My co-worker and friend just told me about a recent bachelor party that her DH went to. Apparently hookers (yes hookers, NOT strippers) were hired and one of the guys paid $800 so his friend, THE GROOM, could have sex with two of them.
Apparently some other guys who are ALSO in committed relationships hooked up with some other girls at the same bachelor party (not strippers, just random girls at the lake).
Anyways, so my friends husband was disgusted and told her everything. She's equally disgusted. The wedding is in two weeks and, of course, no one is going to tell the bride-to-be.
What I kept thinking when my co-worker was telling me this story is, "what is wrong with her husband for associating with people like this???" I'm not saying that he did anything (although it wouldn't completely shock me) but who has friends like that? Obviously they have no morals or integrity. I know I wouldn't want to hang around anyone who cheated on their fiance. That would disgust me and make me lose all respect for the person.
It also made me suspicious of her husband because, like I said, I have heard enough things about him (from her) that make me consider him a douche as well. I'm not sure that he's capable of cheating, but he's definitely not the best husband in the world.
Am I just a jaded bitch for side eyeing HIM over this?
Well he told her these things and didn't have to I guess? Or are you thinking he told her because he feels guilty for whatever he did and is placing the attention on the other guys?
Anyways your story is really gross and I can't believe no one is going to tell the bride. Do you know her?
ETA - As a bride to be in just under two months, I would want to know and not be kept in the dark.
He was so disgusted he told her or he was so disgusted he walked out?? I'm side eyeing the hell out of him. I would have a hard time, as the wife of this guy, not telling the bride to be.
Well he told her these things and didn't have to I guess? Or are you thinking he told her because he feels guilty for whatever he did and is placing the attention on the other guys?
Anyways your story is really gross and I can't believe no one is going to tell the bride. Do you know her?
ETA - As a bride to be in just under two months, I would want to know and not be kept in the dark.
I think that he told her because he was guinely appalled and it sounded like he was like "hey, here's EVERYTHING that happened so you don't hear from someone else and wonder why I didn't say anything".
I think I just side eye him in general because of their relationship woes that she's told me about, but that doesn't mean he would be capable of something like this.
I don't know these people at all. I don't even have names. She actually only told me BECAUSE I don't know them. But it still makes me sick and sad all the same.
He was so disgusted he told her or he was so disgusted he walked out?? I'm side eyeing the hell out of him. I would have a hard time, as the wife of this guy, not telling the bride to be.
Andplusalso...that's just gross.
Oh he didn't leave. I would have left right then and there. I guess they were aware of what was going on because the "pimp" started negotiations right away and took the groom up to the top of a houseboat. He said that no one could watch unless they paid or something disgusting like that. I guess her husband stayed downstairs. I would have left right then.
Blech gross. Yeah I'd wonder if the guy was disgusted and left as soon as all of this started to happen or if he hung around for the festivities and then told her about it afterwards.
Either way, all of this story makes me feel sick in my stomach.
Post by wrathofkuus on Aug 30, 2012 15:41:08 GMT -5
Okay, I was already looking sideways at him for even knowing people this assy, but he stayed at the party with the hookers and the cheating? My eyebrows are in the heavens.
But, of course, it's okay because he told his wife all about it. That makes everything you do okay, always.
Post by starburst604 on Aug 30, 2012 15:41:12 GMT -5
That's fuckin gross. If T hung out with guys that did that, I would side eye the hell out of him for it. Random question, are they young? I knew guys in my early 20's who would do that shit for fun, not for a bachelor party or anything. I am so not in favor of the "strippers" that make housecalls. You want to see some titties, go to the titty bar.
ETA: I guess it can go both ways. I have a chronically single friend who is kind of promiscuous and T grumbles a little when I hang with her even though he trusts me. BUT, she's single, not a cheater. Come to think of it I have married friends that cheat too, but I never would....errrr I don't know what to think!
Post by bullygirl979 on Aug 30, 2012 15:42:54 GMT -5
A) I agree with Kuus B) Do we know for a fact that the co-worker's DH is friends with all the other dudes there? Just playing devil's advocate but not all my bridesmaids knew each other. And I have been to bachelorette parties where I knew the bride, but not a single person in the bridal party.
A) I agree with Kuus B) Do we know for a fact that the co-worker's DH is friends with all the other dudes there? Just playing devil's advocate but not all my bridesmaids knew each other. And I have been to bachelorette parties where I knew the bride, but not a single person in the bridal party.
A) I agree with Kuus B) Do we know for a fact that the co-worker's DH is friends with all the other dudes there? Just playing devil's advocate but not all my bridesmaids knew each other. And I have been to bachelorette parties where I knew the bride, but not a single person in the bridal party.
Well I met the guy who paid for the services a few weekends ago because I went with the coworker and her DH to the local fair (we had to buy a pig for work, long story short). Anyways, all of the guys know eachother I'm almost positive. The guy I met last weekend was at their wedding with HIS GF and mother of their child. They've been together five plus years.
The groom and my co-workers husband obviously know eachother well, he's in the wedding.
