Give advice here

[sonrisa]

It's a new year and I'm figuring out what I want to adjust and improve. (I like waiting until reality starts again so my goals aren't just "don't drink so much next time")

Give me your piece of advice for life, marriage, parenting little kids, housekeeping, whatever. 

[scottyderp]

The only person that you can control is yourself.
Your obvious, outward (and inward) happiness in life can inspire and influence others.
You are enough. Unless you're an asshole.
Eat more greens.

[sonrisa]

Jan 6, 2016 14:42:48 GMT -5 scottyderp said:

Your obvious, outward (and inward) happiness in life can inspire and influence others.

This is so true. Especially with kids. So true. I need to be that person - especially first thing in the mornings when I'm not. 

[papie]

Housekeeping: pay someone to do it
Kids: pay someone to watch them
Get rid of half the toys, they only play with about 1/3 of them anyway
Do a checklist for workouts, and PUT A CHECKMARK every time you do your planned workout. Like a little kid chart. Stickers could work too. DON'T LAUGH.


Oooooh and I just had an idea yesterday. We have a ridiculous amount of hats and mittens, so much that I sop end hours digging in the bin for matching ones for each kid. I'm going to buy one of those over the door shoe organizers for the front closet and put all the mittens in it. I'm so excited about my idea.

[scottyderp]

Jan 6, 2016 14:45:05 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Jan 6, 2016 14:42:48 GMT -5 scottyderp said:

Your obvious, outward (and inward) happiness in life can inspire and influence others.

This is so true. Especially with kids. So true. I need to be that person - especially first thing in the mornings when I'm not. 

Me, too.  Let's do it!

[papie]

Marriage: you know you are right. He knows you are right. Stop debating it and arguing and move on. You won't be happier if he admits it and apologizes.

[scottyderp]

Jan 6, 2016 14:45:19 GMT -5 papie said:

Housekeeping: pay someone to do it
Kids: pay someone to watch them
Get rid of half the toys, they only play with about 1/3 of them anyway
Do a checklist for workouts, and PUT A CHECKMARK every time you do your planned workout. Like a little kid chart. Stickers could work too. DON'T LAUGH.


Oooooh and I just had an idea yesterday. We have a ridiculous amount of hats and mittens, so much that I sop end hours digging in the bin for matching ones for each kid. I'm going to buy one of those over the door shoe organizers for the front closet and put all the mittens in it. I'm so excited about my idea.

First thing I'm doing when I'm employed again.  Short hair don't care!

[papie]

Jan 6, 2016 14:46:14 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

Always depress the toilet flush lever to a count of 5 especially if you are out in public. 

Did I tell you guys about our magical new toilet? The old one was a count of 30, no joke.  This one? You barely press it and SWOOSHOOSHOOSH, BOOM.  All gone.  It's truly amazing.  

[sonrisa]

Jan 6, 2016 14:45:19 GMT -5 papie said:

Housekeeping: pay someone to do it
Kids: pay someone to watch them
Get rid of half the toys, they only play with about 1/3 of them anyway
Do a checklist for workouts, and PUT A CHECKMARK every time you do your planned workout. Like a little kid chart. Stickers could work too. DON'T LAUGH.

I want my own sticker chart

[Deleted]

Take better care of myself, and stop buying everything for my kids and spend some on me.

[rageragerage]

Hide the cookie and ice cream packaging deep in the bin because your kids WILL go through the trash in the morning to see what you ate.

[sequins]

Don't worry about things till they happen. They may not even happen.

Start meeting people with kindness and then judge if they turn out to be assholes.

[sequins]

Buy frozen precut vegetables. Best thing ever. Stir fry mix, fajita mix. Makes home cooking even easier.

[sequins]

Clean one and only one area of the house everyday.

[sequins]

Pretend to love your ILs. Your H will love you and be so grateful for it.

[pantsparty]

Spend some time in the evening prepping for your next day. If I'm working out, I choose the workout and put it in my calendar, get my workout clothes out, make my protein shake, etc. If I have a morning meeting I'll pick out my clothes and make sure they're ready to go, and put my shoes by the door. Little things that make the morning less stressful.

[underwaterrhymes]

Find ways to love yourself. If it doesn't come easily, practice by giving yourself compliments.

[sequins]

I'm just telling myself all these. Sorry, lol.

[onetruething]

Experiences, not things.

[flex]

Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Let go of the resentment--it's not doing you any good. People are going to be the way they are. You can't wish their faults away. Concentrate on yourself and do what you can to make the world a better place.

[daisybuchannan]

Plan ahead and stock the fridge with healthy options. Make it easy to make good food choices.

[nicbreeful]

Live a life of quality, not quantity.

Basically, invest in the good stuff. Good friends, good food, good experiences. Stop wasting time and money on the quantity things.

I think I explained this better last year when we were talking about resolutions.

[cabbagecabbage]

Baring health/chemistry, happiness is a choice.

No one else gives a shit about your choices as much as you worry they do.

Setting boundaries is harder but way better than passive-aggression. Bonus, you only have to do it once.

Be confident in your choices and people won't question you twice.

Bad things aren't your fault but people do repeat patterns. If something keeps happening "to" you, look into that.

[Deleted]

-Trust your instincts (with your spouse, your friends or your kids)
-Make yourself a priority. You will be a better worker, friend parent or spouse if you are happy with you

[speckledfrog]

I keep a sheet of removable avery stickers clipped to my fridge so I can date certain leftovers when we put them in the fridge. This avoids the issue of staring at two or three containers for coconut milk or baked beans and wondering how the eff old they all are

ETA:  I keep a thin sharpie hooked on the sheet so I don't have to hunt for one.

[miniroller]

When I find myself getting stuck in a routine, I make/ revamp/ review lists of goals: monthly, weekly, sometimes daily goals. These help me to stay productive when I have downtime. My phone's always right beside me, so I try to make it a habit to check my list(s).
I may have originally heard of this idea here; it's been a couple of years, so sorry if I'm stealing someone's advice! But THANKS

[ginap]

Say no more often.
Expect the worst and hope for the best or a less downer version, adjust expectations.
Do something just for me every day.

[papie]

Jan 6, 2016 14:59:22 GMT -5 sequins said:

Pretend to love your ILs. Your H will love you and be so grateful for it.

I.....



just...



can't...


He doesn't like them either, so maybe that makes it a bit better?

[papie]

Jan 6, 2016 15:14:36 GMT -5 mofongo said:

I thought Sue was gone??

and now you get to hear OUR SUPER INCREDIBLE WISE ADVICE.  



:::evil laugh:::

[wambam]

Choose to be kind to your partner every day.
Embrace your weird.