Post by lovelyshoes on Jan 6, 2016 15:28:16 GMT -5
Start doing guided meditation. I just started and I love it so much. I do it when I go to bed at night and it really relaxes me! [/quote]
What are you following? I want to learn transcendental meditation, but the process is 1k, so that's not happening. I used to meditate in college and it was amazing for all aspects of my life. puddleofgrace
Take care of your teeth, and floss daily. I regret not being as diligent about that during the last couple years. It sounds stupid, but good dental health makes for good overall health.
Don't let your grown children walk all over you. (This doesn't apply to me, because believe me, I simply won't allow it. My mom, however, has allowed this to happen with whacko sister for years and years. My sister is a bully.)
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Definitely make time for yourself. Be it going to the gym, out to lunch or dinner with friends, whatever. Moms that say they can't do it many times don't really want to try, imo. Doing something for you is not a crime and ultimately can make you a better mom.
When they are pushing your buttons work hard not to get down to their level by losing your shit. this is one of mine for the upcoming year, but thought it worth sharing.
Be kind and patient, with everyone--no matter how much they irritate you or piss you off.
Don't sell yourself short (I used to do this by saying "I'm just a single mom." or "I'm just an admin assistant". I didn't realize it until I got called out on it)
Make time for yourself, but also make time for your kids--group time as well as individually.
I never reply to these types of posts, but hey, why not, right?
I will drop something for each category:
life: today is now. looking forward too far, too often, will mean you miss out on the now. this is especially a problem if you prefer youth over age/wisdom.
marriage: the people who have perfect marriages are LIARS. it's not perfect, it's work, but the benefits are worth it (in most cases).
also, where possible: separate closets, separate bathrooms and separate bank accounts.
parenting little kids: kids pick up on your emotions. if you are always talking to them with anger, frustration or fatigue in your voice, they will mimic those feelings and you won't get the best of them. michelle duggar had something right: talking to your kids with serial killer wide eyes and a syrupy sweet voice will likely allow you to really reach them. this is true for my kid, hopefully it's true for others as well.
housekeeping: make it a habit to pick up every day, in every room. it seems overwhelming, but doing this daily means that it will never take too long. I know that no one will ever say "she had a great life and hey, her place was always clean/tidy" but a clean, orderly and tidy living space can do wonders in making you feel centered and anxiety-free.
whatever: get your god damned hair trimmed regularly!
I have always been impressed that she never loses her shit.
Also, it has been nearly a year since I had a haircut. A YEAR. Not sure how I let this happen.
Oh, here's some advice I need to take myself: MEAL PLAN. Stop fucking going to the grocery store 3-4 times a week because you failed to take 20 minutes to think through dinner.
Also, if you INSIST on buying extra meat when it's on sale so you can freeze it, for the love of god, keep an updated freezer stock document somewhere.
Start doing guided meditation. I just started and I love it so much. I do it when I go to bed at night and it really relaxes me!
Do you have any recs? I've been having trouble lately falling asleep. Binge-watching Homeland isn't helping. LOL.
I just finished binge watching Homeland on Sunday night. I had the worst sleep all of last week. The show is so good, just sucks me in. One more episode and then I'll go to sleep....
I keep a sheet of removable avery stickers clipped to my fridge so I can date certain leftovers when we put them in the fridge. This avoids the issue of staring at two or three containers for coconut milk or baked beans and wondering how the eff old they all are
ETA: I keep a thin sharpie hooked on the sheet so I don't have to hunt for one.
I use a roll of masking tape and tear off a piece. Which I mostly use to label breast milk, but I could theoretically start cooking again some day;)
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"