I've sent DD's Amazon wish list to grandparents and I keep checking to see what has been purchased. Someone finally bought some stuff! I should probably keep it a surprise but I just can't.
Sadly I sent my list via Google sheets this year so I can't spy on that.
Seriously, I'd like to know, do you (and other posters) think it was stupid to light up the Empire State Building and the big Christ in Rio and other monuments around the world in red, white and blue as a show of solidarity last night? Do you think it's stupid that a bunch of actual French people living in France are posting these same images on their Facebook pages now to say, "hey, look, we're not alone"?
Whatever, fuck this. I can't argue about this right now. Fuck judging whatever in the fuck people have to do to process the terrible shit the world throws at us.
I changed my photo and wrote a little 'courage, mes amis...' message. It just hit too close to home, and I thought it would be nice for my friends to see it. I get upset by those memes that are judging people for praying for Paris, implying it means people don't care about Lebanon. Should we care about both tragedies? Absolutely. But the world is shitty enough without people criticising each other's compassion.
I'm here. And out of all the things that need analyzing in this world at this moment, getting up in arms over throwing a French Flag over your profile pic is the least of your worries. It may not be some big dramatic see the world change but if it makes people feel better for five damn minutes and brings a bit of comfort so be it.
I changed mine and an old French exchange student Skyped me 10 minutes later with the biggest thank you. All was right in this sad sad world for a bit after that. That's all we can do until we try to figure out how to fight a battle so much bigger than us. It's an internet hug if you wil..
And the rest of the world is not forgetting either about other places. Everyone has their time and place and reason. And there's years and years and years of historical backstory behind other places leaving it all "forgotten" that has very little to do with FB and our generation quite honestly. They are apples and oranges for a million and one reasons and I hate the comparisons.
I am not a fan of buffets at weddings. I would much prefer to have my food brought to me at my table.
I have only been to 2 weddings where this is the case. Even buffets charge so much its insane. My last friend who married paid $75 a head for crappy overcooked chicken. I can't imagine what they would have charged to bring that to the table.
The plated option for our caterer was cheaper than the buffet. She said that with the plates, they control portion size. For a buffet, they end up providing much more food.
I have only been to 2 weddings where this is the case. Even buffets charge so much its insane. My last friend who married paid $75 a head for crappy overcooked chicken. I can't imagine what they would have charged to bring that to the table.
The plated option for our caterer was cheaper than the buffet. She said that with the plates, they control portion size. For a buffet, they end up providing much more food.
Same here, so we had a plated dinner. Buffets are more common around here.
H and I went to a wedding where we only knew the groom. Tables were assigned (and named rather than numbered because they were hipsters lol), and we could not find our table. It did not exist! We didn't want to crash a table of strangers, so we hung around the bar for awhile, stole some cake pop favors from an empty table, then left. Lame!
Preppy and mekia's kids are so cute, but the Santas CREEP ME OUT. Especially the one holding mekia's kids is going to seriously haunt my dreams. Like I kind of worry that at least one of them has a John Wayne Gacy basement.
This is making me lol. He was such a nice Santa I swear!
The other day I was shopping for a Christmas dress for DD but didn't want a red one because red isn't her color.
Which made me remember rikki's post from a couple years ago where Glamma said that red wasn't her son's color and everyone was like, "how can red not be a 1-year-old's color?!?!"
So I guess my flameful is that I'm a Glamma sympathizer lol.
. She actually proclaimed recently that he can now wear red. Apparently the baby should not be in orange though. Too many rules.
Toss it! I relate to your feelings, entirely. I think in the 2.75 years DS has been alive, I have kept maybe 20% of the shit she's bought him (aside from Christmas/bday wish list items that we requested on his behalf). It's not worth it to me to have clothes or toys or whatever around that bring up annoyed or otherwise negative feelings. I'll buy him socks on my own, thanks...lol. Seriously, socks, bibs, other completely innocuous and useful things have been given away merely because of where they came from. No regrets here
Same. Don't feel bad Muddled! It also bothers me that MIL doesn't listen to stores and sizes. Like when I tell you my skinny child doesn't fit well in baby gap, don't bring me a ton of baby gap stuff. She just does what she wants to feel like she did something instead of listening and getting us what we want. Except the zoo membership. That's the one thing she's understood is something we use a ton.
Lol. We have her told time and again over 6+years that we have no space for anything, so she made sure we recognized that she didn't bring anything big. Last I checked, a whole bag of small stuff still takes up space.
Nah, DS has always been easier than my nephew (and my parents' favorite kid to watch). DD was pretty much the same.
I like you.
