My H is going out of town and will be gone all weekend.
I mean we didn't have plans anyway being that we have a newborn and he's going to a wake so it's not exactly a vacation for him, but it still sucks. Thankfully my mom is here to help with the kids or I would be seriously raging.
Post by spunkarella on Feb 12, 2016 13:35:58 GMT -5
We are both really lazy about holidays and don't do much to acknowledge them. I'm genuinely not disappointed if he does nothing at all for Valentine's. That being said, here is my Valentine's Day story.
First, let's go back to when we first met and started dating in high school. We met in early November. He made a big deal that he would be asking me go "go steady" but was waiting for the right moment. I thought for sure it would be New Year's Eve, with a sweet speech about new beginnings or some such.
Nope, he surprised me on Christmas. Hmm, ok. Why Christmas, you ask? I am such a gift to him, blah blah? No. It was because that was the same anniversary as his ex-girlfriend, and he just wanted something easy to remember! I was pissed for a minute, then found it hilarious. I gave him endless grief.
Fast forward several years later, and we are talking about marriage. He says no way in hell will he ever propose on a holiday, anniversary, or special day of any type. Good plan, I say.
So we are chilling at his house on Valentine's Day, doing our usual nothing much. And he proposed! After I said yes, I asked him WTF, why did you propose on Valentine's Day? Were you just really trying to catch me off guard because we have both made jokes about how much I don't like cheesy Valentine's proposals?
You guys, he was in shock. He had totally forgotten it was Valentine's Day. The look on his face, it was priceless I tell you. Priceless. He sincerely asked if I wanted a do-over another day. Offered to run out and buy a Valentine's present. I said no, this is so much funnier.
Please know that this honestly endears me to my husband and I think it is hilarious. The ability to keep telling this story year after year is the greatest gift of all. (heart)
this sounds fun to me because in college I was obsessed with watching curling on the Olympics. I also was incredibly high through most of it.
(ML non-mom browsing from app) AH: this is absolutely the perfect gift for my H, who is pretty obsessed with curling, especially during the Olympics. I've checked around, and darn it, not only is there nothing locally, but I can't even find anything in-state BOO! However, we did agree on no gifts & instead allocating more $ to a future trip, so maybe it's for the best. But man, it would've been PERFECT!!
I had a baby on Valentine's Day, he turns four this year and we're hosting a party at an indoor inflatables/gymnastics place for about 15 kids, probably 50 total people. Including my inlaws, but they're coming tomorrow and babysitting so we can go out Saturday night.
I got DH a card and a Reece's heart. I expect a card, that's it. He randomly knocks this sort of stuff out of the park. And then there are times he does nothing. I only get pissed if he does absolutely nothing. He must acknowledge all of these holidays even if he thinks they're stupid. Gifts are the least of both of our love languages.
@this , apparently I'm a geezer, but if the place has good steak and a bar I'd be all over that. I've never turned down a dinner of steak and a big glass of red wine, I don't care how not cool it is.
We don't really celebrate. I honestly don't care either way. For us, every day is like Valentine's Day. (Lololololol, insert some kind of hysterically laughing gif here).
Well, today at the wine store the lady guilted me into getting "something sparkling for the special day on Sunday", so I guess we'll be having that.
Yesterday at lunch dh asked if I he should swing by and get some flowers or something and then asked if he could go ahead and give them to me so that he doesn't have to find somewhere to hide them. I told him no thanks.
I think we're going out to dinner tonight using a gc from Christmas.
Post by leonard131 on Feb 12, 2016 14:21:59 GMT -5
miamigirl, that is totally me when we go out and it drives H crazy. I am like " did you HEAR THAT??? " . Normally his response it no. It is good to know that isn't only me he can tune out
I could care less about V-day although I do have fun doing little stuff for M and some of our friends kids but I actually thought it was today until a couple days ago because M was having his V-day party today.
My H asked me years ago if it was okay to stop doing flowers on Valentine's anymore because they are just so expensive and I don't really like them that much, do I? I was all, oh, yeah, um, that's fine I guess. And he would make up for it by getting me flowers other times of the year. Better flowers even!
