Hang in there and keep moving forward. It's all you can do. And make sure to delegate stuff to your assy husband. Explain love languages to him and that right now you need lots of acts of service. Lots.
((Hugs)) the school should handle speech just sign off on it do the IEP and leave them to it. I had speech from kindy to 3rd and I turned out pretty awesome so don't stress about that Your H and your sister need to back the F off, you are doing great but they are grown adults and can handle this without you holding their hands.
Post by spitforspat on May 4, 2016 20:55:17 GMT -5
(((Profart))) I'm sorry you have so much on your plate. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help. I would love to mail you cookies and booze and a life size Jon Snow pillow.
I'm so sorry you have so much to deal with right now. Your situation reminds me of that book, When Bad Things Happen to Good People. You're good people. Taking care of so many others. Try to do something special for yourself. Easier said than done, I know. (((Hugs)))
Post by flamingeaux on May 4, 2016 21:20:36 GMT -5
Huge gigantic hugs. Is L in private or public school? If she's in public, talk to her teacher or your school's lead sped teacher about seeing if she can get evaluated to get speech therapy at school. You're a great mom with a lot on your plate. Do what you can, when you can, and everything else can fuck off.
Animation? No. He needs to get his shit together like yesterday. This is not how adulting works.
Take this barely hanging on feeling and turn it in to anger. Anger that you do everything yourself, youre the main bread winner, you take care of the kids, the house, have a job, and pay the bills. YOU DO FUCKING EVERYTHING! What does he do?
and your sister- just no.
Its time to tell some key people in your life to Fuck off and not worry about how it makes them feel. Get mad, say fuck off, and then dont worry about them.
Dont spend any patience on them, save it for your kids. Use the shit out of an ipad or tv for a while if thats what you need for them. Order pizza in, get frozen lasagna, escape for coffee by yourself- and know that we have your back. Hugs lady.
All of this, but especially the bolded. The fuck? No dude.
So turn the whole apple cart over and fix it. What you're doing now isn't working. Please please please draw from your frustrations and take charge for you and your kids.
That is just all too much for one person to handle on their own. I am so pissed off for you that your H can't even manage to stand up and be a partner. You should not have to bear the load all on your own.
Dude. Dude dude dude. One, I will tell goddammit Stephanie to fuck right off with her bullshit about needing to be the center of attention. Fuck her.
Your H, man. Like I said, you'll get to that point. In the meantime, vent it out.
Can you look into CORA for Lucy?
You say the word and we'll go back for diabeetus French toast and pedicures. Seriously, any time you want. My treat.
omg did you guys go to that place with the creme brulee french toast? because I almost died.
No, we went to a place with pound cake French toast. Pound cake. I'm still gonna get over to Green Eggs, though. I saw the chef the other week and told him about your reaction, and he laughed and said "good, that's what I aim for!"
In moments of totally overwhelming crisis that are probably not short term, I think it can be helpful to sit down and say "what are the 3-5 most important things that I need to care about for the next 365 days?" Honestly, my kid's spelling would not be on that list, but only you can decide what your list is. Mark the date a year from now on your calendar and every time you feel overwhelmed consider whether the issue is on your list of things to care about. If it isn't, then try to completely push it aside.
In your situation, my list might look something like the following (but your list might be different).
1. Spending QT with my mom. 2. Finding a way to separate my finances so that I am not responsible for any debt my husband might incur starting today. 3. Decide what model I want to show my daughters for their future relationships. 4. Decide if I want to stay married to this man.
I think Eagles' "cut his head off and drive around with it on your antenna" plan is sounding better every day. And maybe you can hang one of Stephanie's ears from your rearview mirror or something, while you're at it.
^Probably officially the creepiest sentences I've ever typed, sorry.