You won't like me.... Dd1 is the easy child. Real easy, follows rules, sleeps, etc. dd2 is not an easy child. Other than sleep well, she is a rule breaker. You tell her not to do something, she will do it whilst smiling at you. She'll run off, incite misbehaviour amongst the other kids in her daycare room.... We got a report one day that she "tried to be good today". But everyone still loves her because she has a very cute smile and is very loving.
I had a buffet at my wedding, and it was great. It made sense for us because we had a vegetarian wedding, so it was actually the most considerate option for our mostly non-vegetarian guests in that sense. HATERS TO THE LEFT!!
I'll add a wedding one. Our wedding was all in one place. I hate having to travel to another location for the reception. Unless you have some sort of beautiful church steeped in history like Bruton Parish in Williamsburg, VA or Trinity Church in Queen Anne's Square in Newport, RI or similar, there's just no way a church wedding is worth all that bother to your guests.
If you have a vegetarian wedding I don't understand how having a buffet helps. Either you serve meat or you don't.
As for the church thing, yes I would consider that flameful. The ceremony is actually the important part of the day. So if you are religious I think being married in a church could be pretty important to you.
I was once at a wedding that did not have enough seats. This was by design. There were some high tables you could just stand at scattered among the tables with chairs. I think I heard it was to encourage mingling. It was different.
We have a very easy baby and I think we should be OAD because I have realized I would be a crappy parent to a difficult baby. We were around some very high-needs babies this weekend between friends and family, and I would lose my mind with all the crying and the things that make them upset. One poor friend basically cannot set her son down ever and he's almost one. If anyone else even looks at him, he cries his eyes out. She hasn't left him in the past six months because of how hysterical he gets when she leaves. I would die. I cannot handle being touched that much or needed that much.
I prefer the buffet option. That way I can fill my plate with sides of the main course option is something I don't care for.
I like the buffet option because you aren't starving afterward, lol. The plated dinners I've been to have been like 1 oz filet, 2 oz chicken, 3 tablespoons of potatoes, and 6 green beans.
The worst is family style which seems to be an indiana or Chicagoland thing because I've never seen it elsewhere. It's the worst of both plated and buffet.
Post by carolinagirl831 on Nov 15, 2015 7:08:29 GMT -5
If there's ever a time to not judge people how they grieve in a time for tragedy, this is it! I for one, love seeing the French flags on FB and countries all over the world banning together showing their support for France. The US has been there and terrorist attacks on our own country are terrifying. It seems further away when it happens in the Middle East every day, but happening in France brings it too close to home. We as a regular us citizen have no real way to combat isis, but hell it warms even my cynical heart to see everyone supporting a cause. Even though my FB was lit was rainbows a few months ago, there were still arguments. I think we can al agree, we all support France and the world! We want to believe in good. If it comforts people to see the French flag, let them have it!
My wedding was stations. Sooooo 2006, but the food was amazing. We had enough seats for everyone but we had indoor outdoor seating. The outdoor seating was on a deck overlooking the sunset on the harbor. No one came inside until after dark!
I have already had conversations with DD, who is four soon, that Santa is pretend and that we can still have fun pretending that he brings us Christmas presents. H and I are by no means religious, though we do both come from backgrounds that are Christian. So, it's not even a Jesus thing. It's the fact that I find it so incredibly weird to perpetuate this story with my kid, in a way I never thought. I think it's because Santa was ruined for me when I was three, and I never considered Christmas any less special for it. In fact, I only remember one kid around me growing up who believed in Santa.
As for the French flag stuff--I don't think anybody is saying that, if you have people in Paris, like some on this board do, you're being at all disingenuous switching a profile pic or whatever. I do agree with the notion that many on my FB are suddenly internationalists when white Europeans are attacked, up to and including people who share a not peep when injustices are committed in this country or every day abroad.
I get that, but that's not what was said up thread. It was said it's unnecessary to grieve in front of 500 FB friends. That's the part I find offensive. Who gets to determine how people grieve? And furthermore, who gets to determine who grieves at all? If someone who knows not a single person in Paris and has never been there is feeling really emotional about what happened on Friday, so be it. Feelings don't need to make logical sense nor does the way people process them.
I hate the social media hubbub every time a tragic event occurs. Hashtag this. Change your profile to support that. Barf. I'll grieve without telling all 500 of my friends.
I was about to start a post earlier about this, but chickened out. I just don't see how it benefits anyone. My other flameworthy is I changed my profile pic anyway.
What kind of makes me feel icky are the people in my Facebook feed using this as an opportunity to post a million old vacation pictures. Like, "Here I am sipping coffee at a Paris Cafe in 1998. What a wonderful city. Can't believe this happened". Way to make this about yourself.
