Randoms, vents, plans for the day? What's on your mind?
My mom is coming over to help me clean this morning. I got really behind since I haven't been feeling great. Looking forward to the house being in better order for the weekend.
Post by HoneySpider on Aug 26, 2016 8:19:21 GMT -5
We're taking R for his photos otherwise no real plans. I've been so distracted this week that it's hard to get work done and I really have to do some grading.
I have been getting so many random telemarketing type calls lately, I guess my phone number is somehow getting circulated. It's so annoying.
My parents come to town tonight. I'll go grocery shopping before they get here. Tomorrow, my Dad and I go to the fair. Tomorrow NIGHT,DH and I will go celebrate our anniversary. Sunday, I really need to go get my jewelry checked. Hoping I can make that happen.
Can't wait to see pics HoneySpider! We couldn't afford them with G but I really want to do them this time around. Of course I feel guilty already about doing them for #2 but not #1. We'll see if it happens.
My husband has been gone every night this week except our double date which was obviously not private, so we haven't talked in like a week. We have so many important thing to talk about and decide and I am SO frustrated that there is never time unless it's like 1am.
Also we were supposed to do our bathroom labor day weekend which is the third time we've re scheduled. He refuses to go order anything so I don't know if it's possible. Again.
amaranth I am excited for your reno because I want to see before/after pics! Since I've done it now (three bathrooms!) I completely understand the work involved and the satisfaction when it's done. I hope it works out.
Post by estrellita on Aug 26, 2016 10:04:25 GMT -5
I just walked into the break room at work and the TV is off! This makes me happy because it's always tuned in to Fox News and I leave the break room angry every time, haha.
We are going to my parents tonight for the weekend. We're going to take E on rides tomorrow! Should be fun
Well my ENT appointment was productive. I have a nasty sinus infection, and it caused a 30-40dB hearing loss. My word recognition dropped from 100% at my last test, to 50% today. I'm going to be on a bunch of meds, and retest my hearing in 2 weeks.
I've been cooking all morning for tonight. We have a standby for medical at the fair all weekend. I'm cooking dinner tonight and Sunday. Trying to be a good chief's wife I guess lol.
We skipped the park today because it's really humid outside. FIL was mowing our yard the other night when I came home from church, so that's one less chore for H this weekend.
DS is spending the night at the IL's so we're just going to try to get more house stuff done tomorrow.
pooh8402 Sinus infections are of the devil. I can't decide if I'm having super terrible allergies or another sinus infection right now. The doc won't check for the infection until 14 days of discolored "stuff." Super annoying.
pooh8402 Sinus infections are of the devil. I can't decide if I'm having super terrible allergies or another sinus infection right now. The doc won't check for the infection until 14 days of discolored "stuff." Super annoying.
Yea, usually it's just allergies for me. I haven't had a sinus infection in... 12 years. But I was in having my ears checked, and he looked in my nose and throat while we're looking at stuff, and said I've got a bunch of nastiness up in there, ha.
I just ordered from LLR for the first time, and I'm super excited.
Also, work has been crazy busy so I've been kind of MIA from the board for the past few days. I feel a little guilty that I'm posting here before going through and reading all of the threads I've missed. I'm trying to catch up!
Post by estrellita on Aug 26, 2016 11:27:52 GMT -5
Fuck. H just told me he started smoking again a few months ago and has been hiding it on his credit card. Seriously. I don't know what to do. Why the hell does he think he can lie to me like this? Ugh I'm in the bathroom at work bawling my eyes out. Idk what to do.
((estrellita)) I'm sorry, I would be pretty hurt and angry that he hid that for so long. Did he say that he wants to quit again?
I don't know. I asked him today why he keeps buying breakfast at the gas station when we have food and then asked if he's been putting anything on the CC and that's how it came out. I knew I couldn't trust him with that CC. I sure as hell hope he hasn't racked that up now to add on to our debt. Fuck. I'm so pissed off right now. I can't trust him and he's made it obvious I'm not worth the truth.
estrellita I'm sorry . I would feel the same. Hopefully the amount on the CC is not too high and you can pay it off soon. Was he at least remorseful about this?
estrellita I'm sorry . I would feel the same. Hopefully the amount on the CC is not too high and you can pay it off soon. Was he at least remorseful about this?