He never gets me flowers and I kind of miss the overpriced, poor quality, last minute grocery store purchased roses I used to get, since I do actually like getting flowers (wilted)
(and I'm not really that upset, I would tell him if I was, but I feel dumb making a big deal about flowers lol)
Post by cherry1111 on Feb 12, 2016 14:31:34 GMT -5
Our first Valentines Day while dating we were in college and poor. We decided to just do something small for each other. I bought a card and baked him his favorite cookies and shaped them into hearts. I also left a heart balloon tied to his apartment door while he was in class. He came over that night and handed me a pack of gum. That he had bought from the gas station around the corner on his way over.
DH gave me his valentines gift already, while acknowledging that it was only kind of a gift. It was an amope foot pedi thing, which I asked for for Christmas. When he gave me one at christmas, he said that he bought it at Costco and the lady checking receipts at the door told him he could find it cheaper on Amazon. So when he told me this story, I looked it up on Amazon and realized that it was like $20 cheaper, so I told him he could return it and get the cheaper price.
So I got my cheaper Christmas gift for Valentine's Day. DH is notorious for being terrible at gift giving, so I expect absolutely nothing.
Neither one of us are into Valentine's Day. A card and either flowers/chocolate and call it a day.
DH is working all of Valentine's Day, so two single girlfriends are coming over for taco night and toddler/baby wrangling. We'll have some wine too and call it a night.
Our first Valentines Day together, DH got a hotel room WITH a jacuzzi (fancy - we were 18/19 lol). He came and picked me up from college and had a whole big thing planned.
And I was so sick he had to take me home the first thing in the morning where I spent the entire weekend in bed.
Well, there was last year, when H laid a massive guilt trip on me because we couldn't have sex on Valentines day, when we had a 2 week old.
Omg no. And I thought last night in my house was bad.
I had my 6 week pp apt on Wednesday and yesterday was my bday and once the baby was down last night DH was pestering me for sex. Lol no. On my birthday I prefer to sleep.
Post by oceanstbride on Feb 12, 2016 15:00:40 GMT -5
I have very minimal expectations for Valentine's Day. I like to celebrate it as a holiday more for friends and family by sending cards and celebrate with DS by doing a few little special gifts/activities. Really all I want from H is a card. Last year he decided to up his Valentine's Day game and ordered me a few pieces of every day jewelry. There were 3 boxes and it was a matching set of love knot earrings, necklace, and bracelet. Unfortunately I already own the same earrings and necklace . I kind of felt bad for him, but then again he bought me the first set!
Gifts or celebrations haven't been his strong point in the last few years. This post is reminding me that we never did anything to celebrate my 35th birthday in December...ugh.
Well, there was last year, when H laid a massive guilt trip on me because we couldn't have sex on Valentines day, when we had a 2 week old.
Omg no. And I thought last night in my house was bad.
I had my 6 week pp apt on Wednesday and yesterday was my bday and once the baby was down last night DH was pestering me for sex. Lol no. On my birthday I prefer to sleep.
I think he was nominated for Worst Husband of the Year (single incident) by niq.
My college boyfriend forgot to make Valentine's Day reservations one year and we drove around for hours looking for a place that would even seat us. We eventually ended up at Applebee's and had what was quite possibly the worst meal of my life.
We're going out with friends tonight and to the ILs' tomorrow. V-Day fail?
I actually HATE going out on V-Day weekend because the restaurants are so crowded and the prix fixe menus are overpriced. And we're not big on gifts outside of birthdays and Christmas. So I'm easy to please for V-Day, if no other time haha.
Oh jeez, I just remembered probably one of my worst VDays ever.
I had just started dating my exBF. He called me at work and said he would meet me in the parking lot after work and he'd drive us to this place for dinner. I wasn't getting off work until 10, so I asked him if he knew whether the kitchen would still be open that late. He said, oh yeah, for sure they'll still be serving dnner.
After a little while I kept thinking about it, and decided to call the restaurant just to check if the kitchen would still be open, and sure enough, they said that no, it wouldn't. So I called him back to let him know that we needed to pick another place. He was all pissed off that I'd "doubted him" and we just quickly picked another place close by. He was pissy the whole dinner and for a while after that too; like he really thought me calling the restaurant to check was proof that I had no faith in him (when it had in fact been closed, just like I'd said it probably would be). He had issues.