Oh. My. Goodness. @wot Hearing that story really amplifies the degree of how self-consumed the woman in the OP is. I cannot imagine your sweet friend reading that blog post, & hope she never accidentally stumbles across it
When I took a childbirth class before having my daughter, the instructor told us it was best not to have a plan. We went into it open to whatever needed to be done would be done. After reading this, I see why she gave that advice.
Not exactly the same, but I remember before I was even TTC, someone on fb was talking about CSection Awareness Week, and I said, truly without snark, "am I missing something? Are C-sections things that people aren't aware of? And what would thay help?" and got ripped a new one by someone who sounded a LOT like this lady.
And so I don't catch shit, the movement in question was actually about educating ppl about the overuse of CS, which is a very legitimate concern in some areas, but the tirade she unleashed was something else entirely.
There is a doctor that delivers at the hospital where I had my girls that my practice would not work with in being on call (meaning, several practices work together so when you go into labor you might end up with a doctor from a different practice if your OB is not working that day or is not on call) because the OB had an 80% C-section rate. That is crazy high.
I think women like the writer of that article need perspective. She can be disappointed that her delivery did not go the way she wanted or envisioned. That makes sense. It does not make sense to equate that with loss or to still mourn it four years later.
For the posters that said this is a disappointment not a loss, I agree 100%. I can see how the morning of a loss can take years and years and sometimes people never really get over it. As far as disappointments go, there are so many disappointments people face through life and if you can't find a way to move on, you should seek therapy.