I am not a fan of buffets at weddings. I would much prefer to have my food brought to me at my table.
I think this is a unity horse on this board. If not, it should be.
I don't like weddings where you aren't assigned a table and your food isn't brought to you. I spend the whole ceremony and time before getting to the dinner location worrying about getting a table with however many seats I need. And then what about so-and-so, where are they going to sit if we can't get a table together? It's just annoying and frankly I think is rude to do to your guests. Take the time and make a seating chart please. Guests take the time and spend the money to come celebrate with you, the least you can do is make sure they aren't "fighting" for their seat and food!
If your buffet has ample food then no one should be fighting. Lol
I had a buffet at my wedding, and it was great. It made sense for us because we had a vegetarian wedding, so it was actually the most considerate option for our mostly non-vegetarian guests in that sense. HATERS TO THE LEFT!!
I'll add a wedding one. Our wedding was all in one place. I hate having to travel to another location for the reception. Unless you have some sort of beautiful church steeped in history like Bruton Parish in Williamsburg, VA or Trinity Church in Queen Anne's Square in Newport, RI or similar, there's just no way a church wedding is worth all that bother to your guests.
Wow...this is a really bizarre perspective. What if the couple is religious and feels strongly about holding the service in a sacred space?
Sorry guests, not everything is about you. Put away your damn cameras.
I do really appreciate when the couple provides transportation to and from the hotel. Sadly I was not thoughtful enough to come up with that for our wedding.
I had a buffet at my wedding, and it was great. It made sense for us because we had a vegetarian wedding, so it was actually the most considerate option for our mostly non-vegetarian guests in that sense. HATERS TO THE LEFT!!
I'll add a wedding one. Our wedding was all in one place. I hate having to travel to another location for the reception. Unless you have some sort of beautiful church steeped in history like Bruton Parish in Williamsburg, VA or Trinity Church in Queen Anne's Square in Newport, RI or similar, there's just no way a church wedding is worth all that bother to your guests.
It's not about the pretty pictures and history of the church. It's about the religious sacrament.
I think this is a unity horse on this board. If not, it should be.
I don't like weddings where you aren't assigned a table and your food isn't brought to you. I spend the whole ceremony and time before getting to the dinner location worrying about getting a table with however many seats I need. And then what about so-and-so, where are they going to sit if we can't get a table together? It's just annoying and frankly I think is rude to do to your guests. Take the time and make a seating chart please. Guests take the time and spend the money to come celebrate with you, the least you can do is make sure they aren't "fighting" for their seat and food!
If your buffet has ample food then no one should be fighting. Lol
Nobody wants to be one of the last tabled called or get the bottom of the pan food. Plus, you have no idea how much food there is so I take way less to help make sure others behind me will have some. Two things I don't have to worry about with a plated dinner.
Now I'll say I've also gotten into trouble about my Santa flameworthies before, but I still believe them. I do not understand how children believe that the mall Santa is the real Santa. I always assumed it was a dude dressed up as Santa, even though I believed there was a real Santa in the North Pole who came to my house. Like, he's a magical being. How is he also spending his days sitting between a Hot Topic and an Auntie Annie's? Think it through, 6-year-old.
Even DS1 at 4 was like "but santa does not live at the mall, that doesn't make sense"
I am not a fan of buffets at weddings. I would much prefer to have my food brought to me at my table.
I think this is a unity horse on this board. If not, it should be.
I don't like weddings where you aren't assigned a table and your food isn't brought to you. I spend the whole ceremony and time before getting to the dinner location worrying about getting a table with however many seats I need. And then what about so-and-so, where are they going to sit if we can't get a table together? It's just annoying and frankly I think is rude to do to your guests. Take the time and make a seating chart please. Guests take the time and spend the money to come celebrate with you, the least you can do is make sure they aren't "fighting" for their seat and food!
I've only been to 1 wedding with a seating chart and hated it. I've never had issues finding a good seat or sitting with people I know.
I also love buffets. You can chose what you want and if you'd like to skip something.
If your buffet has ample food then no one should be fighting. Lol
Nobody wants to be one of the last tabled called or get the bottom of the pan food. Plus, you have no idea how much food there is so I take way less to help make sure others behind me will have some. Two things I don't have to worry about with a plated dinner.
Buffets waste a lot of food to avoid this. It's not ideal, but in my small town there was not a venue that we trusted to bring out plates in a timely fashion to all 250 people my parents insisted on inviting.
Post by carolinagirl831 on Nov 15, 2015 8:39:46 GMT -5
It's funny how wedding expectations are so different. I'm from Illinois and almost every wedding is a church ceremony in the afternoon, a few hours break and reception in the evening. Majority are a plated dinner with a seating chart with full open bar