It's $950. Fucking seriously. Ugh!!! Are we going to just pull that out of our asses? I can't even tell if he gives a shit. We've been texting because we're both at work. I'm leaving early and I think I'm just going to pack up, get E, and go to my parents for the weekend without him.
Oh man, that's a lot. It's especially bad because you guys have been really trying to budget and save. After I calmed down, I'd insist on working on a plan for him to quit, and I'd have him come up with a strategy for paying back the balance. If that means he eats pb&j for lunch for 3 months, then that's what it will be.
How did he quit smoking last time? Has he been feeling stressed or depressed lately, something that would push him toward smoking again?
Oh man, that's a lot. It's especially bad because you guys have been really trying to budget and save. After I calmed down, I'd insist on working on a plan for him to quit, and I'd have him come up with a strategy for paying back the balance. If that means he eats pb&j for lunch for 3 months, then that's what it will be.
How did he quit smoking last time? Has he been feeling stressed or depressed lately, something that would push him toward smoking again?
He quit pretty much cold turkey last time. I've been working on getting him to stop buying food which is why I was on his case today about it. He said he started again mostly because I'm not affectionate enough. Because that makes sense. I told him if he cares at all, he can find us counseling because I'm done trying.
What the fuck did I do to deserve this shit? Seriously.
estrellita Hugs, you don't deserve that, and it was a really low blow for him to blame you. It's not your fault. There are better ways to cope with stress, and if he was having an issue with something he should have communicated with you (easy to say, harder to do sometimes). Counseling sounds like a good idea to work this out and rebuild some trust. I hope he does find a counselor. He really needs to show some remorse, take responsibility for his actions, and not pin all the blame on you. It's totally unfair.
Oh estrellita I'm so sorry. I think counseling could be a good idea. That lost of trust is going to take some time to work on. So many hugs. Maybe it would be good for you and E to get away this weekend and try to have some fun.
(((estrellita))) So many hugs. I think counseling sounds like a really great idea. I think that will get both of you talking in a positive setting. Getting away this weekend I think will be really good for you and E. My husband and I had a money/trust issue our first year of marriage too. It took us a little time to work through but we got there. Sometimes I get nervous still, but after talking and continuing to talk about our scenario it got a lot better. If you ever want to chat let me know! Huge hugs, I hope this weekend gives you some much needed clarity <3
I worked all morning, then ran a crap load of errands. Husband is leaving soon to have a game night an hour away. I guess some guys are carpooling there.... I finally have a night off that I was hoping we could date but it turns out I'll be by myself all evening. I guess I could use some alone time, be positive Travelbug lol!
Hubs had yesterday, today and now tomorrow off work. I'm SO jealous!! At least he's doing the dishes before he leaves. He will for sure have a nice Honey-Do list tomorrow ha!
Oh *@freckles* I am so sorry. I'd feel absolutely betrayed and crushed. Definitely go to your parents. He needs time to reflect. Big time mistake.
This may be dumb, but I know there are increasingly more forms of addiction diagnosed as a true mental concern. Do you think he can't control his spending and it just "happens" so he hides it? There may be help for him if he's willing to accept it. Obviously the smoking is a secondary issue.
*huge hugs* I think travelbug would be able to help a lot if you do ever need to talk it out further.
Post by estrellita on Aug 26, 2016 15:28:54 GMT -5
amaranth he definitely has issues with spending which is why we've had issues with this in the past. He knows he shouldn't be spending the money so he hides it like a child. I just can't believe he racked it up so much. Ugh.
amaranth- I feel you, being away from your H is hard. Can you talk on the phone at some point so that you can at least talk about stuff.
suzv- this heat is effecting more a lot more then normal and it's horrible. I will survive the next few months until it is cooler again.
pooh8402- I hope the meds help and you feel better soon.
estrellita- I'm so sorry Hun. I would be pissed, not just because of money but also health reasons. I think going to your parents for the weekend is a great idea, and defiantly tell him you need some time alone.
I hope he realizes how hurtful this is and he figures out counseling stat.
I commuted back to work last night and so far today hasn't been so bad.
I just got a text from MIL that DHs uncle, MILs sisters H, is likely not going to make it through the weekend. (He has brain cancer, was given 3-6 months last dec. so he is well passed his time.) I am sad. His aunt isn't holding together well. I wish I could be there, hopefully I will be able to get time off for the funeral.