I actually am not going to ask H. He gets oddly sensitive about stuff like this. Once there was a poll on here about like having a freebie with someone else for sex. What is that term used for this concept? Anyways I was joking around and asked him if he would take one if offered. A day later he was still bothered I even asked him about it?
he doesn't like to joke about our marriage apparently lol.
Take infertility out of the question and yes, for sure. On my lowest days, and the guilt gets to me, I would probably feel like I should set him free. He would have been a great Dad.
Post by mom2twoboys on Nov 29, 2015 21:51:54 GMT -5
Yes I would. We have always had a pretty good relationship. But we make sure to have an open line of communication. My parents lacked that during their marriage.
I actually am not going to ask H. He gets oddly sensitive about stuff like this. Once there was a poll on here about like having a freebie with someone else for sex. What is that term used for this concept? Anyways I was joking around and asked him if he would take one if offered. A day later he was still bothered I even asked him about it?
he doesn't like to joke about our marriage apparently lol.
My DH is like this, too. We actually had kind of a rough day and if I asked him this question now, he'd freak out.
This past year has had some decent sized challenges but that comes with having young kids and trying to navigate that world together. Plus a few other bumps. I haven't always liked him but I still wanted him as my partner through everything the last year has thrown at us and hopefully will still feel that way (without the not always liking him part) for years to come.
Post by DotAndBuzz on Nov 29, 2015 21:58:28 GMT -5
Probably. Not because we've had the most blissfully amazing marriage on record (it's been mostly good, FTR), but because during the rough periods, I would have been too overwhelmed/busy/pissed off to deal with the renewal paperwork, and the marriage would have just lapsed and continued.
So still married by default, but for the better in the end. Here's to 11 more years of laziness.
I asked him and he just said 'yes babe'. He didn't ask about the paperwork, probably because it is assumed I would do it. Lol. We'd need to set it up for auto-renew or else we'd probably forget and accidentally get divorced. Of course, we've only had one anniversary, we'll have a one month old on our two year, maybe I should ask again then. Haha
Absolutely. Even in our two most difficult years (out of 12), absolutely. That said, we don't have children, so that eliminates a lot of things we could potentially struggle over.
Post by janetplanet20 on Nov 29, 2015 22:17:07 GMT -5
We both agreed we would not have renewed the first year of our first kid's life. That was a rough time for us adjusting to becoming parents. All the other years, we'd renew...though ask on the wrong day and maybe not! Lol
Post by trafficgirl on Nov 29, 2015 22:46:31 GMT -5
For my first marriage, i doubt I would have done the first renewal. Certainly not the second.
With H, yes, we would renew. Or at least I would.
Granted we're only at 2.5 years of marriage, but I think we both feel like we're in it for the long haul. Especially because we had the boys after 6 months of being married so I think we both kind of felt like we were thrown to the wolves.