DD was in our room (and in our bed) until 8 months when we sleep trained.
DS is 6 months and sleeps in his crib in our room. I would like to move him to his own room but the drywall is still all torn apart because our house is terrible. We will move him as soon as we can get things fixed. At this rate he will probably be over a year.
I've never seen the 1-year recommendation. We room shared with DD for four months. I wanted to get her out of the RNP and into her crib before we had to stop swaddling. We'll probably do something similar with #2.
Post by awkwardpenguin on Aug 4, 2016 11:42:03 GMT -5
I thought the recommendation was 6 months too, but I can't find an actual timeframe in the AAP recommendations, and the recommendations in general apply to babies "up to 1 year of age".
Anyway, we room shared until just shy of 6 months.
We all slept in the living room (the babies in RNPs for a week and a half. Then they moved into their own room. I did sleep in the glider for half the night for about 6 weeks.
Post by carolinagirl831 on Aug 4, 2016 11:51:27 GMT -5
we only did 3 months with DD 1 and 5 months with DD2. They both slept so much better and woke up much less once sleeping in their own rooms vs the crib.
I must admit, I don't really understand how this helps for SIDS anyway.
Well, considering we don't know much about the mechanisms of SIDS, it's not surprising we don't know why it's protective, but it is. It reduces the risk of SIDS by as much as 50%.
Post by starburst604 on Aug 4, 2016 11:58:43 GMT -5
Newp. We did until 8 weeks. One evening in the middle of one of her 3-4 hour long nightly screaming sessions, I was rocking her in her nursery and I had to pee. I figured she was screaming no matter what so I put her down in her crib for the first time ever. When I came back a few minutes later she was out cold. I tiptoed out, and the rest is history.
We did for 3, 3.5 months, then she was getting too long for the bassinet, so we moved to the crib. We still co-slept part of the night/early am for a couple months after that though.
I must admit, I don't really understand how this helps for SIDS anyway.
Well, considering we don't know much about the mechanisms of SIDS, it's not surprising we don't know why it's protective, but it is. It reduces the risk of SIDS by as much as 50%.
what she said. my assumption is so you can hear any changes in the baby's breathing?
I must admit, I don't really understand how this helps for SIDS anyway.
Well, considering we don't know much about the mechanisms of SIDS, it's not surprising we don't know why it's protective, but it is. It reduces the risk of SIDS by as much as 50%.
I also wish they wouldn't quote things like -50% without giving the actual base numbers. In my job, that's how I make a tiny number appear important, by just quoting a percent change and avoiding the actual base.
I just read that a ceiling fan can account for a similar drop. I imagine that getting good prenatal care, non smoking homes, air circulation, are all adding up in ways that are not fully understood.
I feel like it puts pressure on certain behaviors and could cause unnecessary guilt trips for parents.
Both of mine went straight to their cribs. I am an extremely light sleeper and we tried having ds1 in our room for all of 4 hours. I couldn't sleep because I was lying awake listening to him breathe. For whatever reason having him right there was worse for my anxiety. We have a good video monitor and I just walked to their rooms to nurse in the night.
Wow, that is a long time. DS1 slept in our room until about 7 months. Ds2 got kicked out at 2 months because he grunted constantly and even though he sttn we were losing our minds.
Well, considering we don't know much about the mechanisms of SIDS, it's not surprising we don't know why it's protective, but it is. It reduces the risk of SIDS by as much as 50%.
I also wish they wouldn't quote things like -50% without giving the actual base numbers. In my job, that's how I make a tiny number appear important, by just quoting a percent change and avoiding the actual base.
I just read that a ceiling fan can account for a similar drop. I imagine that getting good prenatal care, non smoking homes, air circulation, are all adding up in ways that are not fully understood.
I feel like it puts pressure on certain behaviors and could cause unnecessary guilt trips for parents.
And when I'm asleep, I don't hear anything!
The AAP cites 4 studies that support roomsharing without bedsharing. I haven't read the full text of them all, but any reasonably sound paper on SIDS would control for prenatal care and smoking in the household along with other factors.
The absolute risk of SIDS is small (about 1 per 3000 live births), but it is the leading cause of death for infants 1 month to 1 year. Far more babies die from SIDS than die in car accidents (1545 SIDS deaths vs. 61 car accident deaths for children under 1 in 2014), and yet we accept car seats as a routine safety measure even though they "only" reduce the risk of death from car accidents by 71%. I think it's incredibly important that recommendations about child safety are based on evidence of what works, even if it's not popular or preferred by most parents. I think this thread shows that people's choices about roomsharing are not being influenced much by either the recs or guilt.
I thought it was because the baby hears you, not the other way around. Like if they are in a room with complete silence that is less good than if they are in a room with breathing. But, wouldn't white noise also work...
I think with my daughter we had her with us for 3 months. Then with my son, 5 months but that was because we have a 2 bed house and he was a bad sleeper. Even at 5 months he woke up all the time but I couldn't stand him in my room any more
We did it for 8 months. Val slept in a cradle at the side of the bed for about 5 months, then moved to his crib at the foot of our bed once he could sit up around 5.5 months. His sleep fell apart shortly after that, either because of some developmental milestone or eating solid foods? It didn't get better until he was in his own room. If that happens with #2 I suspect we'll move him/her earlier, or at least put the crib on the other side of the room.
No. Each of my children slept in our room until they outgrew the ARCo-sleeper, around 4-ish months.
I feel darned lucky that we have enough space in our apartment to not room share for the long haul. I have many friends who still share a room with kids my DD's age (8) due to lack of space. Now THAT seems like an awfully long time.
ETA: DD bedshared with us when sick or teething until she was about 4, but not every night. DS loathes sharing a bed with anyone and hasn't done it since we were traveling last summer (he was 11 months old at the time).
I thought it was because the baby hears you, not the other way around. Like if they are in a room with complete silence that is less good than if they are in a room with breathing. But, wouldn't white noise also work...
I think with my daughter we had her with us for 3 months. Then with my son, 5 months but that was because we have a 2 bed house and he was a bad sleeper. Even at 5 months he woke up all the time but I couldn't stand him in my room any more
I thought/assumed it was the same. Like, she mimics my breathing pattern because she's in the PnP next to me.
DS1 - bed shared until he was 2. Terrible terrible sleeper. Didn't STTN until he was 2.5 DS2 - bed shared until 12 months. Moved him to a crib and bedroom right after. DS3- bed shared until 12 months and then moved him to a crib and bedroom just like DS2.
If I had another baby I would bed share until 6 months and then try to night wean and move them to a crib and another room.