.
Was there not one for beirut? I have had friends marked safe in a few non western counties. But I have no friends there, so no idea.
Well thanks for deciding what the appropriate way to grieve is. After spending more than 6 hours on social media yesterday waiting for every last one of my friends in Paris to check in as "safe," I felt like following the "temporary picture" wave. Fuck anyone who questions it. I find it heartening to see my feed filled with French flags today.
And...
too soon was a correct assessment.
Seriously, I'd like to know, do you (and other posters) think it was stupid to light up the Empire State Building and the big Christ in Rio and other monuments around the world in red, white and blue as a show of solidarity last night? Do you think it's stupid that a bunch of actual French people living in France are posting these same images on their Facebook pages now to say, "hey, look, we're not alone"?
Whatever, fuck this. I can't argue about this right now. Fuck judging whatever in the fuck people have to do to process the terrible shit the world throws at us.
Seriously, I'd like to know, do you (and other posters) think it was stupid to light up the Empire State Building and the big Christ in Rio and other monuments around the world in red, white and blue as a show of solidarity last night? Do you think it's stupid that a bunch of actual French people living in France are posting these same images on their Facebook pages now to say, "hey, look, we're not alone"?
Whatever, fuck this. I can't argue about this right now. Fuck judging whatever in the fuck people have to do to process the terrible shit the world throws at us.
I am sorry that what I wrote upset you further. This is why I didn't post my flameworthy on this topic to begin with, because while I have many thoughts on the topic, I realize that it is still fresh for many people.
Fwiw, I lived in France for 3 years, I have friends who still live there. I am happy yours are safe.
(I won't actually do this, but if I do, I will do so by surrendering to the local shelter or re-homing them with trustworthy friends/family/etc, I will NOT just put them by the side of the road, I'd never do that).
While we would be sad if they died, H and I are both ready to be pet free. But at the same time we're both unwilling to rehome.
rugbywife, this isn't just about France or who has lived in France. It's also about the world being a really scary place to navigate. I have a "date" with DH this evening after the kids are asleep to revisit our emergency plans should there be a terrorist attack in our city when neither of us is with the children, or if one of us can't make it home from work or, worse still, just can't make it home, period. How do we explain that to our 7-yo? Because I suddenly had to explain some shit on the fly to her last night when I was trying to figure out if everyone we knew was okay and I realized that collapsing on the sofa in tears is not going to cut it if my husband is suddenly trapped in his office or out of touch for hours because of a terrorist attack here.
So yeah, it's easier to just scroll through the flag pics than to return to thinking about all of this.
it is just exhausting whenever something horrible happens and we are bombarded with images and articles and SO MANY OPINIONS from everyone all over the media and social media. People being shamed for showing support for France but not showing support for Lebanon and other Arab nations. Everyone trying to show how enlightened they are. People being judged if they do or don't change their profile picture. I just find it so very exhausting and contributes to my feelings of helplessness in our fucked up world. Let people feel how they feel, grieve how they want to grieve and who they feel led to grieve for.