Yes and Yes. And yes even if they don't have kids. Smoking is going to affect others no matter where you do it because smokers always reek of it (as much as they try to deny it).
I judge most people at the age to have children (say, under 50) that smoke. We all knew it was a dumb, so if you started anyway... yeah, I think you're a bit dumb.
And if you smoke with your kids, you care more about smoking than your kid's health. Gross.
I do on both counts. I'm a child of a parent who smoked at least a pack a day (and died of a heart attack at the age of 50). I also smoked until we started TTC, so I know how hard it was to quit. That said, I haven't had a cigarette since and wouldn't even think about it near DD. Quitting was the best thing I ever could have done for myself and my family. It was dumb to start smoking in the first place, but I won't subject my kid to the dangers I faced as a child due to second hand smoke and I do judge accordingly. I also know people who smoked throughout their pregnancy and they wonder why their children have severe health issues now (heart / growth issues).
Post by hannamaren on Aug 26, 2012 20:25:48 GMT -5
I judge smoking parents and my H smokes. He only smokes outside but I wish he would quit. I always think it looks trashy when parents are out for a walk smoking and pushing or next to the stroller. Despite all the other smokers all over the sidewalk.
Post by GailGoldie on Aug 26, 2012 21:08:39 GMT -5
yes for number one - i find it absolutly disgusting.
yes for number 2, but not AS much... I know that it's very hard to quit (I have never smoked but DH quit drinking and smoking on the same day almost 10 years ago, and has found it harder to not smoke vs. drink... says it's like heroine).
I have no tolerance for smokers around my children - and it makes me horribly sad to see kids around smokers in their family with no choice.
my MIL is a heavy smoker- soon to die from it (COPD)... I haven't been to her house since i was pg with my first son, 6 years.... Griffin has been there 2x's - for an hour each - on christmas night to see family... and the twins have never been. My husband and I don't want them around it. She knows and has to come here to see them. It's sad when family choose smoking over family. It's a VERY selfish disease, as most addictions are.
Post by sillygoosegirl on Aug 26, 2012 21:35:49 GMT -5
I judge people for smoking, but I don't judge them more for being parents or doing it around their kids. Or perhaps I don't judge them any less for keeping it away from their kids.
Post by schrodinger on Aug 26, 2012 22:29:50 GMT -5
Yes to both. My BIL smokes outside, then comes in and picks up my nephew. You can smell the smoke on my nephew. Its not fair to the little guy who has no choice.
I guess so but honestly don't know anyone personally who does this now. I grew up with a mom who did & I seem to be one of the few who doesn't feel scarred from it all. Many of my friends had parents that smoked too (1980s) so maybe that's why it was NBD to me. All 5 of us kids are healthy as adults & were as kids. My mom did quit after 30+yrs but got very obese after quitting. Her obesity has wrecked complete havoc on her body & health but her lungs are fine shockingly.
I don't judge if someone smokes outside.
This is where I stand, all 3 of us are fine. My mom quit a few years back after nearly 30 years. Health wise, she's fine, except complains about the weight gain, her lungs are fine too. One of my brothers smokes, but does so outside and not around his daughter.
1. Very much so. The laws in my province state that it is illegal to smoke inside a car with a person under the age of 16 in the car! There is unfortunately there is nothing they can do about people smoking in there own home.
2. Yes. I judge most people that smoke because I judge anyone who is slowly killing themselves!
Both my sister and I have breathing issues from the years my mom smoked. She and my step father did it all the time and when my mom would leave for work my step father would lock all the doors and windows and smoke without allowing us to leave the apartment.
1. Fuck yes, it's absolutely disgusting and makes me sick that people would do this.
2. Yes, but not as much. My Dad smoked and I hated it, he would try to hide it. If we accidently caught him like when we were on vacation and he went off for a walk, he would get FURIOUS at us for no fucking reason other than we caught him smoking. Like the whole family didn't fucking know and could smell it on him every time he came home from work.
Yes on both. More on the first one where I don't think there is any excuse for it. On the 2nd one I wonder how they can do it when children so clearly want to copy everything you do.
Yes on both. With regards to the second question, my dad used to smoke outside of the home (when he was at work) when we were growing up. He didn't smoke on weekends or during vacations, which could last as long as an entire month, so I guess he could stop but he didn't want to. I realised about it when I was a teenager and I suffered a lot because I was so worried for his health. Unfortunately I was right in being worried as smoking was an aggravating factor of the several strokes he had during my teenage years and what led to him being in hospice care in an almost vegetative state. I judge him a lot because I didn't deserve to lose my dad (he didn't die but he continues in that state) and he should have realised that his behaviour was dangerous and could have damaged his family forever, which actually happened.
I'm not sure if I judge, I just don't understand it at all and think smoking is awful. Even kids who have parents who smoke and are lead down the "wrong" path in life, are told over and over how terribly smoking is in school.
I'm always baffled that people ever start. You are told it's dangerous and addicting from an early age.
I think in NY state it's illegal to smoke in the car with a minor?
I don't judge, it's not my business. I found out that my dad smoked off and on my whole life when I was like 25. He was constantly trying to quit, but it isn't easy, and I have nothing but sympathy for him because I've seen how much it eats at him that he feels too weak or whatever to be able to kick the habit. Everyone has their vices, I know I have mine, who am I to judge someone elses.
Yes, I judge smokers, especially those who are parents. It really baffles me that everybody knows how bad cigarettes are for you and yet they still do it.
However, I'm overweight and have awful eating habits, so I realize that this makes me a total hypocrite.
1. Heck yes. I especially judge my aunt and uncle. There was one time as a kid that my aunt wouldn't let me crack the window in the car while she was smoking it up with me, maybe 10 years old, and her new baby in the car. It was like she was hotboxing it. The baby had just had heart surgery. I'm still pissed at the lady for that.
2. no, I don't judge if they're outside. This doesn't bother me.