One of the guys who was canoodling with the non-hookers was also at my co-workers wedding because I made out with him-NOT a proud moment but that was two years ago.
Yes, they are all very young. That's the main issue with co-worker and her husband. She is 31 and he is 25. He's incredibly immature and I was again, NOT impressed by him when I went with them to the fair.
Post by wrathofkuus on Aug 30, 2012 15:49:55 GMT -5
What in the world kind of workplace attracts these sort of people?! I could understand working with one, but more than that is a bit statistically anomalous.
What in the world kind of workplace attracts these sort of people?! I could understand working with one, but more than that is a bit statistically anomalous.
Well that's what is SO wrong with the situation. It's yet another example of how messed up my co-workers marriage is. She is a good person, and a great mom. She was one of those who was so worried about getting married and having babies that I fear she settled for this douche of a guy because she figured she would never find better.
I'm shocked that she even hangs around these people, ever. They are very different than her. In a lot of ways her story reminds me so much of me with XH, although I was far younger. I hate to say it, but I honestly cannot imagine their marriage lasting longer than a few years. They are just completely wrong for eachother.
What in the world kind of workplace attracts these sort of people?! I could understand working with one, but more than that is a bit statistically anomalous.
He was a stock guy in my department when I worked in retail during college. Bunch of people went out for drinks after work, he had some friends that met up with us and that is when I was regaled with these tales. Usually when men are willing to share sordid stories with me I will listen because I'm both fascinated and freaked out by the darker side of human nature (especially that of men). I don't imagine that he went on to become a neurosurgeon and is probably still spending his stock boy dollars on pussy for hire.
i feel so bad for the bride! i can't believe your co-worker isn't going to tell her.
Yeah back to this. Someone should tell her, even if it's an anonymous tip off. Truth is she is probably so wedding blind, she will believe whatever excuse he gives her and proceed anyway.
i feel so bad for the bride! i can't believe your co-worker isn't going to tell her.
Yeah back to this. Someone should tell her, even if it's an anonymous tip off. Truth is she is probably so wedding blind, she will believe whatever excuse he gives her and proceed anyway.
My coworker is in a meeting right now but when she gets out I'm going to encourage her to tell the bride, even if it is secretly. I feel for her because I could have been her. For all I know XH boned the strippers at his bachelor party. And people being people (or sheep, however you want to look at it) just tend to keep quiet until it all blows up later. Then it's like "oh, yes, we actually knew about that....sorry". It could save a lot of heartache if people would actually step up to the plate.
Have you posted about this coworker before and her relationship issues?? I swear I remember some dysfunction junction with her....or I'm remembering something else?!?
Have you posted about this coworker before and her relationship issues?? I swear I remember some dysfunction junction with her....or I'm remembering something else?!?
Probably. The backstory on them is he's a few years younger. When they met he was trimming weed for a living (if it can be called making a living).
She was in the mode where she needed to get married and have babies like yesterday, so that's exactly what they did. Got married, bought a house, and she got KU on the honeymoon.
Since then they've had TONS of problems. Well, they actually had a lot of problems before they got married but they proceeded anyways. Zero communication, he has hardly been in any relationships before the marriage so he doesn't know how to act, he told her that he'd rather get divorced than go to counseling even though they need it BADLY, at the company xmas party he was essentially bragging that he was collecting unemployment at the same time he was doing these shady dealings "under the table" so they were really milking the system and he was proud of it.
I know that I should side eye her for marrying him, and I do, but I just feel in my heart of hearts like she's a good person, in a terrible situation. The worst part is that they may have more children soon. Even though she's been dealing with postpartum depression since their daughter was born (she's a little over a year now) he is pressuring her to have more kids, ASAP.
I think it bothers me SO much because of how much her story reminds me of everything I went through. I just get a sick feeling about this guy, through and through.
XH's best friend cheats on all his GFs and he hangs out with people who do the same thing. No one ever says anything because they say it's none of their business, they don't want drama... yeah that's why I couldn't stand the guy. Which was an issue in our marriage since XH worships him.
If I were your coworker, I'd tell the bride anonymously. I think a lot of guys think it's ok to have sex with hookers if it's within a bachelor's party. Like it's different and doesn't really count.
XH's best friend cheats on all his GFs and he hangs out with people who do the same thing. No one ever says anything because they say it's none of their business, they don't want drama... yeah that's why I couldn't stand the guy. Which was an issue in our marriage since XH worships him.
If I were your coworker, I'd tell the bride anonymously. I think a lot of guys think it's ok to have sex with hookers if it's within a bachelor's party. Like it's different and doesn't really count.
Update: I just talked to her and she's not going to say anything, even anonymously, because she's worried it will come back to her DH. And he said he'd kill her if he found out she told anyone. I'm sure not literally but you get the drift.
Post by starburst604 on Aug 30, 2012 17:23:44 GMT -5
Ugh that really sucks. I never stop being shocked at such deceptive people. I cannot imagine banging 2 guys and then going home to my loving, trusting partner and smiling in his face. Makes me sick to think of it.